Scooby96

Yeah yeah - it seems to me that B20 has his head screwed on!

Anyway I'm off home now and remember:

ITS NOT OK TO REPLY TO A TEXT FROM YOUR EX AT ANY TIME - ESPECIALLY AFTER 11PM OK!

POC

I know too!!! thats 3 of us!

Dazzler

Still good friends with my ex, 2 years after we split from being together 9 years and living together for at least 7 of those.

It does depend on how you split, how much you love the person for who they are and what they mean to you. I don't have ulterior motives of wanting to sh@g her either.

I know that my ex has a hell of a lot of fine qualities that make me want to keep our friendship going. We just knew that our relationship had run it's course.

Who knows, maybe I'm a soft-**** or maybe the friendship will just drift apart in time to come, but so far I can say in this particular instance, yes you can be friends.

Neverguess

It depends on how they treated you!

It is very easy if your both adults and one doesn't decide to play mind games, which unfortunatley tends to be the case as I have found out now.

Are they worth the effort to stay friends.....not in my case.

Neverguess

The only problems I have had staying friends is with the people who are too immature to realise how great an adult relationship really is. They generally have issues with themselves they need to sort.

Anyone else who agrees it has just run its course and that life moves on is still a major part of my life. Even been to one ex's wedding!!!

weapon69

The ex's that are in contact with me are the ones where our relationship was a casual thing and we both knew that. Keeping in touch (well replying) to them seemed no big deal as they know im in a serious relationship and it would be totally pointless in getting flirty again. The ones i don't want to speak to anymore are the 'serious' ones, whereas one of them is not getting the message that i don't have any intention of getting back with him EVER and i really don't like saying 'look **** off!'.

ProperCharlie

to be serious for 2 seconds, i do keep in touch with one of my exs, but only about once every six months. i object to *anyone* phoning or texting or ringing on the doorbell or hassling me in any way whatsoever after 10. i think the at the very least W69 should ask her "friend" to keep his communications to a more normal time of day.

StickyMicky

there is a lad who has tried to get into my current bird for years, ive seen him in the pub a few times when we have nipped in for a drink or sumthing but i hardley ever see him about

the annoying thing is that hes now decieded hes still after her, he rings her and askes her to go round and stuff, now she politley told him to **** off and he backed of for a few weeks, now 2 weeks ago he sent sum right dirrrty texts to her, which she saved and showed to me, she never replied as she doesnt want anything todo with him

now i kinda kept my cool over the innitial "trying to get into her" as she and him have been friends for far longer then i have been on the scene, but the latest **** to hit the fan really ****en wund me up

so im going to knock him the **** out the next time i see him
will feel better after this, its been building for 2 weeks now

anyways, although i wanted to saty mates with my old ex`s it just isnt gonna happen as things are to "wierd", you see them in the pub or sumthing and you just dont know what to say and stuff, so i thought "**** it there all snakes-with-****"

jods

No way.

Move on.

Lois

I am good friends with one ex he is a very close friend even my best friend...but I have to say one I would never speak to again after the lies and hurt..not doing details either
My current partner does not seem to have a problem with me being friends with my ex..unless he does but is not telling me,but then its not like I am on the phone to him all the time or owt!

Fatman

No. The healthiest option is as clean a break as possible. Move on.

Markus

oooh bit of Deja Vu there Lois!

Lois

I moved on and because of moving on was able to get my best friend back.shame I had to meet a bar steward in between those two events though!

Lois

lol true sharky

ScottyScoob

I finished with my g/f of 3 years in dec last year , weve been great friends since, Still do our own thing but if im not working when she`s off work we always meet up for lunch. She still comes down to mine when im on back shift and walks and feeds my dog and sometimes stays over. Sometimes i feel we get on better and talk more.

for a few months after we finished we did have casual sex, but i put a stop to it because sometimes it was quite akward afterwards.

Squizz

An ex of mine was clearly going through a bad patch a while ago, so as we were still friendly, I helped her out...

...Introduced her to one of my mates, and they're now happily married and are some of our closest friends.

My wife was interested to hear the whole story, but has no problems being best mates with an ex-lover of mine!!

matt.bowey

only till the settlement is finalised!! or a discrete $hag!

XT

I never was a friend with any of my x-girlfriends, I believe that i good relationship could start from a friendship but a friendship cannot start after a relationship. Especially with my last g/f who i had been with for 3 years, although i want like nothing else to speak to her a lot(and this means friendship) it just hurts so much seeing her and not being with her...

Luke

get on well with my Ex.. My wife and her go out to Exibitions etc. You can loose the relationship but why the friendship. We where Lucky..it was heated at th eend mut not mucky

Mice_Elf

One of my break ups was particularly messy - house etc and we refused to talk to each other for a long time. Then out of the blue he rang me up whilst at work one day and we got chatting.

The job wasn't brilliant so I was having a bit of a hard time. He took it upon himself to ring me every day when he got in from Night Shift and we'd spend an hour or so on the phone to each other talking about every day things. Nothing else involved. He really helped me through that job.

Never saw each other, even though we were only (at most) 11 miles apart. Don't see him now, or text, talk, email or anything, but it's nice to know that there is no animosity there now.

jody

hmmmmmmm i dont know on this one. My most recent ex I still talk to every now and then, just because the relationship didnt work out doesnt mean i dont care as a friend

Some ex's are just a-holes and should be stayed away from IMHO!!!