Just wanna be friends..............
29 May 2006, 11:27 PM
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Well, one of the peole I know was told after 20 weeks of relationship with someone that she wants to be friends with him.She kinda just went off him!
The other lady i know was told by the geaser:sp: that he had probs and he didn't want ties etc.That was 6 months relationship.
Must be hurtful
The other lady i know was told by the geaser:sp: that he had probs and he didn't want ties etc.That was 6 months relationship.
Must be hurtful
29 May 2006, 11:34 PM
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Originally Posted by AudiLover
I treat my woman like 50 cent or bill clinton. It works
And,the rest are under your table?
30 May 2006, 08:02 AM
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Originally Posted by Turbohot
FPMSL!
I have platonic male friends.Through work or,through social interaction.Neither me nor them are really munters
( well,I would like to think so about myself anyway!
)
But It doesn't even cross my mind to be physically close to them in sexual way.That's because,I may be with someone else or,they may have partners or,there ain't that spark!<shrugs>
Platonic friendship is more from female side.Men usually do think the other way- so I have been told.
I have platonic male friends.Through work or,through social interaction.Neither me nor them are really munters
( well,I would like to think so about myself anyway!
)But It doesn't even cross my mind to be physically close to them in sexual way.That's because,I may be with someone else or,they may have partners or,there ain't that spark!<shrugs>
Platonic friendship is more from female side.Men usually do think the other way- so I have been told.
30 May 2006, 08:17 AM
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i have loads of female friends.But everyone of them i think "what they would look like with bugger all on"..???
I cant help it,and all my mates(male) are the same.Its just the primative way the mans mind works when it comes to women.Which is a good job really,cause if the mating ritual was left to women,we would have no kids but plenty of false nails and hair extensions to look at....
I cant help it,and all my mates(male) are the same.Its just the primative way the mans mind works when it comes to women.Which is a good job really,cause if the mating ritual was left to women,we would have no kids but plenty of false nails and hair extensions to look at....
30 May 2006, 08:47 AM
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I have a couple of female friends who have been 'hitting on me', but I'd rather just stay as friends and its difficult since I'm single & they think I'm available. I don't find either of them remotely attractive in that way, but they can be good friends. However, I did sort of 'accidentally' f**k them both in moments of weakness so I guess that could be somehow construed as encouraging them. Ho hum !
30 May 2006, 09:56 AM
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i think its down to misread signals on both sides...
i have a lot of male friends because of my interest in classic cars... only one of these friends has ever tried to be more of a friend...when i accepted his "offer" he backed down! live and learn eh?
i have a lot of male friends because of my interest in classic cars... only one of these friends has ever tried to be more of a friend...when i accepted his "offer" he backed down! live and learn eh?
30 May 2006, 10:38 AM
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In my vast experience........ you (speaking as a female) don't necessarily have to be aware you are leading a bloke on. Happened a few times here, I thought I was being just my ordinary nice self, and they interpreted it a whole different way. Very often, we girls are unaware of the vibes we are emitting. Short of wrapping ourselves up from head to toe as is the norm in some countries, I don't know what else we can do. I certainly was not about to compromise my attitude, mannerisms,personality to suit someone elses agenda.
Cheers , Yve
Cheers , Yve
30 May 2006, 11:52 AM
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Originally Posted by Apparition
In my vast experience........ you (speaking as a female) don't necessarily have to be aware you are leading a bloke on. Happened a few times here, I thought I was being just my ordinary nice self, and they interpreted it a whole different way. Very often, we girls are unaware of the vibes we are emitting. Short of wrapping ourselves up from head to toe as is the norm in some countries, I don't know what else we can do. I certainly was not about to compromise my attitude, mannerisms,personality to suit someone elses agenda.
Cheers , Yve
Cheers , Yve
30 May 2006, 12:16 PM
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Everyone knows when they are leading someone on :nod: What you might not realise is that someone is interpreting your genuine friendship as a come on. Only you have control over the situations you find yourself in as far as emotions are concerned. A friends hitting on you?? Tell them you are friends and it's a no no. It's all about them and their issues
You hitting on a friend?? What made you get the signals wrong?? 
It's all about you and your issues Also some people just lack any social skills and therefore cannot determine a difference between someone who is just being friendly and someone who actually fancies them because they don't get out much
There are also those who are flirty and overtly sexual because that's an insecurity in their part. These people can create the situation, a lot of the time on purpose, just to feel they are getting attention. They can be given a bad name
It all depends on how people deal with this situation. If you are real friends, it will never be a problem and you just carry on as normal.
However, if either party has issues, insecurities or a general need for medication then you may have a problem
HTH
PS and a lot of men are just ho's
30 May 2006, 12:48 PM
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Originally Posted by Neverguess
Also some people just lack any social skills and therefore cannot determine a difference between someone who is just being friendly and someone who actually fancies them because they don't get out much
Thick and ugly people are always going to find it difficult to understand.
30 May 2006, 01:21 PM
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Originally Posted by Fuzz
Women just being friendly IMO, always the men that think "she wants it"...
Andy
Andy
Quote Ricky Gervais, talking about an old sex education lessson:
"And there was none of this how to woo a lady etc.. My teacher was like *motions undoing his flies and whipping his old fella out* At the end of the day, who wouldn't want that up em, am I not wrong fellas"!!
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30 May 2006, 04:06 PM
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Originally Posted by lightning101
I am at a loss to understand any of this thread 
HTH
30 May 2006, 04:18 PM
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Originally Posted by lightning101
It's the "counting chickens" bit that I have been negating all this time 
Get a grip,Lightning!
30 May 2006, 04:43 PM
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Originally Posted by Neverguess
The jist of it is they never fancied TH's friend and he is having trouble dealing with it
HTH
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It wasn't the one-night stand talked here,it was a bit longer than that with almost positive signals(apparently).
Although,it's none of my problem but,I personally believe that the signals were misread.The other parties were just having some fun and,fulfilling their needs- not necessarily a long-term commitment .And, I feel sorry for the friends being too optimistic about it.
The idea of the thread was to get some views with people's experiences what they think.
30 May 2006, 05:13 PM
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You said they never fancied TH's friends.
If they did not fancy them,I don't think they would have gone to bed with them for weeks on end.They did not do more than fancying them temporarily.That's why,may be,it did not work out
BTW,there is a possibility they never fancied my friends.If it was me,it would have been another story
If they did not fancy them,I don't think they would have gone to bed with them for weeks on end.They did not do more than fancying them temporarily.That's why,may be,it did not work out
BTW,there is a possibility they never fancied my friends.If it was me,it would have been another story