Girl friend problems, welcome any views...
23 May 2007, 05:39 PM
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Just fwd one her reply's to your mobile (preferably just after she's sent it elsewhere) ...& then ask her what the bloody 'ell she's playing at ...dozy moo will think she's sent it by mistake & thus get you out of the old 'trust' arguments 
23 May 2007, 06:26 PM
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I wonder how many relationships have been ruined by text messages?
Haven't people learned to delete messages from the inbox and sent folder yet?
I wonder how long it took cavemen to realise not to put their hand in a fire.
Novices!
Haven't people learned to delete messages from the inbox and sent folder yet?
I wonder how long it took cavemen to realise not to put their hand in a fire.
Novices!
23 May 2007, 08:41 PM
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Feel for you mate - I was in a similar situation with my ex
Fact is if its not with the guy from work it'll be someone else that comes along and you'll constantly be worried about it or played off agianst someone else
I wish I'd got out sooner - it got really bad - search for my 'threatening phone calls' thread if you want to know how bad - I wont bore you with the details on here
You know what you should do - even though its hard
Good luck whatever you decide
Fact is if its not with the guy from work it'll be someone else that comes along and you'll constantly be worried about it or played off agianst someone else
I wish I'd got out sooner - it got really bad - search for my 'threatening phone calls' thread if you want to know how bad - I wont bore you with the details on here
You know what you should do - even though its hard
Good luck whatever you decide
23 May 2007, 08:45 PM
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Christ on a bike.....it is difficult to tell her to get lost but believe me.....going out at the weekend and ******** random birds each night for a few months will seem like heaven and re-build your confidence no-end m8! 
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Happy to help by the way
Dave
no liability is accepted for the consequences of any actions taken by the reader of this post etc. etc.
23 May 2007, 09:24 PM
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also give her number out to a trusted mate of yours who will then text her and say he has an extra simcard and pump up the flirting for a night and see what happens
also gothrough her handbag or battery cover on her phone as she might have a spare sim card as well !!!
then with your mate texting her and you also disguised as him you will fingd out the truth then set her up with a
I must see you at 7-8-9 pm imediately at a secret place and see her pathetic excuse as she disapears to meet her
once she leaves the house take her belongings and give them to her and dump the lying cheating woman !!!
then away with your mates to prague/riga/bancock for some theapery to recover
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23 May 2007, 10:57 PM
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I was in a similar position a couple of months ago - been seeing a girl for about a year, and was using her computer when I found some dodgy dating sites in her history - that got me curious so I had a good dig around on her PC (and I know where to look for stuff) and found loads of dodgy emails and even pics of her ex's dick which he'd sent to her recently !
Now I confronted her about it more or less straight away (after backing up all the evidence on a USB stick) and of course she was extremely miffed that I'd violated her privacy, but the stuff I'd found far outweighed that. I even considered installing a keylogger to keep track of her MSN convos I was that hurt and paranoid.
Even though we talked about it, discussed it, agreed it wouldn't happen again, she changed her email address, phone number etc it still doesn't stop it eating away at me and the trust is more or less gone.
In this day and age what with texts and emails its a lot easier to flirt and cheat, but its also a lot easier to get busted - who is in the wrong more - the person who checks up, or the person cheating ?
Despite discussing it with her, I still don't really trust her, and I doubt you will either.
Now I confronted her about it more or less straight away (after backing up all the evidence on a USB stick) and of course she was extremely miffed that I'd violated her privacy, but the stuff I'd found far outweighed that. I even considered installing a keylogger to keep track of her MSN convos I was that hurt and paranoid.
Even though we talked about it, discussed it, agreed it wouldn't happen again, she changed her email address, phone number etc it still doesn't stop it eating away at me and the trust is more or less gone.
In this day and age what with texts and emails its a lot easier to flirt and cheat, but its also a lot easier to get busted - who is in the wrong more - the person who checks up, or the person cheating ?
Despite discussing it with her, I still don't really trust her, and I doubt you will either.
23 May 2007, 11:01 PM
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Mobile phones.
Scourge of the earth. There wouldn't be half the trust issues, cheating, lying and finding out if it weren't for the f*cking things. On my second relationship collapse due to the poxy things myself.
Can't live with them, can't live without them. Hate them, hate them.
Hope you come out of it happy, 'cos you'll never trust her again.
Scourge of the earth. There wouldn't be half the trust issues, cheating, lying and finding out if it weren't for the f*cking things. On my second relationship collapse due to the poxy things myself.
Can't live with them, can't live without them. Hate them, hate them.
Hope you come out of it happy, 'cos you'll never trust her again.
23 May 2007, 11:44 PM
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Another one is Tony Blair
, but soon it will be Golden Brown 
Can't live with them, can't live without them.
People should move on to trees, plants, vibrators and rubber dolls for total satisfaction and risk-free life. Then again, we will miss the danger, won't we? LOL there are some trustworthy people out there, so keep hopes. 
Take it easy, newbie
I won't bother with someone, who is so shallow to text and flirt like that with my work colleagues or anyone, man. Anyway, sort it out and good luck
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24 May 2007, 02:20 AM
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TBH, women can do that too for genuine resaons, and it may mean **** all! Love and fun can carry different meanings altogether in a long term relationship. The point is that some people (men or women) are that way inclined, naturally flirty, even when they get what they need/want from their partners. In that case, one needs to check if it affects one's sanity. In the case of this newbie (or, may be an oldbie in disguise), he has felt a need to raise his confusion in public. Obviously, he is unsure about the lady in question. If he can let it go over his head, fine. If he can't, he may set her free to flirt more. Simple
24 May 2007, 08:17 AM
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Any update on this?
Just make sure when she leaves the house next you change the locks.
Once doubt sets in mate, its very hard to get rid of.
Chin up, recently finished a 10 year relationship myself - the best way to get over someone is to get on someone new
All the best.
Just make sure when she leaves the house next you change the locks.
Once doubt sets in mate, its very hard to get rid of.
Chin up, recently finished a 10 year relationship myself - the best way to get over someone is to get on someone new
All the best.
24 May 2007, 08:24 AM
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If you've caught her at it THIS time, I wonder how many times you HAVEN'T caught her...
There is NO trust in your relationship for one simple reason: Your girlfriend completely lacks integrity. Why the hell would you want to put up with someone who thinks so little of you that she flirts with other blokes? She obviously doesn't feel the same way about you as you do about her (despite what you might have convinced yourself) or the only texts she sends would be the ones to you telling you how crazy she is about you.
Hopefully you'll make the right choice and send her packing. If you don't, it's only a matter of time before this happens again.
Obviously, if you confront her about it and have a conversation about it, she'll turn on the waterworks and convince you that she's sorry. If you forgive her, what incentive is there to stop her from doing it again? Nothing.
My advice: tell her that you know that she has been cheating on you (and yes, for all you flirts out there who are already in relationships, it IS cheating) and that it's over. Tell her that you don't want her to contact you but that you're sure she made the right decision: afterall, if this bloke is ALSO in a relationship and flirting, they're a perfect match! Tell her good luck, then never call her again.
When she calls you (and she will), be strong and let it ring.
Most people have enough troubles in their lives and don't need another one to add to the list.
There is NO trust in your relationship for one simple reason: Your girlfriend completely lacks integrity. Why the hell would you want to put up with someone who thinks so little of you that she flirts with other blokes? She obviously doesn't feel the same way about you as you do about her (despite what you might have convinced yourself) or the only texts she sends would be the ones to you telling you how crazy she is about you.
Hopefully you'll make the right choice and send her packing. If you don't, it's only a matter of time before this happens again.
Obviously, if you confront her about it and have a conversation about it, she'll turn on the waterworks and convince you that she's sorry. If you forgive her, what incentive is there to stop her from doing it again? Nothing.
My advice: tell her that you know that she has been cheating on you (and yes, for all you flirts out there who are already in relationships, it IS cheating) and that it's over. Tell her that you don't want her to contact you but that you're sure she made the right decision: afterall, if this bloke is ALSO in a relationship and flirting, they're a perfect match! Tell her good luck, then never call her again.
When she calls you (and she will), be strong and let it ring.
Most people have enough troubles in their lives and don't need another one to add to the list.
24 May 2007, 08:36 AM
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AD202, what appended then matey. We're all waiting to hear what she had to say for herself? Personally I hope it all worked out ok for you
24 May 2007, 08:41 AM
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Dump her
Have a bit of pride in yourself
Move on
Good luck
Have a bit of pride in yourself
Move on
Good luck
The Arctic Monkeys sum the whole thing up in one verse of Flourescent Adolescent:
Used to get in your fishnets
Now you only get it in your nightdress
Discarded all the naughty nights for niceness
Landed in a very common crisis
Everything's in order in a black hole
But nothing seems as pretty as the past though
The Bloody Mary's lacking in Tabasco
Remember when you used to be a rascal........
Move on, get over the hurt, it'll never be right.
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