Getting someone out your head.
14 December 2006, 11:08 AM
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Originally Posted by Paul3446
There's only one way to show her you are serious and that's to propose! 
Anything less and she won't believe that you've changed.
Anything less and she won't believe that you've changed.
Thanks for your reply but there is no hope in hell i would do that at the moment, it stinks of desperation & she knows thats not me.
14 December 2006, 11:14 AM
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Originally Posted by sti-04!!
Thanks for your reply but there is no hope in hell i would do that at the moment, it stinks of desperation & she knows thats not me.
14 December 2006, 11:17 AM
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Originally Posted by davegtt
You know, if you asked me a few months ago I would have sat and agreed with everybody on this message board. win her back if its what you want, chase until she gives you that chance etc.
After a few life changing weeks I look at things completely different now. For a start this woman your chasing, if she really wanted to be with you then she would be. She isnt and thats enough to know that even if you get her back shes not going to be entirely happy. Your going to be spending too much time proving to her who you can be etc rather than enjoying the time together. It isnt good for a relationship, you'll be putting in too much effort and IMO relationships shouldnt be like that, off course all relationships need effort but in the sence that one does the cooking the other does the washing type thing. Not the type of effort trying to be somebody who your partner would like.
I dont know if any of this is useful to you or not, you asked for opinions so here is mine. Live your life your way and even though you havent met the girl that turns your attention away from the other, it will happen eventually.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
After a few life changing weeks I look at things completely different now. For a start this woman your chasing, if she really wanted to be with you then she would be. She isnt and thats enough to know that even if you get her back shes not going to be entirely happy. Your going to be spending too much time proving to her who you can be etc rather than enjoying the time together. It isnt good for a relationship, you'll be putting in too much effort and IMO relationships shouldnt be like that, off course all relationships need effort but in the sence that one does the cooking the other does the washing type thing. Not the type of effort trying to be somebody who your partner would like.
I dont know if any of this is useful to you or not, you asked for opinions so here is mine. Live your life your way and even though you havent met the girl that turns your attention away from the other, it will happen eventually.
Good luck with whatever you decide.
14 December 2006, 11:24 AM
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I remember years back going after this girl, wanted to nail her so bad my ***** hurt 
Managed to blow her back doors out on the first 'date' and realised what a little dirty little **** sukin *** ******* slapper she was, didnt bother from then onwards.
Not really relevant to the topic, but just reminded me
Is it a case of wanting what you cant have? I have the same problem with the Gfs mum
Managed to blow her back doors out on the first 'date' and realised what a little dirty little **** sukin *** ******* slapper she was, didnt bother from then onwards.Not really relevant to the topic, but just reminded me
Is it a case of wanting what you cant have? I have the same problem with the Gfs mum
14 December 2006, 11:24 AM
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Thanks for your reply but there is no hope in hell i would do that at the moment, it stinks of desperation & she knows thats not me.
Then I think you should forget about her and move on.
Thanks for your reply but there is no hope in hell i would do that at the moment, it stinks of desperation & she knows thats not me.
Then I think you should forget about her and move on.
14 December 2006, 11:28 AM
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Originally Posted by POC
I remember years back going after this girl, wanted to nail her so bad my ***** hurt Managed to blow her back doors out on the first 'date' and realised what a little dirty little **** sukin *** ******* slapper she was, didnt bother from then onwards.
Not really relevant to the topic, but just reminded me
Is it a case of wanting what you cant have? I have the same problem with the Gfs mum
Managed to blow her back doors out on the first 'date' and realised what a little dirty little **** sukin *** ******* slapper she was, didnt bother from then onwards.Not really relevant to the topic, but just reminded me
Is it a case of wanting what you cant have? I have the same problem with the Gfs mum
14 December 2006, 11:51 AM
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Stephen, stop being a ponce and move on. If she was meant to be with you she'd happily be down on her knees in front of you every night.
You don't manufacture a relationship. It's mutual.
Good luck.
You don't manufacture a relationship. It's mutual.
Good luck.
14 December 2006, 12:17 PM
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Originally Posted by Spoon
Stephen, stop being a ponce and move on. If she was meant to be with you she'd happily be down on her knees in front of you every night.
You don't manufacture a relationship. It's mutual.
Good luck.
You don't manufacture a relationship. It's mutual.
Good luck.
14 December 2006, 01:03 PM
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She must have thought enough of you to come back once, but found you had not changed from what you were. You don't give us details of the behaviour which caused her to take off but the second time she obviously decided that it was not for her, and now she is not prepared to risk having to endure it again.
It would be a long and difficult exercise to persuade her to try again I think, I can't say how you could manage it. You would have to get her to believe that the leopard can change its spots and that would take some doing. All you can do is to keep trying from time to time but not in such a way that you annoy her in the process.
Les
It would be a long and difficult exercise to persuade her to try again I think, I can't say how you could manage it. You would have to get her to believe that the leopard can change its spots and that would take some doing. All you can do is to keep trying from time to time but not in such a way that you annoy her in the process.
Les
14 December 2006, 01:50 PM
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Since when have you been one for beating around the bush?
Stop being such a *** and just tell her! If she says no, deal with it. If she says yes, deal with her
LOL!
Stop being such a *** and just tell her! If she says no, deal with it. If she says yes, deal with her
LOL!
14 December 2006, 01:57 PM
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Originally Posted by eClaire
Since when have you been one for beating around the bush?
Stop being such a *** and just tell her! If she says no, deal with it. If she says yes, deal with her LOL!
Stop being such a *** and just tell her! If she says no, deal with it. If she says yes, deal with her
LOL!
14 December 2006, 02:01 PM
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Originally Posted by sti-04!!
Going to go see her tonight, txt'd her & ask to meet up. Will see what happens.
14 December 2006, 02:03 PM
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Originally Posted by STi wanna Subaru
Drop Poor Guy a PM for a few bedroom tips
Should be a definite to bew going home ......
Myself if i use his patter
14 December 2006, 02:13 PM
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Originally Posted by jasey
RTM'd - Someone's hijacked sti-04's account .
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14 December 2006, 02:20 PM
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Don't really want to take a dump on your parade........but there is a good chance that she went out with you when you were a loose cannon, because that's the sort of thing that she liked. So she grows up a bit and gets sick of living life in the fast lane and decides to move on.
You will always be the loose cannon type in her eyes.
It may also be that 90% of her initial attraction to you was the way you lived your life, with that gone there may not be much left.
For me, I would always want to be with someone that doesn't need to be convinced that I have changed. I can't see a relationship of any worth coming from someone trying to be something else.
It may just be too late.
It could also be that I know nothing, so don't pay too much attention to what I said.......
You will always be the loose cannon type in her eyes.
It may also be that 90% of her initial attraction to you was the way you lived your life, with that gone there may not be much left.
For me, I would always want to be with someone that doesn't need to be convinced that I have changed. I can't see a relationship of any worth coming from someone trying to be something else.
It may just be too late.
It could also be that I know nothing, so don't pay too much attention to what I said.......
14 December 2006, 02:24 PM
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sti - we have a person with absolutely enormous ears in muppets that has a similair problem, for some expert advice (free of charge I might add), go to this thread, the trouble starts at post 12
https://www.scoobynet.com/muppet-sho...noon-cino.html
https://www.scoobynet.com/muppet-sho...noon-cino.html
14 December 2006, 02:31 PM
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Originally Posted by hail-hail
Don't really want to take a dump on your parade........but there is a good chance that she went out with you when you were a loose cannon, because that's the sort of thing that she liked. So she grows up a bit and gets sick of living life in the fast lane and decides to move on.
You will always be the loose cannon type in her eyes.
It may also be that 90% of her initial attraction to you was the way you lived your life, with that gone there may not be much left.
For me, I would always want to be with someone that doesn't need to be convinced that I have changed. I can't see a relationship of any worth coming from someone trying to be something else.
It may just be too late.
It could also be that I know nothing, so don't pay too much attention to what I said.......
You will always be the loose cannon type in her eyes.
It may also be that 90% of her initial attraction to you was the way you lived your life, with that gone there may not be much left.
For me, I would always want to be with someone that doesn't need to be convinced that I have changed. I can't see a relationship of any worth coming from someone trying to be something else.
It may just be too late.
It could also be that I know nothing, so don't pay too much attention to what I said.......
It's not that complicated. She liked you for a while now she's gone off you. End of
Men seem to have a little trouble with women moving on and them not being in control, but it happens 
We change our mind
14 December 2006, 02:41 PM
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Originally Posted by Neverguess
It's not that complicated. She liked you for a while now she's gone off you. End of Men seem to have a little trouble with women moving on and them not being in control, but it happens We change our mind
Men seem to have a little trouble with women moving on and them not being in control, but it happens We change our mind
14 December 2006, 02:44 PM
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Originally Posted by Karl 227
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