Jay m A

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Ah, bless

LOL

thundertiger

jay, shes french, lol.

and i'm patient....

BB

LG John

Are you my girlfriend???

This is EXACTLY what she is like!!! Once she made some lasagne and had slaved away for ages to do it but got distracted and ballsed it up. It ended up being quite runny but nevertheless we ate it, had a wee laugh and joke about it and I thanked her for taking the time. Despite this reaction (i.e me being totally cool about it) to her 'actually' screwing up she'd still worry herself sick if she was making something for me tonight.

No, she can get quite vocal but then often says, 'sorry' (wtf??) afterwards I just smile and nail her again .....which answers the 2nd question

milo

so wait.. let me just get this straight... you've got a girl who will do exactly what you want, have sex with you when you want, and won't complain about stuff.. and you want to know how to change her??

LG John

LOL yeah I want her to do stuff she wants as well, I want her to be even more happy than she is now (and I know that she is very happy).

You have a massive ripped body it seems (based on what you've said) yet you push for more?......

milo

fair point.. but be careful what you wish for...

GC8

9000 posts Kenny; congratulations.

Dazza01

nice one m8 rekcon we ought to make this a STICKY so we don't lose the thread

LG John

Woo-hoo, 9k posts! Man that is sad

Scooby96

Perhaps you're crap in bed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Alas

Forget all those people who say it will get better. It won't. I've been married for 14 years and still can't get a decision out the wife.
It reaches the stage where I'll ask a question such as What car/house/expensive thing do you want to buy out of the choices we've looked at? Then I just sit and say nothing till I get an answer.
Worst one took 4 days
Alas

Spoon

Apparently girls often apologise for their blokes performance.

In the ring of fire

Kenny,

I used to go with a girl the same ............. every thing i asked i got back in return you choose with a smile & it was ok at the start but after six years it got toooooooo much, ended up finishing "ON MY GROUNDS" i think some women are just like that, though i have to admit we were getting married (i ***** it up ) & thats the only thing i wasnt allowed to arrange, well **** you i thought 3 weeks before it i done a runner , possibly the worst thing i have ever done .
There will be something that will bring her out her shell, thats your job to find it

Good Luck

mj

Maybe you have made a rod for your own back? - say the relationship started, and decision-wise you took "the lead" so to speak, perhaps she is worried that piping up will jepoardise the relationship - maybe she has no reason to, and respects your choice??

If there's nothing you are doing that annoys or antagonises her you will have a hard time getting her to speak her mind-it's not beyond the realms of possibility that she is happy with your choice in food/movies/drinks/bedroom olympics/etc, etc - she sounds like a very passive person, this is not neccessarily a bad thing, but it sounds like its not quite enough for you.

washer

wish i was that lucky

LG John

We have no problems there We're talking about saxo boy here remember

I have searched my soul to see if there is anything about me or that I'm doing that would intimidate her into silence or just following what I say and there honestly isn't. I'm as easy going as it gets especially with women and it would take something monumental for me to get angry at her. If I love someone I'll happily bend over backwards for them. I can only put it down to her being scared of something and that is probably a trait that is based on her upbringing or past experiences. Logically therefore, the solution is a long campaign of confidence building, encouragement and understanding with the odd bit of applied pressure to 'push' her along into making a decision for herself sometimes.

Failing that I'll just take the saxo bobby away until such times as she makes decisions to earn 'bobby credit'

Scooby96

You could of course introduce a new way to approach the subject of sex, perhaps text her suggestively and see if she responds.

In no time at all you'll be getting uninitiated texts asking you to rush home from work to fill her rusty hole!

Leslie

I think you are being too introspective and worrying far too much. You feel a great deal of emotion for her and that is the best thing in the first place. Just let the relationship mature and then see how it is going. Things change considerably as people get to know each other better over a longer period of time.

If it bothers you so much, just tell her that today it is her choice, you are happy with what she decides and that you refuse to make the decision yourself. She will soon get used to the idea.

Les