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17 January 2005, 12:11 AM
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Originally Posted by wwp8
woah
that is sooooo jerry maguire/ or jim carey in liar liar
it sounds like great father but bad partner
don't let her know that
otherwise she starts moaning if it wasn't for the daughter you won't go
back,
true or not true you should never tell
that is sooooo jerry maguire/ or jim carey in liar liar
it sounds like great father but bad partner
don't let her know that
otherwise she starts moaning if it wasn't for the daughter you won't go
back,
true or not true you should never tell
17 January 2005, 12:14 AM
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Originally Posted by *Sonic*
have you got a timescale of when it woudl be ready to move in, with the baby ?
Well yeah it has been a while since you took the scoob to a meet, the area can be off putting, a bit in a way like my Mum & Dads street, looks nice, but there has been guns down there recently, but Im comfortable there, because I grew up there
probably wouldnt be that cost effective to get rid of the scoob, why does she want you to get rid of it then ,if she knows you dont take it to meets etc
Well yeah it has been a while since you took the scoob to a meet, the area can be off putting, a bit in a way like my Mum & Dads street, looks nice, but there has been guns down there recently, but Im comfortable there, because I grew up there
probably wouldnt be that cost effective to get rid of the scoob, why does she want you to get rid of it then ,if she knows you dont take it to meets etc
but i did tell them to come with me, and was back to see them by 1 in the afternoon.
17 January 2005, 12:15 AM
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Maybe
but the point I was making, was more to people that dont know Julian, is that he literally couldnt stop talking about his daughter at the meets and virtually never mentioned his scoob, i didnt mean for him to tell his GF that
so why does his GF think the car comes first ?
but the point I was making, was more to people that dont know Julian, is that he literally couldnt stop talking about his daughter at the meets and virtually never mentioned his scoob, i didnt mean for him to tell his GF that
so why does his GF think the car comes first ?
Originally Posted by wwp8
woah
that is sooooo jerry maguire/ or jim carey in liar liar
it sounds like great father but bad partner
don't let her know that
otherwise she starts moaning if it wasn't for the daughter you won't go
back,
true or not true you should never tell
that is sooooo jerry maguire/ or jim carey in liar liar
it sounds like great father but bad partner
don't let her know that
otherwise she starts moaning if it wasn't for the daughter you won't go
back,
true or not true you should never tell
17 January 2005, 01:33 AM
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Just tell her you sold it mate; keep it elsewhere! Simple.
Where is your G/F from then if she dont like Parr? Whats wrong with Parr, yes it maybe as rough as Grade A Sandpaper but at the end of the day its your area.
In all honesty though mate, I'd sell the car, only due to the fact that you have a young baby. The house matter is a different story. Don't sell, COMPROMISE, sit down and discuss. Meet her in the middle, one or the other, CAR or HOUSE.
Good Luck Fella.
Andy
Where is your G/F from then if she dont like Parr? Whats wrong with Parr, yes it maybe as rough as Grade A Sandpaper but at the end of the day its your area.
In all honesty though mate, I'd sell the car, only due to the fact that you have a young baby. The house matter is a different story. Don't sell, COMPROMISE, sit down and discuss. Meet her in the middle, one or the other, CAR or HOUSE.
Good Luck Fella.
Andy
17 January 2005, 01:34 AM
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from personal experience mate but i don't know your circumstances but with me there was no pleasing my ex, she wanted a nice house but hated the hours i worked, she liked the impreza but hated the fact that people always look at it etc, what difference does it make by selling the car? i'm now single and loads happier. the fact that you went to well lane on the morning of your daughters birthday doesn't sound good though, yes i've got an impreza but at the end of the day its just a car, life doesn't revolve around it.
17 January 2005, 08:48 AM
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Keep the car and the house . It doesnt matter what car you got , if she can call the shots and you do it she will always be the one calling the shots and your life will not go the way you want it to. Dont go back for the sake of a child because you can have quality of life as a separated Dad, even if it doesnt happen overnight. Never go back on a broken/failed relastiopnship , you will get a few months down the line, or even a few years and think why the **** did i bother. Life will move on 
17 January 2005, 08:55 AM
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I wouldn't sell either and for her to expect you to is unreasonable. I'm assuming that you pay for your car and house? As long as your daughter doesn't go without that's the main thing.
If your ex won't live at your house instead of selling it rent it out. You will still cover the cost of the mortgage and be able to afford another place to rent.
I couldn't sell my scoob, it's one of the best family cars we've ever had, people who sell them as 'they now have a family' always makes me laugh, they are a great family motor.
Don't let the ex use your daughter as a bargaining tool as many women do, this is very unfair and selfish and she does come across like this from what you've said.
As for the ginger thing, you know that redheads are always meant to be horny
If your ex won't live at your house instead of selling it rent it out. You will still cover the cost of the mortgage and be able to afford another place to rent.
I couldn't sell my scoob, it's one of the best family cars we've ever had, people who sell them as 'they now have a family' always makes me laugh, they are a great family motor.
Don't let the ex use your daughter as a bargaining tool as many women do, this is very unfair and selfish and she does come across like this from what you've said.
As for the ginger thing, you know that redheads are always meant to be horny
17 January 2005, 09:43 AM
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I too think she is being quite unreasonable. At the end of the day she is putting conditions on the love she is prepared to give you. Thats a bad start. Believe me mate its a loooong slippery road.
17 January 2005, 11:06 AM
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The best piece of advice I have seen is, if you try again, take it slow and start to date each other again, but and this is important live in different places. There is no point in rushing back together if the problems that caused the split are still there. No split is ever one sided, blame can not and should not be put onto one person.
If there is a lack of communication how is the other person going to know that the other is unhappy? If she was unable to articulate what she felt, how are you meant to know she is unhappy? She expects these large lifestyle changes to happen over night on your part, but can't be bothered to let you know for a year what it is that is making her unhappy. Perhaps you met when the two of you were just two young and have grown apart. As there is a child you probably feel pressured to try again when perhaps without your child you would not even be thinking about meeting any of her requirements and getting back togehter.
If you don't stay with her you will still be your daughters Dad regardless of what others think or say about you. Children do notice if there parents are unhappy with each other. Better for the both of you to be happy, even if the only way for this to happen is if you are not together.
If it is her that you want to be with, you will find a way to make her happy. Even if it means getting rid of the car and house. Maybe compromise on the house and rent it out for 6 months instead of selling it or move to another area. Only do anything if it is what you want, I have made the mistake of jumping through hoops in the past to make someone happy and in the end it was me and not my possesions that they did not like. Women always seem to think that they can change their other half and make them into the person they want them to be. When in reality they should be adult and admit that they are with the wrong person and not in the wrong area or in the wrong car...
If there is a lack of communication how is the other person going to know that the other is unhappy? If she was unable to articulate what she felt, how are you meant to know she is unhappy? She expects these large lifestyle changes to happen over night on your part, but can't be bothered to let you know for a year what it is that is making her unhappy. Perhaps you met when the two of you were just two young and have grown apart. As there is a child you probably feel pressured to try again when perhaps without your child you would not even be thinking about meeting any of her requirements and getting back togehter.
If you don't stay with her you will still be your daughters Dad regardless of what others think or say about you. Children do notice if there parents are unhappy with each other. Better for the both of you to be happy, even if the only way for this to happen is if you are not together.
If it is her that you want to be with, you will find a way to make her happy. Even if it means getting rid of the car and house. Maybe compromise on the house and rent it out for 6 months instead of selling it or move to another area. Only do anything if it is what you want, I have made the mistake of jumping through hoops in the past to make someone happy and in the end it was me and not my possesions that they did not like. Women always seem to think that they can change their other half and make them into the person they want them to be. When in reality they should be adult and admit that they are with the wrong person and not in the wrong area or in the wrong car...
17 January 2005, 12:28 PM
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IMHO you should tell the blackmailing b!tch to F*** off.
What's her problem with your car? You could always give the response "Only if the profits are used on breast implants..."
I think she's got a cheek.
What's her problem with your car? You could always give the response "Only if the profits are used on breast implants..."
I think she's got a cheek.
17 January 2005, 12:52 PM
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jesus she gotta go!!
imo your best off without her, no joke, i had same problem about ten years ago, my ex the lazy cow same thing would not give up nothing or help me finacially wanted me to sell my beloved xr3,we had a baby boy but did the decent thing and bit the bullet-------- I GOT RID PRONTO!!
my son is now 12 this sunday and still get to see him and have a chat with the old battleaxe now her grudges have worn away!!!!!!
17 January 2005, 12:57 PM
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why should you sell up????? tell her if shes not happy to f""k off.
if she wont help you why should you help her.sounds like youll lose everything and shell gain everything else.
there is plenty more fish in the sea,go get another one.
if she wont help you why should you help her.sounds like youll lose everything and shell gain everything else.
there is plenty more fish in the sea,go get another one.
17 January 2005, 01:32 PM
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my wife being in the childcare business wonders if there is a degree of post natal depression involved. A new mother can become unattached not just in cases to the child but they themselves can go back to the state of childness. Its as if she is crying out for attention because she no longer feels loved by you but also she sees herself as a mother not someone who could be loved by another. She has proberly been low and have a child can be very demanding.
Try asking the grandparents to look after the 14 month old and just treat and spoil her and tell ALL the time that (this is if you love her) she is amazing and wonderful, tell that you love her and (if you would like) that you would love to move in together but remember to tell her that a relationship works both ways and that the car is part of your life just is she and your daughter is.
good luck mate
Try asking the grandparents to look after the 14 month old and just treat and spoil her and tell ALL the time that (this is if you love her) she is amazing and wonderful, tell that you love her and (if you would like) that you would love to move in together but remember to tell her that a relationship works both ways and that the car is part of your life just is she and your daughter is.
good luck mate
17 January 2005, 01:43 PM
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edmondo that is some cracking advice, 22 is young to have a baby, in reality she is just a child herself if waht has been said about her parents is true.
Maybe a compromise is needed, what does she actually not like about your car ?. Im guessing it is how much money and time goes into it. Well maybe you could compromise and reduce the amount of mods and meets you go to. Ths way you could save addtional cash for the family to use. And go out somewhere as a family.
if she doesnt like the house tell her to help decorate it sell it on and buy somewhere else. (I dont agree with renting).
If she is unable to help or do anything because the baby is needing care all day, yes that may of been the case upto 12 months but toddlers are a lot more independant, my little boy loves helping me do the diy he has his own little tool set. you have to do things as a family and that means spending time with each other.
oh and going to well lane on your daughters birthday is bang out of order.
Maybe a compromise is needed, what does she actually not like about your car ?. Im guessing it is how much money and time goes into it. Well maybe you could compromise and reduce the amount of mods and meets you go to. Ths way you could save addtional cash for the family to use. And go out somewhere as a family.
if she doesnt like the house tell her to help decorate it sell it on and buy somewhere else. (I dont agree with renting).
If she is unable to help or do anything because the baby is needing care all day, yes that may of been the case upto 12 months but toddlers are a lot more independant, my little boy loves helping me do the diy he has his own little tool set. you have to do things as a family and that means spending time with each other.
oh and going to well lane on your daughters birthday is bang out of order.
17 January 2005, 05:27 PM
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if you sell the car and take up fishing or something she,ll pick on that, i,ve been there, now i,ve got the car and the house, and my kid,s are being very well looked after by a nanny for me , my x wife
17 January 2005, 06:00 PM
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Sell your missus and keep the scoob
Only kiddin fella - She shouldnt put you in this position mate - its out of order.
Yes relationships are about compromise, so the solution should be you keep the car and just stop going to quite so many meets / doing quite so many mates favours outside of work etc (except for me = pal, buddy)
That way you two get more quality time - you know you can run the scoob at cost prices for parts etc and everyone is happy. This "Car or me" thing is naughty...
Naturally access to your ickle dude is important so to keep that easy dont turn discussions into rows or these woman folk strop off and hold grudges!!
Hope it works out my good man
P
Oh and 22 is NOT too young to have a baby. In St Helens its 8 years older than the average...
Sell your missus and keep the scoob
Only kiddin fella - She shouldnt put you in this position mate - its out of order. Yes relationships are about compromise, so the solution should be you keep the car and just stop going to quite so many meets / doing quite so many mates favours outside of work etc (except for me = pal, buddy
) That way you two get more quality time - you know you can run the scoob at cost prices for parts etc
and everyone is happy. This "Car or me" thing is naughty...Naturally access to your ickle dude is important so to keep that easy dont turn discussions into rows or these woman folk strop off and hold grudges!!
Hope it works out my good man
P
Oh and 22 is NOT too young to have a baby. In St Helens its 8 years older than the average...
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17 January 2005, 06:18 PM
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i think, at the end of the day (its night time?) i'm a bit iffy about telling her where to get off etc.
as been mention if it wasn't for olivia (daughter and NBO2 attendee!) i'd have gone a long time ago.
but now its that final push that is going to be hard............
thanks for all the replys freinds............
as been mention if it wasn't for olivia (daughter and NBO2 attendee!) i'd have gone a long time ago.
but now its that final push that is going to be hard............
thanks for all the replys freinds............
17 January 2005, 10:57 PM
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Julian
I fought hard after my first wife and I split to keep the kids........So at the end of the day it comes down to what is more important to you.
Good Luck on whatever you decide.
Ed
I fought hard after my first wife and I split to keep the kids........So at the end of the day it comes down to what is more important to you.
Good Luck on whatever you decide.
Ed
17 January 2005, 11:06 PM
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for a house in a bad area,
anyone would understand why she wants you to sell,
sometimes ladies feel unsafe when they're by themselves.
BUT why do you have to sell the car?
how much is it worth? you say 2K ( i don't know)
but what can you get for 2k
FGS its a scoob!!!!!!!!!!! ya can't buy one for 2k and know whats been done to it.
i think that if you sell both she KNOWS if you can do such a big thing for her she tell you to obey her more,
i won't be surprised if she starts hating your friends and telling you not to see them again.
anyway at the end of the day, you decide for yourself,
good luck
keep us posted
ps do you want an escort agency number
anyone would understand why she wants you to sell,
sometimes ladies feel unsafe when they're by themselves.
BUT why do you have to sell the car?
how much is it worth? you say 2K ( i don't know)
but what can you get for 2k
FGS its a scoob!!!!!!!!!!! ya can't buy one for 2k and know whats been done to it.
i think that if you sell both she KNOWS if you can do such a big thing for her she tell you to obey her more,
i won't be surprised if she starts hating your friends and telling you not to see them again.
anyway at the end of the day, you decide for yourself,
good luck
keep us posted
ps do you want an escort agency number
18 January 2005, 05:30 PM
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plus i don't think she knows how long it takes to see a house or a car.
it could take a week it could take months.........
could but the super shed in the autotrader for 10k and then tell her i've tried to seel it but no one wants it!
its not a bad area as such, but then again i have lived on the estate since i was 2 years old, and now i'm 30.
if i bought another car i'd prob just mod that instead. as i said before how far car you push a 2.5 diesel omega!!!!!!!!!!!
it could take a week it could take months.........
could but the super shed in the autotrader for 10k and then tell her i've tried to seel it but no one wants it!
its not a bad area as such, but then again i have lived on the estate since i was 2 years old, and now i'm 30.
if i bought another car i'd prob just mod that instead. as i said before how far car you push a 2.5 diesel omega!!!!!!!!!!!
18 January 2005, 08:32 PM
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Dont listern to her !!
If you give in to her its a slippery slope as i know too well from the evil mrs X
If you rent the money will get spent on silly things and you will never get back on the property ladder again as kids get more expensive and houses are still going up .
As far as selling a scooby NEVER its your life and passion and escape from the pressures of life .
when ever you have worries you forget them while listening to the flat four.
and what will you get for 2K ?
someone elses problem car?
women dont change and neither do mother in laws !!
(im lucky mine is 18000 miles away and cant speak english)
she should think her self lucky to have a man with a house /scooby and why cant she let the Grandparents babysit so she can get into the house and help decorate to make it a home ?
if she is lazy now and moans it will only get worse !!
and this time Dont be late for the NBO 3 on sunday 12 june
If you give in to her its a slippery slope as i know too well from the evil mrs X
If you rent the money will get spent on silly things and you will never get back on the property ladder again as kids get more expensive and houses are still going up .
As far as selling a scooby NEVER its your life and passion and escape from the pressures of life .
when ever you have worries you forget them while listening to the flat four.
and what will you get for 2K ?
someone elses problem car?
women dont change and neither do mother in laws !!
(im lucky mine is 18000 miles away and cant speak english
) she should think her self lucky to have a man with a house /scooby and why cant she let the Grandparents babysit so she can get into the house and help decorate to make it a home ?
if she is lazy now and moans it will only get worse !!
and this time Dont be late for the NBO 3 on sunday 12 june
