Any reasons to get married?
06 January 2004, 02:45 PM
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I always disliked the idea of getting married - thought it was basically a bit ego trip:
"oooh - who are we gonna invite?"
"oooh - what will i look like in a silly white dress?"
there's loads of hypocricy in it - how many peoole have got married in church when they don't set foot in one from one year to the next?
how many people have you seen speaking their wedding vows when you know full well they have or will cheat on their partner?
over the years i have mellowed out on the subject, a bit. but when we get married it will be a simple civil ceremony followed by a good **** up for friends and family. one of the best weddings i went to was at Bow Registry, followed by a curry at Naz Rul in Brick Lane. That's a lot more honest, IMO.
"oooh - who are we gonna invite?"
"oooh - what will i look like in a silly white dress?"
there's loads of hypocricy in it - how many peoole have got married in church when they don't set foot in one from one year to the next?
how many people have you seen speaking their wedding vows when you know full well they have or will cheat on their partner?
over the years i have mellowed out on the subject, a bit. but when we get married it will be a simple civil ceremony followed by a good **** up for friends and family. one of the best weddings i went to was at Bow Registry, followed by a curry at Naz Rul in Brick Lane. That's a lot more honest, IMO.
06 January 2004, 02:51 PM
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PC - that sounds like an ideal wedding, nice and simple, followed by a good ol pish up and a ruby. And all the money saved on the wedding can go on either beer at the curry house, or a honeymoon 
06 January 2004, 02:55 PM
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You could just exchange rings in front of friends and family, without the reg office bit. Celtic gold bands engraved with both your names in Gaelic is the way I'd go, then on to the massive **** up 
06 January 2004, 02:55 PM
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There's those specs again. I did just the same, had no want at all to get married until she announced she was pregnant and constantly reminded me of the "unit" benefits.
Married 7 years and been apart 2, seen my daughter 4 times in 2 years for less than 20 minutes at a time.
Children only add to complicating things. Going your separate ways without the mutual love for children would be so much easier.
Your so-called rights are a joke, believe me.
i would say the main reason to get married is if kids are involved. I have been with my girl for 7 years, we are only getting married now there is a little un on the way. it just makes everything a lot less complicated (and gives me proper rights, too )
Married 7 years and been apart 2, seen my daughter 4 times in 2 years for less than 20 minutes at a time.
Children only add to complicating things. Going your separate ways without the mutual love for children would be so much easier.
Your so-called rights are a joke, believe me.
06 January 2004, 03:00 PM
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Spoon the thing is though with out getting married fathers really do have literally no rights 
[img]images/smilies/mad.gif[/img] If someone said to me was your marriage worth it, even with everything she did to me and how much it cost me I would say yes because it gave me a legal say on my son, which to me is more important than any possesion or amount of cash on the face of this planet.
[img]images/smilies/mad.gif[/img] If someone said to me was your marriage worth it, even with everything she did to me and how much it cost me I would say yes because it gave me a legal say on my son, which to me is more important than any possesion or amount of cash on the face of this planet.
06 January 2004, 03:06 PM
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Spoon - i see what you are saying but things are (hopefully!) a bit different, as i was the one that wanted to start a family, and the marriage idea was kind of mutually concieved. i know that things can go wrong (i've seen it hundreds of times), but i am fairly optomisitic about our prospects, otherwise i wouldn't be having a kid.
06 January 2004, 03:16 PM
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well if it all goes t*ts up; i think her (younger 
) sister quite likes me.
(i really hope she hasn't started reading SN, now that she's on mateernity leave. It was just a joke, ok love?)
) sister quite likes me.(i really hope she hasn't started reading SN, now that she's on mateernity leave. It was just a joke, ok love?)
06 January 2004, 03:16 PM
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Maybe some of you should read http://www.ukmm.org.uk to see some of the 'justices' done to married men in relation to custody etc.
When my parents divorced, I lived with my Dad. That was rare let me assure you. I am in no fluff fairy land with my marriage.
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When my parents divorced, I lived with my Dad. That was rare let me assure you. I am in no fluff fairy land with my marriage.
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06 January 2004, 03:35 PM
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Whats all this sex on tap? I thought that was the first thing to go? Thats one of the reasons I've remained single, shallow get that I am, so if it did dry up I could tap another source (so to speak). You mean there are people who have been married for years and still go at it like bunnies? How do you married guys kerb the I want multiple partners syndrome that seems to affect us males?
Crikey.
Crikey.
06 January 2004, 03:51 PM
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I meant having to horizontally jog exclusively with the same person forever is a bit scary. Wasnt suggesting having a harem on the go (although...). Im a bit of a serial monogamist myself. I was under the impression the majority of blokes worked that way. Ooops.
I'll get me coat.
I'll get me coat.
06 January 2004, 03:55 PM
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How do you married guys kerb the I want multiple partners syndrome that seems to affect us males?
We can't change 4.5 million year of evolution overnight
06 January 2004, 04:02 PM
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SiPie - sorry it was not a slur on you that you sold your scoob for a better life, its just that I have given up far more and lost out in the past, maybe I am just a tad bitter now
Gave away too much that was special to me to keep other people happy and ended up having to start again and much the poorer.
Have worked hard to get my car and am possibly far too bitter to sell it at the moment.
Gave away too much that was special to me to keep other people happy and ended up having to start again and much the poorer.
Have worked hard to get my car and am possibly far too bitter to sell it at the moment.
06 January 2004, 04:05 PM
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NOT MY PERSONAL OPINION (Honest Babe!)
Its like a toy.
When you first see it, you want it really badly.
Then you get it.
You play with it every day and it starts to wear out.
Then the toy becomes yesterdays news - all your mates have new ones.
Your toy suddenly seems crap compared to the new ones out.
UPGRADE TIME
Damo
Edited because married life has sozzled my noggin
[Edited by damian666 - 1/6/2004 4:05:55 PM]
Its like a toy.
When you first see it, you want it really badly.
Then you get it.
You play with it every day
and it starts to wear out.Then the toy becomes yesterdays news - all your mates have new ones.
Your toy suddenly seems crap compared to the new ones out.
UPGRADE TIME
Damo
Edited because married life has sozzled my noggin
[Edited by damian666 - 1/6/2004 4:05:55 PM]
06 January 2004, 04:07 PM
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Sort of. The longest relationship I had lasted 4 years and we lived together. I thought she was gorgeous so it was good for 3 years and then she went off the boil for a reason I couldnt fathom. I thought this was a bit unfair as to satisfy needs I would have to be unfaithful which she wouldnt wear so it was a bit catch 22. We struggled on for a year too long b4 calling it quits.
Nowdays I dont like getting too involved as a defence mechanism I guess and when I get bored I tend to just cry 'next'. Alot of it seems to be the thrill of the chase I spose. When it all settles down I get a bit fidgety.
A sad, lonely old existence for me then I guess!
Nowdays I dont like getting too involved as a defence mechanism I guess and when I get bored I tend to just cry 'next'. Alot of it seems to be the thrill of the chase I spose. When it all settles down I get a bit fidgety.
A sad, lonely old existence for me then I guess!