Best way to dump someone?
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This should never be a problem, i find that if you just act cold towards her after a bit she'll get the message that something isn't right.
She'll no doubt ask you what the matter is, to which you just deny but continue to act funny. After a while she wont wanna put up with you and bada bing you have a (fairly) amicable break up.
When friends ask you both who ended it you can say it was mutual, therefore removing any ****** stigma they might want to attach to you (and means you might still be able to **** her friend you always had a thing for
)
Failing that, play 'I Wanna **** Your sister' by TQ on repeat non stop when your together, unless she likes this track
(or doesn't have a sister)
She'll no doubt ask you what the matter is, to which you just deny but continue to act funny. After a while she wont wanna put up with you and bada bing you have a (fairly) amicable break up.
When friends ask you both who ended it you can say it was mutual, therefore removing any ****** stigma they might want to attach to you (and means you might still be able to **** her friend you always had a thing for
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Failing that, play 'I Wanna **** Your sister' by TQ on repeat non stop when your together, unless she likes this track
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Originally Posted by OllyK
Fine, but what do the deeds say? If her name is on those and she isn't prepared to sell out to you, you have a problem.
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Originally Posted by RedFive
You *are* letting me down here Moo. What about the "I'd **** her girlfriend" approach ?
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Originally Posted by Novemberscoob
Not so easy when she says she cant live without me! Suicide!
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or act really cold and stressed around her for a few days, then when she finally asks whats up, tell her you have had some bad news about a serious illness that cannot be treated in this country and you need to go to amercia for treatment. Tell her the only way to fund this is by selling the house, tell her to move in with her mother and you will be back in a few moths after treatment. (only take what money is yours, unless you can get it all) Obviously you speak less and less to her, until the only contact you have is when she rings you, then keep asking her who she is, carry on the conversation as normal and then ask who it is again. Mention random oddities like the stars are so red but the clouds are fluffy and green. She will really believe you are ill, and then eventually you stop answering the phone (or go on holiday with your money and get some foreign bird to say you have died)
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Just tell her you're not happy with her and then when she gets all teary etc you have to be the strong one and tell her its not what you want anymore! My only advice to this one is be strong and stand your ground!!
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Been trying this for the last 6 months!
Originally Posted by Robbie T
This should never be a problem, i find that if you just act cold towards her after a bit she'll get the message that something isn't right.
She'll no doubt ask you what the matter is, to which you just deny but continue to act funny. After a while she wont wanna put up with you and bada bing you have a (fairly) amicable break up.
When friends ask you both who ended it you can say it was mutual, therefore removing any ****** stigma they might want to attach to you (and means you might still be able to **** her friend you always had a thing for
)
She'll no doubt ask you what the matter is, to which you just deny but continue to act funny. After a while she wont wanna put up with you and bada bing you have a (fairly) amicable break up.
When friends ask you both who ended it you can say it was mutual, therefore removing any ****** stigma they might want to attach to you (and means you might still be able to **** her friend you always had a thing for
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Originally Posted by Novemberscoob
Been trying this for the last 6 months!
Let me guess, she's fit but conversation never really gets passed Eastenders?
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Originally Posted by Novemberscoob
Tried dropping the girlfriend several times and failed as she gets so upset and i end up feeling sorry for her.
Any advise to help me?
Been together 5 years, live together (mortgage)
Any advise to help me?
Been together 5 years, live together (mortgage)
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I can't believe this is still going
Novemberscoob you need to get this sorted and stop being such a nonce about it. All you have to do is say to her that you don't love her anymore and you want to split. Grow some ***** FFS you're not being fare on her or yourself.
Novemberscoob you need to get this sorted and stop being such a nonce about it. All you have to do is say to her that you don't love her anymore and you want to split. Grow some ***** FFS you're not being fare on her or yourself.
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As has already been said - you want to end it then move out. If the mortgage is in joint names then get onto a solicitor and your mortgage lender asap. You can force her to sell and move out if things get tricky - but it does take a while.
For ***** sake stop messing her around and get on with it!
For ***** sake stop messing her around and get on with it!
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Why don't you just find yourself a new girl with somewhere to live, tell all your own friends, everyone one on SN and anyone else that she's heard of but doesn't actually know that she's dumped you. Then one morning when she's leaving for work tell her you're staying at home to do your college stuff or whatever and let her come home that night to an empty house and a note.
To make it look even better for a few weekends before you can tell her you're going to visit old friends/go on a weekend pub crawl with your mates/go to a works do to make it look good when you're with the replacement. Oh, and I forgot, your boss has sent you to work somewhere else for a couple of days during the week and it's too far to come home at night.
Better still, wait for another five years. After ten years together it goes down a treat.
To make it look even better for a few weekends before you can tell her you're going to visit old friends/go on a weekend pub crawl with your mates/go to a works do to make it look good when you're with the replacement. Oh, and I forgot, your boss has sent you to work somewhere else for a couple of days during the week and it's too far to come home at night.
Better still, wait for another five years. After ten years together it goes down a treat.
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You're either a complete ******* selfish wimp or this is a wind up. You're certainly not a man and to be honest she's going to be well rid of you by the sound of it.
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Be strong and just tell her how you feel....at the end of the day LOVE is a dangerous thing, one person might love someone to death the other on the other hand may just see it as a step on to the next person, whatever happens and she tries to guilt etc is only a reaction as they will miss you, try and get relate to help, they arent only there to reconcile the differences but it will also make her see that it isnt want you want anymore and there is still a life out there for her...
After a few sessions i see you 2 splitting, dont think she will stop loving you as i know i still love my ex and that feeling wont go away so easy even though i am with someone else i know i still have feelings for my ex but i know deep down she never wanted me, but they helped me realise after alot of mistakes.....
dont let it go to far though get something done before things get alot worse...
all the best my friend!
After a few sessions i see you 2 splitting, dont think she will stop loving you as i know i still love my ex and that feeling wont go away so easy even though i am with someone else i know i still have feelings for my ex but i know deep down she never wanted me, but they helped me realise after alot of mistakes.....
dont let it go to far though get something done before things get alot worse...
all the best my friend!
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Originally Posted by Drunken Bungle *****
You're either a complete ******* selfish wimp or this is a wind up. You're certainly not a man and to be honest she's going to be well rid of you by the sound of it.
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Originally Posted by Novemberscoob
Tried dropping the girlfriend several times and failed as she gets so upset and i end up feeling sorry for her.
Any advise to help me?
Been together 5 years, live together (mortgage)
Any advise to help me?
Been together 5 years, live together (mortgage)
Be grateful it is just bricks and mortar to divide up and no kids to worry about.
Good luck
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Originally Posted by Drunken Bungle *****
You're either a complete ******* selfish wimp or this is a wind up. You're certainly not a man and to be honest she's going to be well rid of you by the sound of it.
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Either tell her you've got a lot of love to give and it's not fair to give it all to one woman.......
or
Give her her P45 and tell it to take a stroll......
or
Give her her P45 and tell it to take a stroll......