ScoobyDoo555

Alg, we'll have to agree to disagree. From your post, I get the impression that you think my comments weren't aimed specifically at you - not so. The "caveman" comment was a generalisation - this isn't a comment about your situation.

With reference to my wife, no I'm not 100% certain at all. I'm 150% certain. We've known each other for 15 years and we celebrate our 9th wedding anniversary next week.

Perhaps I'm one of the more fortunate ones whose relationship just works. I can't begin to imagine what it must be like to have an untrustworthy partner.
And from that perspective, perhaps my opinion may seem harsh.

But it still doesn't take away my point that contraception is the responsibility of both parties. End of

btw, don't watch Trisha

Dan

ScoobyDoo555

PS, "possessions" was probably the wrong word

Dan

SHESCOOBY

Interesting reading when I am 37 weeks pregnant and we will be having our second baby week on monday

Dave told me he couldnt swim!!!! pmsl

ScoobyDoo555

lol

Phil

Has he told you he drives a Lotus?

I fear for this relationship ...........................

SHESCOOBY

Phil and its YELLOW lol




Kaz

JamieMacdonald

The pill is only 99.8% effective at best, so if you have sex 1000 times then on 1 or 2 occasions it might not work! So in my case that could be one failure a year!

But seriously, if you don't wan't kids - nothing wrong with the man taking a bit of resposibility and opting for the "belt and braces method"!

J4CKO

iTrader: (1)

Gor married, she complained of feeling sick a week into the honeymoon, we werent using anything but she had convinced us both that the stress of getting married, the flights, the skiing and snowmobiling would make it unlikely, me daft as a brush aged 24 beleived her !

Now have three, I wanted 2, she wanted 3, she won !

JamieMacdonald

Yeah, yeah.... Shotgun Wedding!

speed demoness

i have 3 of the little ****es.... love em to bits like,, but really wish I hadn't of opened mi legs !!!!!!!!!! hhehehehe

speye91

OOOOH EEERR

speed demoness

put it this way Mick... if I knew then what I know now.. i'd of deffo kept mi legs closed!!!!!

cookstar

iTrader: (6)

I have one child that was planned/ish, well that I know of

Stephb1986

its both adults responsibility at the end of the day why should it be down to just the men or just the women not all contraception is 100% affective if it happens it happens its the way it is

Turbohot

Tuts

As said above, it is both partners responsibility.

So as a couple in a responsible relationship you decide, as a couple, that the pill is the best method for both of you.

Are you suggesting, ScoobyDoo555 that because the female is on the pill that the male doesnt care about it. I think you will find that nearly every couple who use the pill do so because it is a choice they have made together.

I assume from your strong feelings that it is both partners responsibility that you use a condom aswell as your wife using the pill?

If that is not the case then you are not in a position to preach about it.

If that is the case then fair play.

AudiLover

so many bull**** replies in here.

If my GF says shes on the pill, that means we wont need condoms, plus why do woman go on the pill in the first place? Because its better without the rubber.

So your now telling me that if she decides to just stop taking the pill without telling me im at fault?

Lee247

Audilover, you are very bitter, who has done this

AudiLover

heard enough stories in the last few years for my trust of woman to vanish.

For example, woman stealing the mans money, house through divorce etc. Refusing fathers to see theyre kids, yet still shaking them down for a bundle of money.

I really cant see myself having kids or getting married in this day and age. Atleast not without a airtight prenup

ScoobyDoo555

I'm not suggesting that all males don't care but some of the comments made on this very bbs regarding this subject would lead me to believe this

But agreed, it is a shared responsibility.

This whole subject is beginning mutate into something else. I pointed out how wrong I felt somebody was to wholly blame the partner for the resulting child entrapment. It is/was both. Yes, there's an element of "bad luck", but at the end of the day, if the relationship (without knowing any details) was going sour, surely additional precautions should be taken. Perhaps that's just me with my silly "common sense"!!!

Either way, whatever. My wife and my kids are loved and wanted wholly by me. That's all I'm really concerned about. Nobody else really matters.

Dan

With reference to my own personal "habits", that is very personal, however, many options have been looked at.

Lee247

You will, I guarantee it.

AudiLover

yeah, if shes richer than me

Tuts

Agree, your personal habits are very personal. I just felt that if you were saying that both parties needed to take action then it would be hypocritical if you weren't.

As far as a relationship turning sour, I can sympathise with Audi on this as I would trust my partner in something as serious as this even if things went wrong. If she was supposed to be on the pill because that was their arrangement then it is not his fault if she stopped taking it.

It wouldn't even occurr to me that she might do that as it would be a rare psycho bitch from hell to do that. You cannot play about with something as serious as having kids.