Maternity benefits entitlement
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Originally Posted by talizman
I can't, I don't know any families in Africa! ![Big Grin](images/smilies/biggrin.gif)
And I'm pretty sure that amazinggrace wasn't referring to them either!![Wink](images/smilies/wink.gif)
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And I'm pretty sure that amazinggrace wasn't referring to them either!
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Originally Posted by talizman
I can honestly say that I have NEVER in my entire life heard someone in the UK use this as the reason to have kids, have you?
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Originally Posted by GCollier
Our future economy is dependent upon the children of today.
Find out how many "career benefit mothers" there are out there. Find out what percentage of the child population of the UK their children account for. Then find out on average how much it costs the state to bring one of their kids up to wage earning age (benefits, education, police time etc). Then find out what the average wage earned by these children is over their life time and so how much over their life they may contribute back to the state. Compare that to what they have taken out of the state (to date, we won't worry about any post 16 jail time costs etc for now). Let me know if they are a net benefit to the state or a drain. Then think if your policy of promoting having kids by handing out large benefits is actually such a bright idea.
I don't claim to know the answers to the above questions, but I do have my suspicions. I look foward to hearing what you find out.
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Originally Posted by OllyK
Well in that case maybe you should have put
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Another example of wanting more information that is necessary up front!
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Originally Posted by OllyK
Because I have certainly heard it outside the UK. I suspect if you dig around you'll find a few in this country that also have that opinion, and sure as hell there are some that have kids becuase it will give them benefits NOW. As sure as eggs is eggs there would be far fewer teenage chav Mums about if there were no child benefits to be had
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Amazinggrace said that "it makes her blood boil"... this infers that she hears it often/regularily enough to annoy her. I don't think this is the case.
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Originally Posted by talizman
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Another example of wanting more information that is necessary up front!
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Taking the quote in context (by amazinggrace), I'm pretty confident we are referring to UK families since thats where we all (mostly) are.
I find it EXTREMELY hard to believe that ANY woman has a child for the purposes of looking after them in their twilight years.....![Confused](images/smilies/confused.gif)
Amazinggrace said that "it makes her blood boil"... this infers that she hears it often/regularily enough to annoy her. I don't think this is the case.
I find it EXTREMELY hard to believe that ANY woman has a child for the purposes of looking after them in their twilight years.....
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Amazinggrace said that "it makes her blood boil"... this infers that she hears it often/regularily enough to annoy her. I don't think this is the case.
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Originally Posted by OllyK
Then think if your policy of promoting having kids by handing out large benefits is actually such a bright idea.
I was simply attempting to get the blinkered "lifestyle choice" brigade to actually appreciate the fact that despite their derision, their own future is actually very much dependent upon the kids of the day. The tens of £k hardworking families invest in raising their children is ultimately part of everyones pension scheme...
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Originally Posted by GCollier
I don't recall suggesting promoting having kids by handing out large benefits. I'm dead against career benefit mothers, but as far as I'm aware this thread wasn't about them.
I was simply attempting to get the blinkered "lifestyle choice" brigade to actually appreciate the fact that despite their derision, their own future is actually very much dependent upon the kids of the day. The tens of £k hardworking families invest in raising their children is ultimately part of everyones pension scheme...
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The economic consequences on the UK "if everybody" stopped having kids is a different matter. As we don't have 100% employment in this country it would suggest that we are producing more kids than we can support anyway so why encourage people that can't support them to have them?
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Originally Posted by OllyK
I don't claim to know the answers
All Talizman's questions were answerd on the first page of this thread.
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Olly, you are trying to reason with the unreasonable.
You should have kids for one reason and one reason only.
That is because you want to create another indivudal that is part of you both and that you will love and cherish beyond all else.
Anything else is, quite frankly, bollocks and smacks of desparate attempt to justify having had children for the wrong reasons.
You should have kids for one reason and one reason only.
That is because you want to create another indivudal that is part of you both and that you will love and cherish beyond all else.
Anything else is, quite frankly, bollocks and smacks of desparate attempt to justify having had children for the wrong reasons.
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Originally Posted by amazinggrace
I could not give a child the attention it would need, thus I don't have any children! I have two cats.
Originally Posted by OllyK
Both the quotes above say it all really.
Some people prefer humans and some prefer animals.
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Originally Posted by Brendan Hughes
Looks like there's a bunch of kids on this thread that need caring for. ![Roll Eyes (Sarcastic)](images/smilies/rolleyes.gif)
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Originally Posted by m111usy
website of Ollys dedicated to his dog.......
Both the quotes above say it all really.
Some people prefer humans and some prefer animals.
Both the quotes above say it all really.
Some people prefer humans and some prefer animals.
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Originally Posted by Paul Habgood
Sounds just like a description of a child! ![Wink](images/smilies/wink.gif)
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Originally Posted by OllyK
Oh kids and animals are very similar. You'd be amazed at how well dog training techniques work on kids. Mind you, teaching your kid to roll over and play dead on command, is probably of limited use ![Big Grin](images/smilies/biggrin.gif)
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There was a time when the wife stayed at home to look after the whole family and the husband was the sole breadwinner. Even though the standard of living was obviously much lower, more families used to stay together and the children consequentially had a happier time and grew up better behaved on the whole.
Our modern acquisitive times have a lot to answer for in that respect. Family life seems generally to be going by the board now, and that is not a good thing for the future.
Les
Our modern acquisitive times have a lot to answer for in that respect. Family life seems generally to be going by the board now, and that is not a good thing for the future.
Les
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Originally Posted by Leslie
more families used to stay together and the children consequentially had a happier time and grew up better behaved on the whole.
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Originally Posted by Drunken Bungle *****
There's some validity in your comments - but there were many children who had wretched childhoods being bought up by 2 people who couldn't stand each other but who stayed together because of social pressures.
So in general, is it better to be wretched with 1 parent, 2 parents or no parents present or does it make no difference?
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Originally Posted by talizman
My missus is due to have our first sprog soon, and we have just found out that her fantastic employer only pays her for 6 weeks of her leave at 90%. She then drops to £106 per week for up to 20 more weeks. (Statutory maternity pay)
How the hell is anyone meant to survive on £100 per week?
Are there any benefits that families are entitled to, to make this paltry sum get even remotely closer to her current salary?![Confused](images/smilies/confused.gif)
We both imagined that she'd stay off for between 4-6 months, however this may not be the case now......
Anyone?
How the hell is anyone meant to survive on £100 per week?
Are there any benefits that families are entitled to, to make this paltry sum get even remotely closer to her current salary?
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We both imagined that she'd stay off for between 4-6 months, however this may not be the case now......
Anyone?
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Different companies have different deals for maternity leave I afraid - same goes for paternity leave too. Its not that bad a deal from you've said chap. As someone else has said, talk to the C.A.B, they should be able to advise.
All the best, I hope all goes well for the three of you!
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Originally Posted by talizman
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Amazinggrace said that "it makes her blood boil"... this infers that she hears it often/regularily enough to annoy her. I don't think this is the case.
Well if having someone 'care for me' would be like the old lady without the postbox who starved to death and none of her children called on her to see how she was, then no, I don't want caring for!
I have a private pension to pay for me in my old age, hopefully my career will progress and I will be able to ensure myself a very comfortable retirement. I would like to retire early and possibley go to university, as I couldn't afford to go when I left school.
I think people should thank me for not burdening this country with children we do not need. Years ago there was no IVF and all that fancy stuff, if you couldn't get pregnant you didn't have children. Now Doctors can do such wonderful things and help these people. Think of me as redressing the balance. My mother tried for 9 years to concieve me, I am an only child, in her words she was "never blessed again"
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Originally Posted by amazinggrace
Women have told me I am selfish for not having children, and said to me, "but what about when your old, you will regret not having anyone to care for you."
Well if having someone 'care for me' would be like the old lady without the postbox who starved to death and none of her children called on her to see how she was, then no, I don't want caring for!
I have a private pension to pay for me in my old age, hopefully my career will progress and I will be able to ensure myself a very comfortable retirement. I would like to retire early and possibley go to university, as I couldn't afford to go when I left school.
I think people should thank me for not burdening this country with children we do not need. Years ago there was no IVF and all that fancy stuff, if you couldn't get pregnant you didn't have children. Now Doctors can do such wonderful things and help these people. Think of me as redressing the balance. My mother tried for 9 years to concieve me, I am an only child, in her words she was "never blessed again"
Well if having someone 'care for me' would be like the old lady without the postbox who starved to death and none of her children called on her to see how she was, then no, I don't want caring for!
I have a private pension to pay for me in my old age, hopefully my career will progress and I will be able to ensure myself a very comfortable retirement. I would like to retire early and possibley go to university, as I couldn't afford to go when I left school.
I think people should thank me for not burdening this country with children we do not need. Years ago there was no IVF and all that fancy stuff, if you couldn't get pregnant you didn't have children. Now Doctors can do such wonderful things and help these people. Think of me as redressing the balance. My mother tried for 9 years to concieve me, I am an only child, in her words she was "never blessed again"
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DBW,
What you say is right of course. Marriage is a difficult thing to get right first time and these days there are so many split relationships since divorce is morally acceptable.
In earlier times parents were mostly prepared to stay together for the sake of the children and would have the responsibilty to at least try to be civilised in the presence of the children
No one can help their honest feelings towards another person but I think thst they should be praised for their unselfish attitude in wanting to do the best for their children.
As Olly suggested, a split marriage is a dreadful situation for the children especially if they have deep feelings for both their parents.
These are observations I am making without wishing to appear in any way judgemental.
Les
What you say is right of course. Marriage is a difficult thing to get right first time and these days there are so many split relationships since divorce is morally acceptable.
In earlier times parents were mostly prepared to stay together for the sake of the children and would have the responsibilty to at least try to be civilised in the presence of the children
No one can help their honest feelings towards another person but I think thst they should be praised for their unselfish attitude in wanting to do the best for their children.
As Olly suggested, a split marriage is a dreadful situation for the children especially if they have deep feelings for both their parents.
These are observations I am making without wishing to appear in any way judgemental.
Les
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