Getting someone out your head.
14 December 2006, 12:15 AM
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Claire - No i want to get her out of my head 
As i feel that in the relationship with "the one" that its went as far as it can.
Is time a healer ????
As i feel that in the relationship with "the one" that its went as far as it can.Is time a healer ????
14 December 2006, 12:15 AM
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Originally Posted by sti-04!!
**** knows.
Even though a few years back i was due to get married
to another girl. ( i shat out of it & fcuked off to spain 2 weeks before the big )
She is the only other person i have discussed doing the big deed with & i meant it.
**** knows what to do.
Even though a few years back i was due to get married
to another girl. ( i shat out of it & fcuked off to spain 2 weeks before the big )She is the only other person i have discussed doing the big deed with & i meant it.
**** knows what to do.
can you do it?
14 December 2006, 12:17 AM
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Leopard dont change it's spots in my opinion....
You'll live a lie constantly trying to be the person you think she wants rather than being yourself...
You'll live a lie constantly trying to be the person you think she wants rather than being yourself...
14 December 2006, 12:17 AM
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Originally Posted by Fuzz
This wildness you have got, the fact you wont calm down as you put it, how has she said that affects the relationship in a way that she doesn't want to be with you any more????
I'm a bit lost there as I would have thought an up beat, happy go lucky, free as a bird attitude would be just what you WOULD look for in another person?
(weird thoughts of you with a brolly, singing in the rain so to speak) if you catch my drift!
Andy
I'm a bit lost there as I would have thought an up beat, happy go lucky, free as a bird attitude would be just what you WOULD look for in another person?
(weird thoughts of you with a brolly, singing in the rain so to speak) if you catch my drift!
Andy
I dont get your drift to be honest.
Are you saying i should be looking for these qualities ?? The girl in question had all of these when i met her, but she wanted to settle down .............. i kinda didnt.
14 December 2006, 12:22 AM
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Originally Posted by Turbohot
I reckon that she takes you as a very fickle person, what you could have been in her eyes. I think you need to change a lot of things about you, if you want to win her over. Prove to her that you have those quatlities she likes, the ones she went for a long time ago. Not just on superficial level, but in a permanent way.
can you do it?
can you do it?
I can change a few things but not everything. I couldnt turn into a Passat man, if you get my meaning ??
14 December 2006, 12:23 AM
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Originally Posted by sti-04!!
Claire - No i want to get her out of my head As i feel that in the relationship with "the one" that its went as far as it can.
Is time a healer ????
As i feel that in the relationship with "the one" that its went as far as it can.Is time a healer ????
Are you positive there's no opportunity for you to tell her how you feel? Is she seeing someone else? Does she, whilst being angry with you, have similar feelings toward you?
You'll regret not at least trying to be with her, surely.
14 December 2006, 12:24 AM
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Originally Posted by Fuzz
No I didn't mean that, I just meant had an outlook on life like Sinatra in Singing in the rain, all jolly and free like...
Andy
Andy
This situation is driving me mad.
14 December 2006, 12:25 AM
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Originally Posted by sti-04!!
I can change a few things but not everything. I couldnt turn into a Passat man, if you get my meaning ??
Put her out of your mind, son. Plenty more fish in the sea. 
14 December 2006, 12:27 AM
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Originally Posted by JTaylor
Yeah, of course, you'll think about her less and less. What if she is 'the one' though? Are you prepared to live with the regret and how, in line with recent experience, will this affect future relationships?
Are you positive there's no opportunity for you to tell her how you feel? Is she seeing someone else? Does she, whilst being angry with you, have similar feelings toward you?
You'll regret not at least trying to be with her, surely.
Are you positive there's no opportunity for you to tell her how you feel? Is she seeing someone else? Does she, whilst being angry with you, have similar feelings toward you?
You'll regret not at least trying to be with her, surely.
14 December 2006, 12:27 AM
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Agree with JT...
Nothing whatsoever to loose by going for broke......
Whatever it takes, no matter what.
Sell up, move to Mongolia, dye your hair pink... If this is it, last chance..
Nothing else matters really does it?
There's only one of them, and only one life to live it in.......
As I said above though the only thing you cant change is yourself..
Nothing whatsoever to loose by going for broke......
Whatever it takes, no matter what.
Sell up, move to Mongolia, dye your hair pink... If this is it, last chance..
Nothing else matters really does it?
There's only one of them, and only one life to live it in.......
As I said above though the only thing you cant change is yourself..
14 December 2006, 12:28 AM
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Originally Posted by sti-04!!
I think i can. We spoke a while ago & she asked me to change something that really got to her. Even though it cost me a lot to do it (not financial) i did it. Though i think at that point it was too late.
I can change a few things but not everything. I couldnt turn into a Passat man, if you get my meaning ??
I can change a few things but not everything. I couldnt turn into a Passat man, if you get my meaning ??
It sounds as if you both need to mature in many ways. You needn't be threatened of her demands, nor does she need to take you for a selfish lover.
You both need to adjust with each other and, give each other space/liberty ( as long as it is not misused)
Communicate with her on such issues. if she still feels for you in the same way, you will win her back
14 December 2006, 12:30 AM
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Been there myself, sad to say only time and good friends are about the only things that will help I'm afraid.
In the end, it was my mates that got me through my ****, oh and hobbies. Oh and I even changed jobs because of her.
Lesson learnt, never screw around in the company, even if they are in a different office.
In the end, it was my mates that got me through my ****, oh and hobbies. Oh and I even changed jobs because of her.
Lesson learnt, never screw around in the company, even if they are in a different office.
14 December 2006, 12:32 AM
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Originally Posted by JTaylor
Put her out of your mind, son. Plenty more fish in the sea. Certain people in life manage to find a little corner to hide in and pop out to say hello occasionally...
I don't think I'll ever forget mine. (Sarah)
14 December 2006, 12:32 AM
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Originally Posted by sti-04!!
Ps for the thick of thinking a Passat man is a boring ****. 
HtH
HtH
Hurray!How easy was that!
14 December 2006, 12:35 AM
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Originally Posted by Turbohot
So, basically, you just needed people to tell you to get her out of your mind?
Hurray!How easy was that!
Hurray!How easy was that!
What i am saying is that i am far from being boring & 2 plus 2.
I want a lot from life & at the moment life has been kind.
I just wanted to talk about my situation as i cant talk face to face with my friends as one friends g/f is my ex's best friend & so on. If you get my drift ??
14 December 2006, 12:41 AM
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I think something more than flowers is in order, something in the order of... let me think... have it written across the building opposite to where she works.. stuff like you see in the movies...
Have plane fly over with a banner... Ring her and just say look out the window....
Have plane fly over with a banner... Ring her and just say look out the window....
14 December 2006, 12:43 AM
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Originally Posted by Fuzz
Certain people in life manage to find a little corner to hide in and pop out to say hello occasionally...
I don't think I'll ever forget mine. (Sarah)
I don't think I'll ever forget mine. (Sarah)
Any way, off to bed. Chin up matey
Good night all
14 December 2006, 12:44 AM
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Originally Posted by sti-04!!
TH - No.
What i am saying is that i am far from being boring & 2 plus 2.
I want a lot from life & at the moment life has been kind.
I just wanted to talk about my situation as i cant talk face to face with my friends as one friends g/f is my ex's best friend & so on. If you get my drift ??
What i am saying is that i am far from being boring & 2 plus 2.
I want a lot from life & at the moment life has been kind.
I just wanted to talk about my situation as i cant talk face to face with my friends as one friends g/f is my ex's best friend & so on. If you get my drift ??
I was just saying that 18 out of 36 qualities between a man and a woman are to be matched between them for relationship purposes; according to the Indian horroscope match making
Now, if the girl likes a boring twohat with a passat, she has to find someone else. You need someone who likes what you like! You will get one, one day
Divert your attention to other activities and people. You will be ok.
Some people leave a mark of their presence in your life for the time being, until someone better comes and erases it. Or, that mark stays on, regardless of any new arrival.That mark can be treasured, if you are brave enough to do so. Or, put mental/emotional blocks to block all the memories.
Good luck again, Stephen
14 December 2006, 12:44 AM
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Originally Posted by JTaylor
I think we all know that feeling, Fuzz.
Any way, off to bed. Chin up matey
Good night all
Any way, off to bed. Chin up matey
Good night all
Night....zzzzzzzzzzzzzz
14 December 2006, 12:47 AM
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Originally Posted by Turbohot
Sure.
I was just saying that 18 out of 36 qualities between a man and a woman are to be matched between them for relationship purposes; according to the Indian horroscope match making
Now, if the girl likes a boring twohat with a passat, she has to find someone else. You need someone who likes what you like! You will get one, one day
Divert your attention to other activities and people. You will be ok.
Some people leave a mark of their presence in your life for the time being, until someone better comes and erases it. Or, that mark stays on, regardless of any new arrival.That mark can be treasured, if you are brave enough to do so. Or, put mental/emotional blocks to block all the memories.
Good luck again, Stephen
I was just saying that 18 out of 36 qualities between a man and a woman are to be matched between them for relationship purposes; according to the Indian horroscope match making
Now, if the girl likes a boring twohat with a passat, she has to find someone else. You need someone who likes what you like! You will get one, one day
Divert your attention to other activities and people. You will be ok.
Some people leave a mark of their presence in your life for the time being, until someone better comes and erases it. Or, that mark stays on, regardless of any new arrival.That mark can be treasured, if you are brave enough to do so. Or, put mental/emotional blocks to block all the memories.
Good luck again, Stephen
I think she wants something a bit more but without the running costs.
I hope i can give her this & i will try & cut down the running costs
14 December 2006, 12:50 AM
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One other thing that spooked me (before I go, just remembered)
Split up with her years ago, moved on.
One Christmas decided to go to London for a bit of Christmas shopping, (not something we used to do together either..)
I was looking at the pavement, wandering along and accidentally bumped shoulders with someone, looked up from my daydream to apologise just as she looked up to say the same.
Weird **** like that freaks me out about it. like we were suppose to be there...
Anyway... bed
Split up with her years ago, moved on.
One Christmas decided to go to London for a bit of Christmas shopping, (not something we used to do together either..)
I was looking at the pavement, wandering along and accidentally bumped shoulders with someone, looked up from my daydream to apologise just as she looked up to say the same.
Weird **** like that freaks me out about it. like we were suppose to be there...
Anyway... bed
get stuffed