Peoms/Readings for a baby's funeral
#61
Just saw this and I was afraid to open up this thread for fear that it was for you guys
Really sorry to hear about it Alex, hope you guys pick yourselves back up soon, can't imagine the feelings you are experiencing. Having kids opens you up to a new level of joy and hurt, when you get the flip-side you know it's all worth it though.
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Chuck n Nicki
Really sorry to hear about it Alex, hope you guys pick yourselves back up soon, can't imagine the feelings you are experiencing. Having kids opens you up to a new level of joy and hurt, when you get the flip-side you know it's all worth it though.
Best regards
Chuck n Nicki
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Originally Posted by little-ginge
Dr Evil..
I noticed on one of your earlier posts your babys name, Rowan. You probably already know this, but there is a type of tree called a Rowan which as you mentioned planting a memorial tree, I thought this might be fitting..
I found a link which tells you a little more about it..
http://www.treesforlife.org.uk/tfl.rowan.html
LG
I noticed on one of your earlier posts your babys name, Rowan. You probably already know this, but there is a type of tree called a Rowan which as you mentioned planting a memorial tree, I thought this might be fitting..
I found a link which tells you a little more about it..
http://www.treesforlife.org.uk/tfl.rowan.html
LG
Thanks, for the link, and thought.
We have already bought a Sorbus Vilmorinii (one of the Rowan family), it is one of the smaller varieties, and we have put it in a large pot in our garden. We also have one which we will plant where we scatter his ashes in Cornwall.
The following may be of interest to anyone that is grieving at present, as I said, I bought some books, and so far, by far the best is:
Words to comfort, words to heal - Poems & meditations for those that grieve
By Juliet Mabey ISBN: 1-85168-154-x
It is helping us put our feelings into words.
Thanks again to all for the kind words of support, Alex
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I'm sure I speak for everyone on this forum, when I say that my thoughts will be with you on such a sad day. I attended a friends daughters funeral, 4 days old, after hospital negligence, it was a truly sad day and I can't even begin to understand how you feel, even as a parent.
As for your question...........say exactly what you feel within, no matter how disjointed it may sound, I don't believe that such details can be planned for such an occasion.
I can say this though, your life, although never to be the same, will get back on track and you will deal with each day as it's dealt to you.
Best wishes and I hope all goes as well as can be expected.
Si.
As for your question...........say exactly what you feel within, no matter how disjointed it may sound, I don't believe that such details can be planned for such an occasion.
I can say this though, your life, although never to be the same, will get back on track and you will deal with each day as it's dealt to you.
Best wishes and I hope all goes as well as can be expected.
Si.
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Alex and Milly,
I saw the 'tree' post and thought what a lovely idea.
Both my Nana's are buried in a 'green cemetry' up near Harwich, where a tree is planted on each grave. In a few years time, it will be a little wood, with new plants, wildlife etc. Its a lovely peaceful place to visit, which is also full of new life.
Once again, you have my best wishes.
I saw the 'tree' post and thought what a lovely idea.
Both my Nana's are buried in a 'green cemetry' up near Harwich, where a tree is planted on each grave. In a few years time, it will be a little wood, with new plants, wildlife etc. Its a lovely peaceful place to visit, which is also full of new life.
Once again, you have my best wishes.
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It will be a year to the day, next wednesday.
Just like to thank you all again for all the kind words and thoughts last year.
And the Mods and Webmaster(s) for what they did.
Thanks all, Alex & Milly
Just like to thank you all again for all the kind words and thoughts last year.
And the Mods and Webmaster(s) for what they did.
Thanks all, Alex & Milly
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Originally Posted by DrEvil
It will be a year to the day, next wednesday.
Just like to thank you all again for all the kind words and thoughts last year.
And the Mods and Webmaster(s) for what they did.
Thanks all, Alex & Milly
Just like to thank you all again for all the kind words and thoughts last year.
And the Mods and Webmaster(s) for what they did.
Thanks all, Alex & Milly
Thoughts will be with you.
All the very best
Paul
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Alex and Milly,
we will be thinking of you - sending all our love.
David and Truda
'Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.'
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of the universe. Your playing small doesn't serve the world.
There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't
feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make
manifest the glory of the universe that is within us.
It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we subconsciously give other people
permission to do the same.
As we're liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically
liberates others.
we will be thinking of you - sending all our love.
David and Truda
'Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.'
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of the universe. Your playing small doesn't serve the world.
There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't
feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make
manifest the glory of the universe that is within us.
It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we subconsciously give other people
permission to do the same.
As we're liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically
liberates others.
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Thanks all
As I said, its nearly been a year since we lost Rowan, and is on our minds at the moment.
But reading this thread again helped, which is why I wanted to say thanks again.
As I said, its nearly been a year since we lost Rowan, and is on our minds at the moment.
But reading this thread again helped, which is why I wanted to say thanks again.
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Alex
I'm fine, thanks. Hope you are too. Indeed, it's been a while. It will be three years this September since Carolyn died Time flies.
On the moving on front, I met someone else a while back (who also lost her husband to cancer 5 years ago, by entire coincidence), and we got married last month
(Didn't mean to hijack your thread btw )
I'm fine, thanks. Hope you are too. Indeed, it's been a while. It will be three years this September since Carolyn died Time flies.
On the moving on front, I met someone else a while back (who also lost her husband to cancer 5 years ago, by entire coincidence), and we got married last month
(Didn't mean to hijack your thread btw )
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Originally Posted by Dave T-S
Alex
I'm fine, thanks. Hope you are too. Indeed, it's been a while. It will be three years this September since Carolyn died Time flies.
I'm fine, thanks. Hope you are too. Indeed, it's been a while. It will be three years this September since Carolyn died Time flies.
On the moving on front, I met someone else a while back (who also lost her husband to cancer 5 years ago, by entire coincidence), and we got married last month
(Didn't mean to hijack your thread btw )
(Didn't mean to hijack your thread btw )
As for the hi jack - don't worry - glad to hear you are doing well.
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Do not stand on my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond's glint on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn's rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.
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Im really sorry to hear about your loss, hopefully you and your wife are feeling a bit better nothing can really replace a child but hopefully you will decide to have more children one day.
R.I.P Rowan
R.I.P Rowan