KiwiGTI

http://www.relate.org.uk/

b022xx

Thanks will suggest it to her.

OllyK

Nobody said relationships are easy! If she is already having doubts about the future, you have to ask if they are issues that can be realistically resolved, if not then you're delaying your recovery.

I appeciate that you are at a point in a long term relationship where it is hard to look back to when you were single and see good in it, humans are not solitary creatures, we strive companionship. It was certainly my fear of of being alone that resulted in my relationship continuing far longer than was healthy. It took me nearly 2 years to finally make the break.

Chip Sengravy

My advice is to bail out now, before things like kids&mortgages complicate matters.

Clarebabes

I don't think that's what he meant..... Is it?

b022xx

After another traumatic night of it last night I think it is very much a case of just hanging on to the last few strands of our relationship.

Hopefully if/when the break is made it will get easier as time goes along, makes you wonder what the point is getting close to someone when more often than not it ends in tears.

Anyway thanks to all who responded

weapon69

So your 23 y/o (i assume from your first post) and your worried about breaking up with your g/f and wonder whether its worth hanging on? So at 23 y/o your worried about being on your own forever? Hmmm Its part of life splitting up with people!

Was that sensitive enough?

MickWrx

When its over mate it's over, better to find strength from some where and let go.

You will feel like your world has ended (trust me it has not)

Your heart and mind will be in bits you will actually feel physical pain from the hurt and loss, this could stay with you for weeks, but bit by bit, day by day the pain will subside, (hang in there its not easy)

After a couple/three months, the light will be there at the end of tunnel, being able to see a glimpse of a future without her being with you, and without pain.

By month 6 you will not feel any hurt or pain, you will be able to look back with both happy thoughts and sadness, but without remorse.

This is when your time begins, from now to 12 months you can live again be confident with who you are and with what you want, with little thoughts on your past loss.

Now it's time to do it all over again with a different, women of your choice

Mick

Reality

Sound advice.

It may hurt at first - but you'll get over her.

Eventually .

b022xx

Cheers m8 - thanx for that

b022xx

I know its part of life but it doesn't make it easy, you can simplify anything but at the end of the day if you can't interpret it yourself in such a simplistic way its not that easy to deal with.

Reality

Her loss will be someone else's gain.

The only way to view splitting up.

weapon69

Like others have said, at least you don't have to take a mortgage and a couple of kids into account. You know what you need to do otherwise you wouldn't have posted on here. You just need to decide when you're going to go!

STi wanna Subaru

iTrader: (1)

Tell her she's put on a few pounds of late and you cant be seen with a fat bitch so it's over. Sensitve is the way forward

jaytc2003

iTrader: (1)

if you start a new job soon, there is a good chance there will be a few honies working there as well (depending on the job), fresh job, fresh bird. Doesnt really help you I know, but lets face it from what you have said it is only a matter of time before it finishes.