How would you react if your son/daughter was ghey
24 May 2006, 11:54 PM
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My step daughter is gay, lives with her partner and their daughter, (my gorgeous little step grand daughter). And its none of your biz how that came about. Yes they have stayed here and shared a bed under our roof. My step son is also gay and in a steady relationship.
They are both very happy with their lives and very comfortable with their choice of path in this life. My husband 's attitude is, if they are happy and not causing harm or upset to anyone, then let them get on with it. They are still his kids, he still loves them.
Quite honestly, they seem a whole lot happier than a lot of hetro people of their ages.
Yve
They are both very happy with their lives and very comfortable with their choice of path in this life. My husband 's attitude is, if they are happy and not causing harm or upset to anyone, then let them get on with it. They are still his kids, he still loves them.
Quite honestly, they seem a whole lot happier than a lot of hetro people of their ages.
Yve
25 May 2006, 12:02 AM
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Originally Posted by Bubba po
Let's face it; all those options are likely. 
so there ya go, fella .. something else you didnt know about me
25 May 2006, 12:03 AM
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I have 3 kids, a daughter and 2 sons and at the end of the day if they are happy then I'm happy regardless of their sexuality etc.. I just wanna see them live a good life as I love them to bits 
25 May 2006, 12:06 AM
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Originally Posted by hectic
hardly bubba considering two of my boys are in steady hetrosexual relationships with very pretty girls, and i am the grandfather to two beautiful kids
so there ya go, fella .. something else you didnt know about me
so there ya go, fella .. something else you didnt know about me
25 May 2006, 12:09 AM
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Originally Posted by unclebuck
Are you the father? 
I have a vague recollection of a few ill-advised pernod and blacks followed by a fumbling encounter with someone who couldn't stop ball-aching about "New Labour".
25 May 2006, 12:18 AM
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Originally Posted by Bubba po
The difference is, I'm making a joke, and you're being an uptight bell-end. As usual.
25 May 2006, 12:18 AM
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Originally Posted by hectic
hardly bubba considering two of my boys are in steady hetrosexual relationships with very pretty girls, and i am the grandfather to two beautiful kids
so there ya go, fella .. something else you didnt know about me
so there ya go, fella .. something else you didnt know about me
25 May 2006, 12:21 AM
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as old as the hills fella see so little is known of me on here, because too many are ready to chastise so why should i be open about anything?
see so little is known of me on here, because too many are ready to chastise so why should i be open about anything?
25 May 2006, 12:22 AM
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Unclebuck you ask : ......Will she be gay also?
No more likely than her parents were going to be hetro because their parents were.~ I'll wait now, until you catch up.
Yve
No more likely than her parents were going to be hetro because their parents were.~ I'll wait now, until you catch up.
Yve
25 May 2006, 12:23 AM
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Originally Posted by hectic
as old as the hills fella see so little is known of me on here, because too many are ready to chastise so why should i be open about anything?
see so little is known of me on here, because too many are ready to chastise so why should i be open about anything?
\do you need help to cross the road mister?
25 May 2006, 12:30 AM
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Originally Posted by Apparition
Unclebuck you ask : ......Will she be gay also?
No more likely than her parents were going to be hetro because their parents were.~
Yve
No more likely than her parents were going to be hetro because their parents were.~
Yve
err... whatever, yea...
well said , TH
25 May 2006, 01:27 AM
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Thanks,hectic.It may come as a bit of a shock to begin with but at the end of the day,being gay is no crime.On the other hand,if my child becomes a criminal,my reaction will be quite hardcore
25 May 2006, 01:57 AM
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Originally Posted by Bubba po
Upbringing is a big factor.
External factors may affect an individual in becoming bi-sexual or gay e.g. the wave of gaymanship vogue,experiment with same sex,personality,chain rejections from heterosexual relationship etc. may result into one's growing up child deciding into becoming gay.
25 May 2006, 03:53 AM
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If either of my boys told me they were gay they would have my 100% blessing and the same from my wife.
I would advice them to talk to someone with a little more experience of gay life. My brother-in-law is gay as is one of by oldest friends.
I wouldn't ask my friends to try to talk them out of any life choices but to inform them of the difficulties they will encounter throughout their lives.
The only thing I would insist on is they get out of ANY relationship if they are not happy and look for happiness elsewhere as it is waiting for them to find it.
I would advice them to talk to someone with a little more experience of gay life. My brother-in-law is gay as is one of by oldest friends.
I wouldn't ask my friends to try to talk them out of any life choices but to inform them of the difficulties they will encounter throughout their lives.
The only thing I would insist on is they get out of ANY relationship if they are not happy and look for happiness elsewhere as it is waiting for them to find it.
25 May 2006, 04:55 AM
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The most important thing to any normal, decent, loving parent is the happiness of their children. I have friends and relatives who are openly homosexual. One of my friends did get a tough time (relatively briefly) from his religious parents but ultimately his happiness was the most important thing. He had been trying to live a straight life up until he was twenty three, having known from his early teens that he was gay, which must have been an absolute nightmare (he's a good looking guy and had lots of girlfriends which must have been very tough!!)
Everyone I know who is openly gay has pretty much known since early teens that they were so, the same time that a heterosexual person would start to become interested in the opposite sex (puberty???). It's just a case of when it is addressed. Therefore up-bringing, parenting, the mother watching Sex and The City whilst pregnant , has nothing to do with it, it's a pre-programmed genetic code that "comes out" at some point, the only choice is if you decide to be open about it. I doubt greatly that a pubescent child is aware of the fashionable side of being gay, or the benefits that being gay can bring if you are in media, or any creative / entertainment industry!
It's a sad reflection on society that some people still feel the need to hide their true selves, especially as we "pride" ourselves on "freeing" people from regimes where free expression is not allowed. Plus the fact that people have openly had same sex relationships since the beginning of man, some people still have issues with what two adults may enjoy in private......
Everyone I know who is openly gay has pretty much known since early teens that they were so, the same time that a heterosexual person would start to become interested in the opposite sex (puberty???). It's just a case of when it is addressed. Therefore up-bringing, parenting, the mother watching Sex and The City whilst pregnant
, has nothing to do with it, it's a pre-programmed genetic code that "comes out" at some point, the only choice is if you decide to be open about it. I doubt greatly that a pubescent child is aware of the fashionable side of being gay, or the benefits that being gay can bring if you are in media, or any creative / entertainment industry! It's a sad reflection on society that some people still feel the need to hide their true selves, especially as we "pride" ourselves on "freeing" people from regimes where free expression is not allowed. Plus the fact that people have openly had same sex relationships since the beginning of man, some people still have issues with what two adults may enjoy in private......
25 May 2006, 06:36 AM
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Apparition,
Does you husband never question why both of his kids turned out to be gay?
Personally if my kids turned out to be Gay I'd be pretty pissed off, and think I'd raised them wrong. I'd be double pissed if I had a boy and he was gay, I would really question my parenting skills then.
Does you husband never question why both of his kids turned out to be gay?
Personally if my kids turned out to be Gay I'd be pretty pissed off, and think I'd raised them wrong. I'd be double pissed if I had a boy and he was gay, I would really question my parenting skills then.
25 May 2006, 06:37 AM
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Kids brought up in a homosexual household will have a far higher chance of becoming gay themselves.
Indicating to me its more of a lifestyle thing sometimes.
Indicating to me its more of a lifestyle thing sometimes.
25 May 2006, 08:04 AM
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Originally Posted by davyboy
Apparition,
Does you husband never question why both of his kids turned out to be gay?
Personally if my kids turned out to be Gay I'd be pretty pissed off, and think I'd raised them wrong. I'd be double pissed if I had a boy and he was gay, I would really question my parenting skills then.
Does you husband never question why both of his kids turned out to be gay?
Personally if my kids turned out to be Gay I'd be pretty pissed off, and think I'd raised them wrong. I'd be double pissed if I had a boy and he was gay, I would really question my parenting skills then.
25 May 2006, 08:07 AM
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Originally Posted by cookstar
Kids brought up in a homosexual household will have a far higher chance of becoming gay themselves.
Indicating to me its more of a lifestyle thing sometimes.
Indicating to me its more of a lifestyle thing sometimes.
Anyway, how many gay homosexual households do you think there are? Hardly any.
25 May 2006, 08:15 AM
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I don't think I'd be happy about it, but I'd probably accept it. I do however believe that being gay is a choice and not just 'what you are'. I'm not homophobic, I have 2 friends who are gay, and they're the same as my other friends, but I personally would want my children to be gay...just my opinion.