Scooby96

Thats not a Scottish saying at all - a single bloke thing IMO!

Too true - there aren't many people who are in a 'conventional' relationship that still have GREAT sex EVERY night!

I think it would be fair to say that neither 'way of life' is right or wrong!

boxst

Hello

Even the Sun is talking about it http://www.thesun.co.uk/article/0,,5-2003391352,00.html.

Scooby96: You trend follower / setter you!

Steve.

Scooby96

Well one does like to be ahead of the game.

However - that article sounds like a load of tosh!

tonybooth

Scooby96

Have you looked at www.swingingheaven.co.uk Its a free site and if you narrow your search by only displaying ads with photos you can get an idea

Cheers

TONY
(Fascinated, but not interested)

unclebuck

LOL Alan Partridge tonight was fairly pertinent to the swinger thang.

UB

DRUNKNORGY

I may be a bit naive here, but you talk about using protection with this swinging, and I appreciate the guys will, but if thats the case, it doesnt stop the wimmin who are partaking in this from picking up transmitted diseases from other wimmn is there ?

Scooby96

2 x femmedoms dont work IMHO so yes there is a risk!

DRUNKNORGY

I was thinking more about the risks associated with 'Carpet Munching' and STDs

Franko

Its ALL sad and WRONG.. whats the world coming to eh??? can't we find someone we can love and be with for the rest of our lives.. does the word loyalty mean anything??? personaly i think all of this is DISCUSTING !!!

Scooby96

Franko - I entirely respect your view, however fully consenting sex between my partner and a third party is not being disloyal. I have someone I really love with the added bonus that I get to have threesomes with my lady and another lady of mine or her choosing.

I think 99.9% of men would never say no to a threesome with 2 ladies - I just get them more regularly then the average guy!

Personally I think its disloyal to go out on a friday night and chat women up with the lady sat at home. I dont feel the need to do this but I know a few of my mates who are in conventional relationships do, again thats their choice and entirely up to them!

DRUNKNORGY

I wouldnt say its disgusting personally and is a lifestyle choice, it is after all between consenting adults, but it does have a multitude of risks attached which must be considered. I think its sad that the relationship is so shallow that swinging seems the only route to a satisfactory sexual relationship.

Scooby96

So you're saying my realtionship is shallow - you dont know me or my g/f so thats a slightly bigotted view IMO.

Its just as risky as sleeping with 10, 20, 30 women and being single!

DRUNKNORGY

LOL, I feel that the relationship is shallow, not that you are as a person (don't be so touchy ), you have already said that it was 2nd time around, were you swinging on the 1st pass?, and truthfully, did it contribute to the original split if this was the case.
I can't honnestly believe that it wouldn't damage a relationship eventually (Human nature being what it is)

TelBoy

Scoob96, i'll bet my bottom penny you've got more going on with regards to this whole thing than you're letting on. I'll wager it isn't a simple case of "Do you fancy a threesome next Friday dear?" I reckon there's history, some sort of background which would shed a lot more light on this. Am i wrong?

Scooby96

Did you read my post regarding me and the g/f now being back together properly??? I think not!

To save you trawling the 13 pages:

"It was something we had both talked about for along then we both split up for a while (long story but nothing to do with swinging)"

Also I didnt say that you said my g/f or I were shallow. My relationship is not shallow in the slightest. We share a mutual interest!

weapon69

Scooby96 I respect your view, but as a female, i really cannot understand how she could let you go off with someone else or join in or whatever Maybe its just me, but the thought of my bf going with someone else then coming back to me just turns my stomach. I wouldn't be able to go off with another bloke. The whole mentality of it is just odd to me.

sexy wrx69

same here weapon.

but each to their own. i mean theyre not hurting anyone by doing this and they seem to be really enjoying it. so why the hell not????


i think its a matter of what your values are about a relationship.
Scooby96 was saying earlier how at least his girlf knows what hes up to and that hes not out trying to chat up other women....but im in a relationship and i dont go out chatting up guys when im out - as im sure Stealth doesnt chat up women when hes out - because we are both content with what we've got. we dont need to go looking elsewhere for some action or to make ourselves feel more attractive.

however..in a strange way i kinda admire people who swing and still maintain a loving solid relationship with their partner. They must have a strength within them that i could never understand.

weapon69

But what happens if one wants it to stop and the other thinks its fine to carry on?

TurboKitty

I don't think that view is necessarily down to your being female weapon69. I'm also female and I wouldn't mind seeing my partner with someone else. I wouldn't want him sneaking around behind my back doing it, but with my knowledge, I don't see why not. Of course, the same rules would also have to apply to me.

And for those of you saying what about if he meets someone else and goes off with them, if it's going to happen, it's going to happen anyway.

As far as I can see, it's about trust. Relationships can become stagnant and routine all too easily, and this is one way of keeping things interesting. It's also a chance to learn new things, which also may help your relationship.

As long as I knew my partner was coming home with me at the end of the night, I wouldn't have any problems seeing him with someone else.

TurboKitty

Then they should stop. This should be a mutual decision, without pressure from either party.

sexy wrx69

one question tho...and i know its a long shot since protection is always used...


but what would happen if missus got pregnant or hubby got someone pregnant at one of these swinging dos?????


i only ask because it was a topic on Holby City the other week
and we all know that no protection is 100% safe!!

weapon69

LOL Holby City

TK what i meant about saying i was female is that GENERALLY women are more emotional than blokes. And its a fairly emotive subject, its just cheating with permission

TurboKitty

If it's with permission, how can it be cheating?

weapon69

Well whats the point of going out with/being married to someone if all you want to do is **** other people?

Seems like a waste of time.

TurboKitty

Is a relationship just about sex to you then?

I'd say there is (at least, should be), much more to it than that, and that's the point of the relationship. Swinging doesn't detract from the other things a relationship can provide.

DRUNKNORGY

I think unless there is something between two people (chemistry), then its just 'Banging' for the sake of it. In a long term relationship, Sex is going to do one of two things. Its going to improve or its going to fizzle out. Perhaps those who do feel the need to swing do so because 'The earth just doesn't move for them'. If this is the case then they will need to spice up this area, its just a shame that they need to bring an outsider into this very intimate part of a relationship to 'put things right'

Just IMO

Scooby96

sexywrx69

My missus wouldnt get pregnant by anyone other than myself as we go for threesomes with women

Telboy

I do have to say you are wrong - theres no history to this swinging thing at all - its something we had talked about for a long time and we only got into quite recently.


Weapon69

I dont go off with other women - my gf is always there - thats rule #1 - neither of us disappear with someone else.

And if one of us wants to stop then we stop - rule #2!

TelBoy

Fair enough. If it's a level-headed, considered and un-pressured joint decision then i don't see an issue, although as others have said the feelings of jealousy must be hard for your g/f to avoid, if she really *does* care about you, i would have thought.

Diablo

No wonder you don't have a problem with it

D

Scooby96

Cant control what she wants - just happens to be what I like too!