Getting someone out your head.
14 December 2006, 03:17 PM
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Originally Posted by POC
I remember years back going after this girl, wanted to nail her so bad my ***** hurt 
Managed to blow her back doors out on the first 'date' and realised what a little dirty little **** sukin *** ******* slapper she was, didnt bother from then onwards.
Not really relevant to the topic, but just reminded me
Is it a case of wanting what you cant have? I have the same problem with the Gfs mum
Managed to blow her back doors out on the first 'date' and realised what a little dirty little **** sukin *** ******* slapper she was, didnt bother from then onwards.Not really relevant to the topic, but just reminded me
Is it a case of wanting what you cant have? I have the same problem with the Gfs mum
Now, regarding the posters question. If she won't speak to you in person write her a letter telling her how you feel. All you can do really. Maybe, just maybe, if you're really honest and humble you'll get a response. Don't get your hopes up though!
If she doesn't reply, might I suggest you contact the girl POC refers to for help getting her out of your head!
Ns04
Ps "You're only supposed to blow the front doors off!!"
14 December 2006, 03:37 PM
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Originally Posted by Karl 227
This post has been brought to you by Neverguess, supporter of womens rights, and a selebate lesbian for the past three years
I find most of them uninteresting
Or ugly
14 December 2006, 03:44 PM
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I'm going to go against the grain here - DO NOT write letters/ phone her/ hang around hoping to bump into her/ show her this thread.
A few years back I realised I wanted out of a relationship, my fella at the time didn't, the more he tried to win me back the more I began to dislike him, in the end I had lost all respect for him for not being able to move on.
IMO the best way to show her what she is missing is to get on with your life, have plenty of nights out with your mates, go on holiday - basically just have a lot of fun, somewhere in the process you may find you are thinking about her less and less. She may have a re-think about her feelings for you when she realises what she has lost out on (especially if you start seeing other women!).
If she can't be with you unless you change then you are not right for each other, there will be someone out there who likes you just the way you are, trying to change someone to fit your ideals can lead to a lot of resentment further down the line.
This time of year is great for pulling, get off Scoobynet and get out there
A few years back I realised I wanted out of a relationship, my fella at the time didn't, the more he tried to win me back the more I began to dislike him, in the end I had lost all respect for him for not being able to move on.
IMO the best way to show her what she is missing is to get on with your life, have plenty of nights out with your mates, go on holiday - basically just have a lot of fun, somewhere in the process you may find you are thinking about her less and less. She may have a re-think about her feelings for you when she realises what she has lost out on (especially if you start seeing other women!).
If she can't be with you unless you change then you are not right for each other, there will be someone out there who likes you just the way you are, trying to change someone to fit your ideals can lead to a lot of resentment further down the line.
This time of year is great for pulling, get off Scoobynet and get out there
14 December 2006, 03:46 PM
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Originally Posted by Lydia72
I'm going to go against the grain here - DO NOT write letters/ phone her/ hang around hoping to bump into her/ show her this thread.
A few years back I realised I wanted out of a relationship, my fella at the time didn't, the more he tried to win me back the more I began to dislike him, in the end I had lost all respect for him for not being able to move on.
IMO the best way to show her what she is missing is to get on with your life, have plenty of nights out with your mates, go on holiday - basically just have a lot of fun, somewhere in the process you may find you are thinking about her less and less. She may have a re-think about her feelings for you when she realises what she has lost out on (especially if you start seeing other women!).
If she can't be with you unless you change then you are not right for each other, there will be someone out there who likes you just the way you are, trying to change someone to fit your ideals can lead to a lot of resentment further down the line.
This time of year is great for pulling, get off Scoobynet and get out there
A few years back I realised I wanted out of a relationship, my fella at the time didn't, the more he tried to win me back the more I began to dislike him, in the end I had lost all respect for him for not being able to move on.
IMO the best way to show her what she is missing is to get on with your life, have plenty of nights out with your mates, go on holiday - basically just have a lot of fun, somewhere in the process you may find you are thinking about her less and less. She may have a re-think about her feelings for you when she realises what she has lost out on (especially if you start seeing other women!).
If she can't be with you unless you change then you are not right for each other, there will be someone out there who likes you just the way you are, trying to change someone to fit your ideals can lead to a lot of resentment further down the line.
This time of year is great for pulling, get off Scoobynet and get out there
14 December 2006, 03:50 PM
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Originally Posted by KiwiGTI
What is it with men these days, why are they so weak and clingy. Emancipate yourself, no women is worth getting like this for. It's pathetic.
Writing letters ffs!!!
Writing letters ffs!!!
Don't do that - that will do nothing to endear them to you!
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14 December 2006, 03:57 PM
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Originally Posted by Lydia72
I'm going to go against the grain here - DO NOT write letters/ phone her/ hang around hoping to bump into her/ show her this thread.
A few years back I realised I wanted out of a relationship, my fella at the time didn't, the more he tried to win me back the more I began to dislike him, in the end I had lost all respect for him for not being able to move on.
IMO the best way to show her what she is missing is to get on with your life, have plenty of nights out with your mates, go on holiday - basically just have a lot of fun, somewhere in the process you may find you are thinking about her less and less. She may have a re-think about her feelings for you when she realises what she has lost out on (especially if you start seeing other women!).
If she can't be with you unless you change then you are not right for each other, there will be someone out there who likes you just the way you are, trying to change someone to fit your ideals can lead to a lot of resentment further down the line.
This time of year is great for pulling, get off Scoobynet and get out there
A few years back I realised I wanted out of a relationship, my fella at the time didn't, the more he tried to win me back the more I began to dislike him, in the end I had lost all respect for him for not being able to move on.
IMO the best way to show her what she is missing is to get on with your life, have plenty of nights out with your mates, go on holiday - basically just have a lot of fun, somewhere in the process you may find you are thinking about her less and less. She may have a re-think about her feelings for you when she realises what she has lost out on (especially if you start seeing other women!).
If she can't be with you unless you change then you are not right for each other, there will be someone out there who likes you just the way you are, trying to change someone to fit your ideals can lead to a lot of resentment further down the line.
This time of year is great for pulling, get off Scoobynet and get out there
That's what I was trying to say
Absolutley spot on
14 December 2006, 04:00 PM
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If she has moved on, then I reckon Lydia is right and by pursuing her, you'll just push her further away. If not, and you don't try then you may loose out.
Your call mate! It's my experience that it's the things in life we don't do that we often regret the most!
Ns04
Your call mate! It's my experience that it's the things in life we don't do that we often regret the most!
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14 December 2006, 05:09 PM
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I have to agree with those that have said it's best to move on. There's a certain amount of pursuing that is acceptable in the early stages, but if you have to force something I think it's a dead loss. I was seeing someone over the summer that ended a couple of months ago. I was gutted about it at the time and did try things to get her back, but ultimately it works against you, and now a bit of time has passed it's a lot easier to see that desperately trying to get her back was the wrong thing to do - hopefully I'll learn from it for next time (if it happens again).
Sorry to say that, but a relationship has to have balance. As soon as one is more keen than the other it's game over, and nothing you can do will get it back to where it was.
Another thing I've learnt - the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.
Sorry to say that, but a relationship has to have balance. As soon as one is more keen than the other it's game over, and nothing you can do will get it back to where it was.
Another thing I've learnt - the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.
14 December 2006, 07:51 PM
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Originally Posted by STi wanna Subaru
anybody else lost respect for sti04 with this thread? or did you not have any for him before?
or did you not have any for him before?
When i wrote the thread i was drunk, at least i had the ***** to go through with it this morning even though i woke up & thought what the **** have i done
14 December 2006, 08:56 PM
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TBH reading the first two pages, listening to Damien Rice's new album, with a bottle of red inside i was on the edge of blubbery.
Now the **** taking and realism (read pessimism (sp)) have kicked in it has taken the edge off a bit, i think i'm ok
On topic, are you meeting her or what?
Now the **** taking and realism (read pessimism (sp)) have kicked in it has taken the edge off a bit, i think i'm ok
On topic, are you meeting her or what?
14 December 2006, 09:40 PM
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What's you favourite Dido song then ?
Sorry mate, I am in touch with me feminine side but this was all a bit to much, its like forum based Chick Lit.
Just look at it this way, she may have been the one, the only girl in the world for you, bollocks to that, the world is full of women and whats the chance of that one being the only compatiable one that you really like, I could understand that if you had met every female of breeding age and picked her then yes, dwell on it but in the meantime snap out of it and go and annoy some new women until one says yes.
Me and J4cko's mate used to work like Lions, not like we were king of the jungle or any of that, just we used to survey the whole herd and single out the old or sickly ones and move in for the kill.
Sorry mate, I am in touch with me feminine side but this was all a bit to much, its like forum based Chick Lit.
Just look at it this way, she may have been the one, the only girl in the world for you, bollocks to that, the world is full of women and whats the chance of that one being the only compatiable one that you really like, I could understand that if you had met every female of breeding age and picked her then yes, dwell on it but in the meantime snap out of it and go and annoy some new women until one says yes.
Me and J4cko's mate used to work like Lions, not like we were king of the jungle or any of that, just we used to survey the whole herd and single out the old or sickly ones and move in for the kill.
14 December 2006, 09:57 PM
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Originally Posted by Wish
didnt you bugger off with a mate bird ??
I don't even know what a mate-bird looks like anyway
15 December 2006, 12:42 PM
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Originally Posted by Robbie T
No, that could be seen as libel as well
I don't even know what a mate-bird looks like anyway
I don't even know what a mate-bird looks like anyway
15 December 2006, 12:55 PM
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listening to Damien Rice's new album, with a bottle of red inside i was on the edge of blubbery.
Never got too excited about O........ other than Amie, Canonball and The Blowers Daughter.
Potential was there but a truly awful follow up album IMHO
PS Sti-04
Move on, anyone who wants anyone to change isn't worth it.
15 December 2006, 05:14 PM
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As commented by a few but reading this thread has brought back a few (unpleasant) memories.
I'm in a similiar situation, saw this girl for 5/6 months and everthing was good. One thing led to another and we split up. After a month or so we went out for a drink as friends (her idea) then ended up in bed. She asked me to give things a go again and I did. No sooner had we got back together things were just not right and we agreed that for whatever reason as much as we lusted/loved each other it wasn't right at this time and see what the future holds.
Since then I have been playing the field and been very lucky and been with or out with all the girls I have wanted to. Currently seeing someone who is lovely, a very geniune girl (far better and nicer person than my ex) but for some reason same as you my ex plays on my mind a lot. Silly things like I find myself driving past her work hoping to get a glimpse of her or hoping to bump into her
Now I know that it wouldn't work and i'm better off without her but can never answer to myself why I think about her? All I can put it down to is we always want what we can't have. Especially as I seem to have the choice of several women at the moment and find meeting new ones very easy. She feels like the one that got away, but i'm sure it only feels like that as she is the only one that doesn't want me.
If she turned up on my doorstep tonight and begged me to take her back i'd say no as deep down I know that isn't the right thing to do. It hasn't worked twice before why put myself through it all over again.
Theres my story, just proves you can't really control feelings and emotions they control you.
As for your situation don't lose your dignity make one effort yes but if she doesn't respond then leave her alone, keep yourself busy and enjoy life. Sods law will be just as your getting over her she will knock on your door and say she wants you back. Life works out funny sometimes.
Never forget though we always want what we can't have. Are you absolutely sure she is definately what you want?
Good luck
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I'm in a similiar situation, saw this girl for 5/6 months and everthing was good. One thing led to another and we split up. After a month or so we went out for a drink as friends (her idea) then ended up in bed. She asked me to give things a go again and I did. No sooner had we got back together things were just not right and we agreed that for whatever reason as much as we lusted/loved each other it wasn't right at this time and see what the future holds.
Since then I have been playing the field and been very lucky and been with or out with all the girls I have wanted to. Currently seeing someone who is lovely, a very geniune girl (far better and nicer person than my ex) but for some reason same as you my ex plays on my mind a lot. Silly things like I find myself driving past her work hoping to get a glimpse of her or hoping to bump into her
Now I know that it wouldn't work and i'm better off without her but can never answer to myself why I think about her? All I can put it down to is we always want what we can't have. Especially as I seem to have the choice of several women at the moment and find meeting new ones very easy. She feels like the one that got away, but i'm sure it only feels like that as she is the only one that doesn't want me.
If she turned up on my doorstep tonight and begged me to take her back i'd say no as deep down I know that isn't the right thing to do. It hasn't worked twice before why put myself through it all over again.
Theres my story, just proves you can't really control feelings and emotions they control you.
As for your situation don't lose your dignity make one effort yes but if she doesn't respond then leave her alone, keep yourself busy and enjoy life. Sods law will be just as your getting over her she will knock on your door and say she wants you back. Life works out funny sometimes.
Never forget though we always want what we can't have. Are you absolutely sure she is definately what you want?
Good luck
Chop
15 December 2006, 06:47 PM
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Chop, spot on, its the wanting what you cant have thing, intelligent people like uk rationalise this and get over it, perhaps even enjoy it for what it is.
Anyway, I can simulate this 'Want what I cant get at home', its dead easy, just be a pig to the missus, tell her shes put weight on, do nowt around the house and buy a car without telling her and lo and behold you will be yearning for a leg over with the missus like old times.
Anyway, I can simulate this 'Want what I cant get at home', its dead easy, just be a pig to the missus, tell her shes put weight on, do nowt around the house and buy a car without telling her and lo and behold you will be yearning for a leg over with the missus like old times.
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Chop.
That kind of sums it all up.
I think the problem i was having was that i just kept thinking about her, but after speaking to her its time to move on. More probably wanting something i couldnt get .... well i think last night was the last time
Will see what bacon i bring home tonight
That kind of sums it all up.
I think the problem i was having was that i just kept thinking about her, but after speaking to her its time to move on. More probably wanting something i couldnt get .... well i think last night was the last time
Will see what bacon i bring home tonight
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