Gf family dilemma
01 May 2007, 01:17 PM
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It is important that you support your girl friend by going along to the meal. Walking out at the last one was a mistake. You let the cousin get to you which will have satisfied her unpleasant ambitions.
Next time tell her to wind her neck in and keep her nose out of other's business. The more politely you do it the better. If she throws a wobbly so much the better. The others will doubtless know her for what she is anyway.
Once you have sorted her out, you never know that she might not learn the lesson and become a better person to know.
Les
Next time tell her to wind her neck in and keep her nose out of other's business. The more politely you do it the better. If she throws a wobbly so much the better. The others will doubtless know her for what she is anyway.
Once you have sorted her out, you never know that she might not learn the lesson and become a better person to know.
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01 May 2007, 01:17 PM
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I would not sacrifice going to a family meal just because of one annoying realtive. They are the problem, not you. Personally I'd have a chat with the g/f's parents and explain that you felt uncomfortable by what this cousin was saying at "their" meal. I'd ask them if her comment about it being your fault holds any water. Yes, you are potentially opening yourself up to them saying she is correct, then again, if they are truthful (and ask them to be brutally truthful) and say they don't think that at all, then you know this cousin is just some twisted spiteful bitch, as if that wasn't obvious enough.
I'm a nice guy, but I tend to give as good as I get. As others said, she probably won't like it if someone puts her in her place, as it sounds as little miss silver spoon expects everyone to do exactly what she wants when she wants. She's pushing buttons to see if you'll react, probably hoping you'll cause a scene and then she can get off on it.
I'd smile sweetly at the bitch when she starts mouthing off and just ignore her, hard as it might be. How often is it going to be that you'll actually have to put up with her?
I'm a nice guy, but I tend to give as good as I get. As others said, she probably won't like it if someone puts her in her place, as it sounds as little miss silver spoon expects everyone to do exactly what she wants when she wants. She's pushing buttons to see if you'll react, probably hoping you'll cause a scene and then she can get off on it.
I'd smile sweetly at the bitch when she starts mouthing off and just ignore her, hard as it might be. How often is it going to be that you'll actually have to put up with her?
01 May 2007, 01:20 PM
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THAT for the win for sure....she'll deffo leave you alone after that!
01 May 2007, 01:24 PM
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attitude and get even not mad
01 May 2007, 01:26 PM
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To put a slightly different view point on it, if your girlfriend has moved away to be with you, there probably is an element of truth in it.
That is not to say that you are the reason, but you may be the cause.
There is no getting away from that, its an understandable position.
As Markus has said - ignore the tactless cow, and concentrate on making sure the girlfriends parents think you are the best thing since sliced bread
That is not to say that you are the reason, but you may be the cause.
There is no getting away from that, its an understandable position.
As Markus has said - ignore the tactless cow, and concentrate on making sure the girlfriends parents think you are the best thing since sliced bread
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Whilst it may well make for an entertaining thread on Scoobynet, it may not workout so well in reality.
01 May 2007, 01:31 PM
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You have to support your girlfriend. Her cousin may be a bitch who preys on the sensitive/weak, so you need to be strong and make it clear to her cousin. There are a few good ways quoted here, but favourite has always ben use of the 'C' word, women hate it; whisper to her that you think she's a C**T and watch her run. Be civil to her fist though to ensure that everyone thinks you're all getting along fine.
01 May 2007, 01:32 PM
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I usually find one of those looks does the trick, you know , look her straight in the eye but look pityingly as though she's a sandwich short of a picnic. Just don't rise to any of her comments. If you MUST reply, just tell her she's a right to HER opinion. and leave it like that.
Just don't let her know she's riling you, that's what she wants, a reaction. Don't give her the pleasure.
Take care and good luck.
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Just don't let her know she's riling you, that's what she wants, a reaction. Don't give her the pleasure.
Take care and good luck.
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01 May 2007, 01:47 PM
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I would not sacrifice going to a family meal just because of one annoying realtive. They are the problem, not you. Personally I'd have a chat with the g/f's parents and explain that you felt uncomfortable by what this cousin was saying at "their" meal. I'd ask them if her comment about it being your fault holds any water. Yes, you are potentially opening yourself up to them saying she is correct, then again, if they are truthful (and ask them to be brutally truthful) and say they don't think that at all, then you know this cousin is just some twisted spiteful bitch, as if that wasn't obvious enough.
I'm a nice guy, but I tend to give as good as I get. As others said, she probably won't like it if someone puts her in her place, as it sounds as little miss silver spoon expects everyone to do exactly what she wants when she wants. She's pushing buttons to see if you'll react, probably hoping you'll cause a scene and then she can get off on it.
I'd smile sweetly at the bitch when she starts mouthing off and just ignore her, hard as it might be. How often is it going to be that you'll actually have to put up with her?
I'm a nice guy, but I tend to give as good as I get. As others said, she probably won't like it if someone puts her in her place, as it sounds as little miss silver spoon expects everyone to do exactly what she wants when she wants. She's pushing buttons to see if you'll react, probably hoping you'll cause a scene and then she can get off on it.
I'd smile sweetly at the bitch when she starts mouthing off and just ignore her, hard as it might be. How often is it going to be that you'll actually have to put up with her?
01 May 2007, 02:05 PM
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Was in a rush this morning
As for the ideas of getting her back, nice idea but she is family and you are not, and it could well be seen as an "outsider" trying to tell the family what to do, not matter how much the family may dislike the spoilt brat, they'll probably take her side over yours because you are not family.
When, as she will, says something to you, try the approach that ***** Wonka has to Mike Teevee in the recent remake of the film:
"You really shouldn't mumble, because I can't understand a word you're saying." (said in a slightly sarcastic tone)
If she says anything else:
"Mumbler! Seriously, I cannot understand a word you're saying!"
Then, if she's still at it:
"Once again, you really shouldn't mumble, 'cause it's really starting to bum me out!"
She might get the reference, then again, probably not, but it could be quite amusing for you, plus other family members who loathe her might get the reference and laugh, or perhaps they'll like the fact someone is finally trying to shut the annoying woman up.
As for the ideas of getting her back, nice idea but she is family and you are not, and it could well be seen as an "outsider" trying to tell the family what to do, not matter how much the family may dislike the spoilt brat, they'll probably take her side over yours because you are not family.
When, as she will, says something to you, try the approach that ***** Wonka has to Mike Teevee in the recent remake of the film:
"You really shouldn't mumble, because I can't understand a word you're saying." (said in a slightly sarcastic tone)
If she says anything else:
"Mumbler! Seriously, I cannot understand a word you're saying!"
Then, if she's still at it:
"Once again, you really shouldn't mumble, 'cause it's really starting to bum me out!"
She might get the reference, then again, probably not, but it could be quite amusing for you, plus other family members who loathe her might get the reference and laugh, or perhaps they'll like the fact someone is finally trying to shut the annoying woman up.
01 May 2007, 02:49 PM
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Just call her by the wrong name all the time. They hate that as it makes it appear that they are unimportant to you. So if she is called Sue then it's "Hi Jenny - good to see you".
01 May 2007, 03:00 PM
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Originally Posted by stilover 
If she come over to wisper some bitchy comment in your ear. Shout loudly (so everyone hears)
" LEAVE ME ALONE, I'M NOT SLEEPING WITH YOU. I LOVE MY GIRLFRIEND "
£10 say's that that's the last event you see her at
If she come over to wisper some bitchy comment in your ear. Shout loudly (so everyone hears)
" LEAVE ME ALONE, I'M NOT SLEEPING WITH YOU. I LOVE MY GIRLFRIEND "
£10 say's that that's the last event you see her at
Another favorite of mine is to stare at them (or just past them) as they talk to you and when they finish, a little shake of the head followed by "sorry did you say something?"
Usually winds most people up, (i love using that one working on the door lol)
01 May 2007, 04:04 PM
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ditto fella, aswell as making her gobsmacked and shocked at the same time, If it doesnt go well you know it was well worth it. If you dont set her straight now she'll walk all over you.
01 May 2007, 04:58 PM
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Hi all,
Well, I finally got to meet ALL the family last sat night and the night started great - went out for a posh meal, had a few drinks and generally had a laugh.
Obviously I was nervous about meeting 12 people I've never met before, as naturally i'm quite a shy bloke and was a bit daunting but after a couple of drinks I was fine.
We were celebrating my gf's parents silver wedding aniversary and recently my gf moved from bristol down to bournemouth to live with me so as you can imagine she misses her parents and vice versa.
Time came for a few speaches and it was really nice to see two people still together after 25 years, then my gf stands up to try and tell them how much she misses them etc.
She got really emotional and started crying whilst trying to say how much she loves and misses them etc then her cousin wispers in my ear 'it's all your fault theyr'e upset' which I believe to be really, really bitchy especially when it's her parents night at the end of the day.
She's the kind of person who is an attention seeker, everything handed to her on a silver plate by her rich parents someone who is arrogent and spoilt IMO.
All night she was making little digs at me and my gf, either through jelousy or plain rudeness and what she said about it being my fault was enough for me so I walked out of the meal.
Now i'm faced with a situation where i've found out that she will also be there on the grandparents anneversary the weekend after next, and every major family event.
I really can't stand the thought of being in the same room with her ever again - my gf told me all about her prior to the meal as she has done this many times before but the family just seem to put up with it and excuse it as 'her sense of humour'.
Now i'm torn, what do I do? Obviously the gf isnt happy that I dont want to go to this second meal, but as I said I really can't face this bi-ach again as i'm more of your sensetive kind of guy and find it fookin hard to put on a brave face and ignore it.
Either way its going to be crap by the looks of it, gf seems so dissapointed in me not wanting to go but she fully understands why.
Anyone with experiance in relationships or just plain straight opionions would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks guys
Well, I finally got to meet ALL the family last sat night and the night started great - went out for a posh meal, had a few drinks and generally had a laugh.
Obviously I was nervous about meeting 12 people I've never met before, as naturally i'm quite a shy bloke and was a bit daunting but after a couple of drinks I was fine.
We were celebrating my gf's parents silver wedding aniversary and recently my gf moved from bristol down to bournemouth to live with me so as you can imagine she misses her parents and vice versa.
Time came for a few speaches and it was really nice to see two people still together after 25 years, then my gf stands up to try and tell them how much she misses them etc.
She got really emotional and started crying whilst trying to say how much she loves and misses them etc then her cousin wispers in my ear 'it's all your fault theyr'e upset' which I believe to be really, really bitchy especially when it's her parents night at the end of the day.
She's the kind of person who is an attention seeker, everything handed to her on a silver plate by her rich parents someone who is arrogent and spoilt IMO.
All night she was making little digs at me and my gf, either through jelousy or plain rudeness and what she said about it being my fault was enough for me so I walked out of the meal.
Now i'm faced with a situation where i've found out that she will also be there on the grandparents anneversary the weekend after next, and every major family event.
I really can't stand the thought of being in the same room with her ever again - my gf told me all about her prior to the meal as she has done this many times before but the family just seem to put up with it and excuse it as 'her sense of humour'.
Now i'm torn, what do I do? Obviously the gf isnt happy that I dont want to go to this second meal, but as I said I really can't face this bi-ach again as i'm more of your sensetive kind of guy and find it fookin hard to put on a brave face and ignore it.
Either way its going to be crap by the looks of it, gf seems so dissapointed in me not wanting to go but she fully understands why.
Anyone with experiance in relationships or just plain straight opionions would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks guys
The evening wasn't about you - but two people celebrating 25 years together, the parents of your G/F. For her's and their sakes this was a bad move to walk out, period!
The bitch cousin got a result and you look bad.
Best thing would be to apologise to your g/f and her parents and explain to your g/f what her cousin was up to. explain that you felt it best to leave (at the time) but in hindsight it may not have been such a good thing to do.
Events like this are not about you or your feelings so much as the peole who the event is for. Sometimes just suck it up, put up with a bit of cr@p, with a smile on your face. It is unlikely to kill you or maim you mentally for life.
Walking out like that smacks of being a bit of a child TBH
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01 May 2007, 05:17 PM
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What a situation to be in. There is always someone wanting to spoil things. She sounds like a jealous little (sorry, fat) trouble maker 
Just look her straight in the eye and say loud enough for people close by to hear, "You are not my type, please go and whisper in someone else's lug" Then ignore her completely
Just look her straight in the eye and say loud enough for people close by to hear, "You are not my type, please go and whisper in someone else's lug" Then ignore her completely
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Ah, so she's one of these horrible fat ******* who's knows that she's fat and unnattractive. She's probably jealous of what you and your girlfriend have. I'm guessing she's single?
I'd defintely go with the 'You've put on weight since I saw you last comment'. But before you deliver it, give her a big smile, tell her how nice it is to see her and that something about her different - she's gained a few pounds. Then tell her to keep her opinions and assumptions to herself.
I'd defintely go with the 'You've put on weight since I saw you last comment'. But before you deliver it, give her a big smile, tell her how nice it is to see her and that something about her different - she's gained a few pounds. Then tell her to keep her opinions and assumptions to herself.
01 May 2007, 08:24 PM
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If she keeps niggling you when you're alone make out you want her - this will either make her back off or invite you somewhere quiet where you can get her to strip off a bit - then get the camera phone out
If she keeps on within earshot of others do as mentioned and say loudly you'd never cheat on your g/f and definately not with her
If you're sat next to each other at a table jump up and point at her and shout -" i warned you about touching me AGAIN "
If she keeps on within earshot of others do as mentioned and say loudly you'd never cheat on your g/f and definately not with her
If you're sat next to each other at a table jump up and point at her and shout -" i warned you about touching me AGAIN "
