He must really hate her!
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Originally Posted by TheBigMan
My first instinct is there are 2 issues here.
1. The social aspect.
2. The moral aspect.
By this I mean: I have sympathy for a man that is forced to pay towards a child that he did not want. On the other hand a ruling that would mean men no longer contributed would create a massive social issue with regards to benefits, women in employment etc.
Can of worms or what.....
1. The social aspect.
2. The moral aspect.
By this I mean: I have sympathy for a man that is forced to pay towards a child that he did not want. On the other hand a ruling that would mean men no longer contributed would create a massive social issue with regards to benefits, women in employment etc.
Can of worms or what.....
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Originally Posted by TheBigMan
The relationship is over.
It is no better than asking a total stranger to give sperm, then give them every detail of you and your child.
Come to think of it, no it is worse!! If you said no you wouldn't be treated like a nasty bar-steward like this fella is!!
Beginning to feel sorry for this guy big time now. The poor sod, he doesn't want a child and he's being verbally battered for it!!!
Madness.
It is no better than asking a total stranger to give sperm, then give them every detail of you and your child.
Come to think of it, no it is worse!! If you said no you wouldn't be treated like a nasty bar-steward like this fella is!!
Beginning to feel sorry for this guy big time now. The poor sod, he doesn't want a child and he's being verbally battered for it!!!
Madness.
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Originally Posted by Crapaud62
Aren't you conveniently forgetting that he DID give his consent for the "production" of the embryos. Basically he gave his consent and he has subsequently changed his mind. What did he think he was doing when he originally gave his consent for the embryos? Did he miss the biology lesson that would have explained what an embryo is?
He is no longer with this woman and has no interest in bringing a child into the world with her, so why should he be rail roaded into doing so?. If a bringing a child into the world is the true product of 2 peoples love for each other, why should this be cheapend by allowing this woman to make a prevous lover become a father against his wishes
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Originally Posted by Crapaud62
Aren't you conveniently forgetting that he DID give his consent for the "production" of the embryos. Basically he gave his consent and he has subsequently changed his mind. What did he think he was doing when he originally gave his consent for the embryos? Did he miss the biology lesson that would have explained what an embryo is?
Soz for that, can't answer properly - in a rush!!
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Originally Posted by davyboy
...and the relevance being..........?
you have no idea what its like to have children so no idea how strong the parental desire to be fully involved in the raising of that child can be.
your illness has no relevance, this is about a dad saying he doesnt want a kid to grow up where he is not really the father....yet he will be.
your suggestion that you would give an ex your sperm so she could have a kid without you is very odd indeed.
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you have no idea what its like to have children so no idea how strong the parental desire to be fully involved in the raising of that child can be
your suggestion that you would give an ex your sperm so she could have a kid without you is very odd indeed.
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Maybe davyboy is winding us up, but I get a feeling he is serious.
I can possibly see how this could be seen as "being kind" to the woman in question, but even still, iti s a little odd.
Given today's messed up society, I'd want something in place to prevent the child from ever finding out who I am, simply as it'd not surpise me that if in 20 years time, I find I'm being sued by some stranger who is my biological son, for mental anguish and suffering caused by the father not being there for them.
I can possibly see how this could be seen as "being kind" to the woman in question, but even still, iti s a little odd.
Given today's messed up society, I'd want something in place to prevent the child from ever finding out who I am, simply as it'd not surpise me that if in 20 years time, I find I'm being sued by some stranger who is my biological son, for mental anguish and suffering caused by the father not being there for them.
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"So you would be fully prepared to have a child that is biologically yours and not have anything to do with it"
Chavs do it all the time!
Chavs do it all the time!
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So you would be fully prepared to have a child that is biologically yours and not have anything to do with it? Can't understand blokes like that ![Confused](images/smilies/confused.gif)
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I'd bet some couples are even reading this thread.
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Originally Posted by Crapaud62
Aren't you conveniently forgetting that he DID give his consent for the "production" of the embryos. Basically he gave his consent and he has subsequently changed his mind. What did he think he was doing when he originally gave his consent for the embryos? Did he miss the biology lesson that would have explained what an embryo is?
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Originally Posted by davyboy
Lots of couples need help from a donor who will have nothing to do with the upbringing of a child.
I'd bet some couples are even reading this thread.
I'd bet some couples are even reading this thread.
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But to repeat it for a third time, a donor would never know anything about whether a child was even made from the donated sperm, let alone where the child was.
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Originally Posted by Dream Weaver
But to repeat it for a third time, a donor would never know anything about whether a child was even made from the donated sperm, let alone where the child was.
I am just saying, if I was in the same situation, and unless I thought she'd be an unfit parent, I'd be willing to let her continue providing that the father would be unknown on the birth certficate and the CSA would not come after me.
You think different, lets move on. I'm not going to change my mind, your not going to change yours.
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Originally Posted by davyboy
I know this.
I am just saying, if I was in the same situation, and unless I thought she'd be an unfit parent, I'd be willing to let her continue providing that the father would be unknown on the birth certficate and the CSA would not come after me.
You think different, lets move on. I'm not going to change my mind, your not going to change yours.
I am just saying, if I was in the same situation, and unless I thought she'd be an unfit parent, I'd be willing to let her continue providing that the father would be unknown on the birth certficate and the CSA would not come after me.
You think different, lets move on. I'm not going to change my mind, your not going to change yours.
So on the basis that you wouldn't be anonymous and the CSA would be coming after, you're saying you'd do exactly the same thing as he has?
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The CSA would only come after you if she asked them to help....but I agree, he'll never be anonymous now.
Even then, I'd still give the woman her only chance to have her biological child......just as long as it never cost me.
Even then, I'd still give the woman her only chance to have her biological child......just as long as it never cost me.
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Hang on a minute, can I clarify the CSA situation? Has anyone found out if he would be chased if she said she didn't know who the father is and put unknown on the birth certificate?
I know it's a high profile case, but unless they have the right to ask for blood samples, if she denied the child was his, what can they do? I mean within the law.
I know it's a high profile case, but unless they have the right to ask for blood samples, if she denied the child was his, what can they do? I mean within the law.
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Originally Posted by davyboy
The CSA would only come after you if she asked them to help....but I agree, he'll never be anonymous now.
Even then, I'd still give the woman her only chance to have her biological child......just as long as it never cost me.
Even then, I'd still give the woman her only chance to have her biological child......just as long as it never cost me.
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I don't think until you were in that situation you could say you would categorically have nothing to do with it. Would it not play on your mind to find out how YOUR child was, that it was living safely, was healthy and being brought up in a safe environment? How would you feel if you saw them out shooping one day and the child happened to look you in the eyes? Could you really have no feelings for it at all? What if when the child became old enough they came looking for you? Would you turn them away? After all the child would be YOUR flesh and blood.
I think it takes a cold hearted bloke to say he would happily have a child and have nothing to do with it.
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Originally Posted by OllyK
Just because a woman consents to a man feeling her **** doesn't means she has therefore consented to all other sexual activity in perpetuity.
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At the end of the day we don't know the full facts. This woman could have just been after the guys sperm as far as we know.
It's his decision and he's made it.
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I just find it astonishing a bloke can willingly father a child and then walk away and have nothing to do with it. I just can not understand this mentality. I know it happens lots but I will never understand any bloke who can do it
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Originally Posted by davyboy
The CSA would only come after you if she asked them to help....but I agree, he'll never be anonymous now.
Even then, I'd still give the woman her only chance to have her biological child......just as long as it never cost me.
Even then, I'd still give the woman her only chance to have her biological child......just as long as it never cost me.
So I'll ask again, in the EXACT same position this guys is in, where you could at a later date become financially responsible - would you still consent?
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Hang on a minute, can I clarify the CSA situation? Has anyone found out if he would be chased if she said she didn't know who the father is and put unknown on the birth certificate?
I know it's a high profile case, but unless they have the right to ask for blood samples, if she denied the child was his, what can they do? I mean within the law.
I know it's a high profile case, but unless they have the right to ask for blood samples, if she denied the child was his, what can they do? I mean within the law.
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Originally Posted by davyboy
All his done is **** in to a jar!
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Originally Posted by davyboy
I know this.
I am just saying, if I was in the same situation, and unless I thought she'd be an unfit parent, I'd be willing to let her continue providing that the father would be unknown on the birth certficate and the CSA would not come after me.
I am just saying, if I was in the same situation, and unless I thought she'd be an unfit parent, I'd be willing to let her continue providing that the father would be unknown on the birth certficate and the CSA would not come after me.
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Originally Posted by Tiggs
and would you be happy for them to be raised without your input?
But if my total input was a donation some time ago then, i'd be happy for someone else to benefit from my sperm
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