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02 May 2006, 01:33 PM
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The above may be the reason why?
From reading most posts on SN, I wouldn't be surprised if most users were at least 1 of the 3, making affairs or quickies totally impossible anyway.
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The above may be the reason why?
From reading most posts on SN, I wouldn't be surprised if most users were at least 1 of the 3, making affairs or quickies totally impossible anyway.
02 May 2006, 02:58 PM
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I have cheated before but i was quite young and not serious about the guy i was with.
I could forgive a drunken kiss at a party (although i would make his life hell for a few weeks after) but one night stand etc, i'd be pretty gutted and it would be over!
I could forgive a drunken kiss at a party (although i would make his life hell for a few weeks after) but one night stand etc, i'd be pretty gutted and it would be over!
02 May 2006, 03:33 PM
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So, how many of us in long term relationships/marriage have thought "My partner rings all my bells, BUT is this the last person I will ever sleep with?"
Food for thought?
Food for thought?
02 May 2006, 03:39 PM
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Originally Posted by markr1963
So, how many of us in long term relationships/marriage have thought "My partner rings all my bells, BUT is this the last person I will ever sleep with?"
Food for thought?
Food for thought?
can't say for sure because if my partner was to die (or leave me) then maybe i would have another relationship...
02 May 2006, 03:47 PM
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I don't care if it was some supermodel I was shacked up with.A long term relationship does not have sex as the number one priority.You don't do it 24 hours a day.Suppose it's different for those posting in the thread who don't live with someone/are married to someone.
Have to say though.Drunken 'fun ' bonks in the past weren't so fantastic.Except maybe a certain one.
Have to say though.Drunken 'fun ' bonks in the past weren't so fantastic.Except maybe a certain one.
02 May 2006, 03:48 PM
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It's so much easier if you both know it might not be (read, won't 
) and enjoy what you have now as opposed to trying to own one another, mentally and physically.
You're a long time dead!!
) and enjoy what you have now as opposed to trying to own one another, mentally and physically. You're a long time dead!!
02 May 2006, 03:57 PM
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In answer to the question I have cheated on partners in the past quite a bit and do regret it, i've never been caught or other half found out but I do feel quite guilty.
Guess I probably deserve it to be done to me, but now i'm with someone I really care about I would never cheat on her and hope she doesn't ruin things by doing that to me.
HTH
chop
Guess I probably deserve it to be done to me, but now i'm with someone I really care about I would never cheat on her and hope she doesn't ruin things by doing that to me.
HTH
chop
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02 May 2006, 04:34 PM
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Originally Posted by markr1963
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I refer you to your location info
In the case of a partner dying/leaving why would you not have another relationship
I refer you to your location info
In the case of a partner dying/leaving why would you not have another relationship
if my current partner was to die i think it would destroy me completely...
02 May 2006, 05:02 PM
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I think if you can cheat on your girlfriend or boyfriend you don't love them and shouldn't be with them!! I could never cheat. I have never been tempted by anyone, doesn't matter how good looking someone is. I think cheating is totally wrong and would never forgive anyone that did the dirty on me, even if it was just a kiss!! There's too many people out there that don't take relationships seriously, as said before if you feel tempted or could ever cheat on your partner you shouldn't be with them!!
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06 May 2006, 10:29 PM
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Originally Posted by Puff The Magic Wagon!
Least you can give her access to the cam so she can see you're at work
thank god for changing IP addys LOL
06 May 2006, 11:50 PM
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Recently I have started a relationship with someone whilst in a long term relationship with someone else.
I've never been unfaithful before, but circumstances are such that I've ended up in this sorry situation. I think I've picked an appropriate username.
I've always thought that people who are unfaithful are despicable, but here I am being dishonest to two people. I hate myself for it, but on the other hand, enjoy the second relationship on top of the first.
The only reason I can get away with it is that I'm away from home a lot.
Both of my partners deserve better because they are wonderful people. I don't deserve either of them.
I always thought I would be the last person to be unfaithful, but here I am trying to juggle two relationships. I hate the fact that I've become so adept at lying and deceit.
For anyone thinking of being unfaithful, it really isn't worth it. I frequently have nightmares about both families of my partners finding out about my infidelity.
I've got myself in a self inflicted nightmare that I'm desperate to get out of, except I lack the moral fibre to do anything about it.
Just say no to infidelity.
I've never been unfaithful before, but circumstances are such that I've ended up in this sorry situation. I think I've picked an appropriate username.
I've always thought that people who are unfaithful are despicable, but here I am being dishonest to two people. I hate myself for it, but on the other hand, enjoy the second relationship on top of the first.
The only reason I can get away with it is that I'm away from home a lot.
Both of my partners deserve better because they are wonderful people. I don't deserve either of them.
I always thought I would be the last person to be unfaithful, but here I am trying to juggle two relationships. I hate the fact that I've become so adept at lying and deceit.
For anyone thinking of being unfaithful, it really isn't worth it. I frequently have nightmares about both families of my partners finding out about my infidelity.
I've got myself in a self inflicted nightmare that I'm desperate to get out of, except I lack the moral fibre to do anything about it.
Just say no to infidelity.
07 May 2006, 12:13 AM
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Ok ill really throw the spanner into the worksandthe flame suit is on
I married when i was just a young boy and it was a BIG mistake after a few years as i surprize surprize didnt love her so yeah shock to all thr scooby world i met something else and it built into as serious relantships from daft fone calls to flirty chats then a quite drink or two then a full afair lasting over two years by then the ex and me hated each other and lived in different parts of the house and i wasnt going to spend the rest of my life with someonre i didnt love and fought constatly with
in the end we got divorced at the cost of many neww scoobys and she still never knew about my affair i had ans that afair give me 2 years of happiness in a crap love less marriage so why stop with some one you dont live for a life sentance
as it happened i the nmet somone totally different from my evil ex and bit on the side and married her and am very happy at the moment
but is cheating wrong if you dont love your partner
<hides under bedclothes now expecting barrage of abuse from the do-gooders /
I married when i was just a young boy and it was a BIG mistake after a few years as i surprize surprize didnt love her so yeah shock to all thr scooby world i met something else and it built into as serious relantships from daft fone calls to flirty chats then a quite drink or two then a full afair lasting over two years by then the ex and me hated each other and lived in different parts of the house and i wasnt going to spend the rest of my life with someonre i didnt love and fought constatly with
in the end we got divorced at the cost of many neww scoobys and she still never knew about my affair i had ans that afair give me 2 years of happiness in a crap love less marriage so why stop with some one you dont live for a life sentance
as it happened i the nmet somone totally different from my evil ex and bit on the side and married her and am very happy at the moment
but is cheating wrong if you dont love your partner
<hides under bedclothes now expecting barrage of abuse from the do-gooders /
07 May 2006, 12:18 AM
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holy crap - how can you post such a subject !!
its a matter of trust !! dont take the line that its ok for me to have a dabble but she cant!! anyway this grass is allways greener etc...
its a matter of trust !! dont take the line that its ok for me to have a dabble but she cant!! anyway this grass is allways greener etc...
07 May 2006, 01:48 AM
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Originally Posted by to55er
For anyone thinking of being unfaithful, it really isn't worth it. I frequently have nightmares about both families of my partners finding out about my infidelity.
I've got myself in a self inflicted nightmare that I'm desperate to get out of, except I lack the moral fibre to do anything about it.
Just say no to infidelity.
I've got myself in a self inflicted nightmare that I'm desperate to get out of, except I lack the moral fibre to do anything about it.
Just say no to infidelity.
07 May 2006, 10:44 AM
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Originally Posted by lordharding
thank good im not the only bad lad on here
sometimes the grass moves about more and fits better
sometimes the grass moves about more and fits better
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07 May 2006, 10:54 AM
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Originally Posted by lordharding
thank good im not the only bad lad on here
sometimes the grass moves about more and fits better
sometimes the grass moves about more and fits better
That cracked me up.
07 May 2006, 11:32 AM
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Its down to whether you have the strength of character to remain faithful to your partner.
I am the first to admit how difficult that can be when the opportunity presents itself though.
It will always ruin a relationship in the end though.
Les
I am the first to admit how difficult that can be when the opportunity presents itself though.
It will always ruin a relationship in the end though.
Les
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Originally Posted by Leslie
Its down to whether you have the strength of character to remain faithful to your partner.
I am the first to admit how difficult that can be when the opportunity presents itself though.
It will always ruin a relationship in the end though.
Les
I am the first to admit how difficult that can be when the opportunity presents itself though.
It will always ruin a relationship in the end though.
Les
If you are truly happy with someone then temptation is very easy to decline. In fact, quite often the temptation doesn't exist because you're either a) not looking for it b) don't see it because you're already happy. If you do find your self tempted then you have to reflect on why. If it turns out that you are not completely happy, then you have three choices: fix it, put up with it, or move on.
My view is that if you want to move on, you should do the decent thing and end the current relationship first.
It's one thing to fall out with someone, it's quite another to behave in such a way that you impair their ability to trust someone in the future. The latter is often what happens when somone is cheated on.
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