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23 May 2007, 04:13 PM
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@ SB 
When an ex did similar to me, once I'd become aware of what "may" have been going on, I left it for a few days. When convenient (ie wasn't going to get caught) I checked her phone to see what both parties were saying to each other.... only then it could become apparent.
You never know she may have only been flirting cos she was drunk.... but then........
23 May 2007, 04:13 PM
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Ask her nicely about it. "Bro says you were texting someone from work a lot on saturday night. Everything ok?"
if they had booze she probably won't remember if she told him it was someone from work or not. See if she lies and that might tell you more, just read the situation and see where it goes. Your bro is obviously concerned or he wouldn't have mentioned it in the first place so it must have been excessive.
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if they had booze she probably won't remember if she told him it was someone from work or not. See if she lies and that might tell you more, just read the situation and see where it goes. Your bro is obviously concerned or he wouldn't have mentioned it in the first place so it must have been excessive.
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23 May 2007, 04:21 PM
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Seems like the guys above have pretty much said what has to be said. You wont dump her, as you cant becuase you love her, so that isnt an option.
If you were able to dump her, you would of told her you looked at the texts, as you havent, it shows your scared incase she dumps you due to no trust etc.
Dont get me wrong, this isnt me having ago, just a reality check as Im weak as pi55 with women !!!
Now, you can ignore it, and try to convince yourself she's a good girl, but at the end of the day, this is going to eat away at you. So, you might aswell bring it up, as once out in the open, you can move on, either getting over this, or parting, i.e. you cant run away from this.
To be honest, she might just be bored. Lets face it, after a while relationships get dull, the excitement goes, doesnt mean you dont love each other, you just miss the fun, the wildness of it. This is probably what this bit of texting gives her, just a bit of excitement.
So, bring it up, ask her, dont have a go, but just sort of mention it, perhaps say that you heard her phone go, as she was alseep, and it was so late, you thought it must of been important, so looked and found what you did.
One thing not to do is bull5hit yourself, its obviously hurting and will get worse. Also, and again Im talk from experience as Ive been through this, once a man looses his pride, respect for himself, it will drive u insane and make you do stupid things. You will never trust her when she goes out with friends, and in time, these insecurties will cause you to become needy, and insecure and will causes issues in the relationship.
So, be brave, think of a senario to bring this matter up, and confront it. If its over, then its over, if not, see how you can BOTH repair it.
Best of luck buddy.
SBK
If you were able to dump her, you would of told her you looked at the texts, as you havent, it shows your scared incase she dumps you due to no trust etc.
Dont get me wrong, this isnt me having ago, just a reality check as Im weak as pi55 with women !!!
Now, you can ignore it, and try to convince yourself she's a good girl, but at the end of the day, this is going to eat away at you. So, you might aswell bring it up, as once out in the open, you can move on, either getting over this, or parting, i.e. you cant run away from this.
To be honest, she might just be bored. Lets face it, after a while relationships get dull, the excitement goes, doesnt mean you dont love each other, you just miss the fun, the wildness of it. This is probably what this bit of texting gives her, just a bit of excitement.
So, bring it up, ask her, dont have a go, but just sort of mention it, perhaps say that you heard her phone go, as she was alseep, and it was so late, you thought it must of been important, so looked and found what you did.
One thing not to do is bull5hit yourself, its obviously hurting and will get worse. Also, and again Im talk from experience as Ive been through this, once a man looses his pride, respect for himself, it will drive u insane and make you do stupid things. You will never trust her when she goes out with friends, and in time, these insecurties will cause you to become needy, and insecure and will causes issues in the relationship.
So, be brave, think of a senario to bring this matter up, and confront it. If its over, then its over, if not, see how you can BOTH repair it.
Best of luck buddy.
SBK
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23 May 2007, 04:22 PM
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Very good point this - I know my brothers wouldn't bring something like this up unless they really thought they should. It's got the potential to really FUBAR things.
23 May 2007, 04:23 PM
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Thanks for the replys guys.
Its hard to put the full story down on paper so I can understand the opinions that say just dump her. Its not as easy as that.
I really do belive that she would never actually cheat on me but that fact that she was texting this guys even if she was drunk it out or order. If she found that on my phone.... well I would be in deep doo doo.
I have no hard feeling towards this guy at all, its not his fault I have a cheating cow for a girlfriend. I am not even sure he know that she is with me, not that it matters.
I do know his full name, where he works (obviosly), his mobile number, home number and his address (I dont hang around when someone ***** me over) so I could easily pay him a visit and speak to his missus to make a point.
She did delete the messages after our little talk at the weekend as she showed me her messages and they were not there anymore but I thought she may get rid of them so I sent the all to my phone on the sat night and then deleted the evidence.
I WILL be confronting her tonight with the evidence, I dont know what will happen next but I really hope that we can sort something out. I have never been so happy with my life ...then this happens
Its hard to put the full story down on paper so I can understand the opinions that say just dump her. Its not as easy as that.
I really do belive that she would never actually cheat on me but that fact that she was texting this guys even if she was drunk it out or order. If she found that on my phone.... well I would be in deep doo doo.
I have no hard feeling towards this guy at all, its not his fault I have a cheating cow for a girlfriend. I am not even sure he know that she is with me, not that it matters.
I do know his full name, where he works (obviosly), his mobile number, home number and his address (I dont hang around when someone ***** me over) so I could easily pay him a visit and speak to his missus to make a point.
She did delete the messages after our little talk at the weekend as she showed me her messages and they were not there anymore but I thought she may get rid of them so I sent the all to my phone on the sat night and then deleted the evidence.
I WILL be confronting her tonight with the evidence, I dont know what will happen next but I really hope that we can sort something out. I have never been so happy with my life ...then this happens
23 May 2007, 04:23 PM
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Seems like the guys above have pretty much said what has to be said. You wont dump her, as you cant becuase you love her, so that isnt an option.
If you were able to dump her, you would of told her you looked at the texts, as you havent, it shows your scared incase she dumps you due to no trust etc.
Dont get me wrong, this isnt me having ago, just a reality check as Im weak as pi55 with women !!!
Now, you can ignore it, and try to convince yourself she's a good girl, but at the end of the day, this is going to eat away at you. So, you might aswell bring it up, as once out in the open, you can move on, either getting over this, or parting, i.e. you cant run away from this.
To be honest, she might just be bored. Lets face it, after a while relationships get dull, the excitement goes, doesnt mean you dont love each other, you just miss the fun, the wildness of it. This is probably what this bit of texting gives her, just a bit of excitement.
So, bring it up, ask her, dont have a go, but just sort of mention it, perhaps say that you heard her phone go, as she was alseep, and it was so late, you thought it must of been important, so looked and found what you did.
One thing not to do is bull5hit yourself, its obviously hurting and will get worse. Also, and again Im talk from experience as Ive been through this, once a man looses his pride, respect for himself, it will drive u insane and make you do stupid things. You will never trust her when she goes out with friends, and in time, these insecurties will cause you to become needy, and insecure and will causes issues in the relationship.
So, be brave, think of a senario to bring this matter up, and confront it. If its over, then its over, if not, see how you can BOTH repair it.
Best of luck buddy.
SBK
If you were able to dump her, you would of told her you looked at the texts, as you havent, it shows your scared incase she dumps you due to no trust etc.
Dont get me wrong, this isnt me having ago, just a reality check as Im weak as pi55 with women !!!
Now, you can ignore it, and try to convince yourself she's a good girl, but at the end of the day, this is going to eat away at you. So, you might aswell bring it up, as once out in the open, you can move on, either getting over this, or parting, i.e. you cant run away from this.
To be honest, she might just be bored. Lets face it, after a while relationships get dull, the excitement goes, doesnt mean you dont love each other, you just miss the fun, the wildness of it. This is probably what this bit of texting gives her, just a bit of excitement.
So, bring it up, ask her, dont have a go, but just sort of mention it, perhaps say that you heard her phone go, as she was alseep, and it was so late, you thought it must of been important, so looked and found what you did.
One thing not to do is bull5hit yourself, its obviously hurting and will get worse. Also, and again Im talk from experience as Ive been through this, once a man looses his pride, respect for himself, it will drive u insane and make you do stupid things. You will never trust her when she goes out with friends, and in time, these insecurties will cause you to become needy, and insecure and will causes issues in the relationship.
So, be brave, think of a senario to bring this matter up, and confront it. If its over, then its over, if not, see how you can BOTH repair it.
Best of luck buddy.
SBK
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23 May 2007, 04:25 PM
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Thanks for the replys guys.
Its hard to put the full story down on paper so I can understand the opinions that say just dump her. Its not as easy as that.
I really do belive that she would never actually cheat on me but that fact that she was texting this guys even if she was drunk it out or order. If she found that on my phone.... well I would be in deep doo doo.
I have no hard feeling towards this guy at all, its not his fault I have a cheating cow for a girlfriend. I am not even sure he know that she is with me, not that it matters.
I do know his full name, where he works (obviosly), his mobile number, home number and his address (I dont hang around when someone ***** me over) so I could easily pay him a visit and speak to his missus to make a point.
She did delete the messages after our little talk at the weekend as she showed me her messages and they were not there anymore but I thought she may get rid of them so I sent the all to my phone on the sat night and then deleted the evidence.
I WILL be confronting her tonight with the evidence, I dont know what will happen next but I really hope that we can sort something out. I have never been so happy with my life ...then this happens
Its hard to put the full story down on paper so I can understand the opinions that say just dump her. Its not as easy as that.
I really do belive that she would never actually cheat on me but that fact that she was texting this guys even if she was drunk it out or order. If she found that on my phone.... well I would be in deep doo doo.
I have no hard feeling towards this guy at all, its not his fault I have a cheating cow for a girlfriend. I am not even sure he know that she is with me, not that it matters.
I do know his full name, where he works (obviosly), his mobile number, home number and his address (I dont hang around when someone ***** me over) so I could easily pay him a visit and speak to his missus to make a point.
She did delete the messages after our little talk at the weekend as she showed me her messages and they were not there anymore but I thought she may get rid of them so I sent the all to my phone on the sat night and then deleted the evidence.
I WILL be confronting her tonight with the evidence, I dont know what will happen next but I really hope that we can sort something out. I have never been so happy with my life ...then this happens
23 May 2007, 04:27 PM
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OK....following your last post I have another thought.....the bloke she's been texting has a wife???? 
Ask her if she fancies a bit of swinging, foursome, or at the least a spitroast 
Then bin her after the deed is done and video'd for distribution 
Dave
Ask her if she fancies a bit of swinging, foursome, or at the least a spitroast
Then bin her after the deed is done and video'd for distribution
Dave
23 May 2007, 04:28 PM
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Having ago at the bloke wont make her come back and is a waste of time. Again, been there, done that, had the ABH charge.
Confront her, ask her, and if its bad news, then try and walk away with your head held high. Believe me, women love seeing guys go mad, love telling there mates how you are a nutter or went mad. For you to just turn away, walk off, into the sun set, and never ring / text, well, make you look so bloody strong as a man, that she will always look atyou as a strong guy.
Again, been there, done that, ive split from girls and went mad, upset, kept on ringing, mad a right **** of myself, and now, looking back, feel embrassed at how I was.
Best of luck.
SBK
Confront her, ask her, and if its bad news, then try and walk away with your head held high. Believe me, women love seeing guys go mad, love telling there mates how you are a nutter or went mad. For you to just turn away, walk off, into the sun set, and never ring / text, well, make you look so bloody strong as a man, that she will always look atyou as a strong guy.
Again, been there, done that, ive split from girls and went mad, upset, kept on ringing, mad a right **** of myself, and now, looking back, feel embrassed at how I was.
Best of luck.
SBK
23 May 2007, 04:29 PM
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23 May 2007, 04:32 PM
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PS Don't listen to Sti...I Strongly suspect he's not a real Dr. I asked him for some Viagra and the Barsteward sent me smarties..
Still they did "have the answer"....I used the tube as a splint and...... we'd better not!!!
23 May 2007, 04:35 PM
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I say look for a new flat and a new girlfriend.
Unacceptable behaviour. Its over, even if you don't want it to be.
HTH
Unacceptable behaviour. Its over, even if you don't want it to be.
HTH
23 May 2007, 04:36 PM
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Just hang in there, and if she is going out in the next few nights before this bell-end leaves then you know she is possibly going to have a last fling etc.
has she only one phone or she might have another for "Black Ops", it happens.
Mac
has she only one phone or she might have another for "Black Ops", it happens.
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23 May 2007, 04:39 PM
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23 May 2007, 04:40 PM
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I was in exactly the same position with an ex a few years ago.
Note....EX!!!
I confronted her about it and she had a go at me about not trusting her, but i didn't dump her.....untill i found out she was sleeping with the bloke.
As horrible as it sounds she wouldn't be texting him those things if she cared about you as much as you care about her.
Confront her and see what she says.....but don't take any s**t
Note....EX!!!
I confronted her about it and she had a go at me about not trusting her, but i didn't dump her.....untill i found out she was sleeping with the bloke.
As horrible as it sounds she wouldn't be texting him those things if she cared about you as much as you care about her.
Confront her and see what she says.....but don't take any s**t
23 May 2007, 04:42 PM
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Now may be a good time to attempt some **** with her, if you haven't already
BTW it would help the SN massive to 'advise' you better if there were some semi-naked pictures of her on this thread
BTW it would help the SN massive to 'advise' you better if there were some semi-naked pictures of her on this thread
23 May 2007, 04:44 PM
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23 May 2007, 04:45 PM
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In order for me to assess this case on an individual basis then i advise that you send the naked ones to me by PM.
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23 May 2007, 04:52 PM
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You are already calling her a cheating cow when she might not have just yet...
Remeber, usually if a bloke cheats its because he wants to drain his sac somewhere other than a kleenex. If a lady type does it then there is usually some emotional reason, wants the attention etc etc. Plus guys get off on images (hence all the ****) girls prefer to make their own fantasies through words (smutty books)
She might be just looking for some attention and liking the fact.
Worth bearing in mind. Alternatively, give her a damn good seeing to for old times sake then do something like this
Girl Dumped Live On The Radio Video (worth staying with)
5t.
Remeber, usually if a bloke cheats its because he wants to drain his sac somewhere other than a kleenex. If a lady type does it then there is usually some emotional reason, wants the attention etc etc. Plus guys get off on images (hence all the ****) girls prefer to make their own fantasies through words (smutty books)
She might be just looking for some attention and liking the fact.
Worth bearing in mind. Alternatively, give her a damn good seeing to for old times sake then do something like this
Girl Dumped Live On The Radio Video (worth staying with)
5t.