fast bloke

If he is still being a sneaky **** after this amount of time I would tend to punch him in the mouth and throw all his stuff out onto the street. Tell your Mum you started trying to find out what was going on when she asked you and you have discovered he is a shirtlifter (Can I say that after 9.00) or a kiddy fiddler. If he doesn't want to be there any more, or he just wants a **** on the side, then fair enough... that happens and can be no-ones or everyones fault, but he is now putting her through hell because he hasn't the ***** to sort it

Kieran_Burns

iTrader: (1)

It seems fate is telling you what to do here... it seems you want to tell the truth but are afraid to (understandable)

The only thing I can say is:

A true friend will always tell the truth

I personally would always choose to be damned for who I am rather than damned for not

newscooby2

yea i am getting close to it i can tell you.

He just had a chat with me as it happens, he said things aint been right for long while bla bla, and mum has said this that and the other to him which pisses him off and he doesn't really wanna be around here.

Still decided not to mention what really is going on though. Says he might go away for a while to see what happens, and three guesses where he'd be off to!

If they ain't getting on etc then fair enough, but it seems to me his forcing the "we are not getting on" story a fair bit so giving himself a good reason to go. ****

VanJesin

I think you have been too slow (or should that read *****) on this and now your mum knows something is wrong and you have to sit there and act dumb when you know exactly what the crack is. I couldnt do this, I would spoken up right away to avoid being in that horrible position.

Judging by the amount of in your update post you are now p!ssed enough to do something, pity you didnt do it before, as all you've really done is prolong the stress for all concerned as now your mum can smell there is something wrong. It would have been far better out in the open as that is where it will surely end.

In fact its not too late, tell her now. Tell her after she spoke to you, you went and found out such and such, and tell her. F*ck the old man, he would be quick enough to f*ck off across the pond and leave the lot of you but ask yourself would your mum do that? You need to sort of your priorities.

jasey

You now have 3 options - which haven't really changed from when you first posted;

1. Get your **** of a Dad to tell you poor Mum what's going on.

2. Kick you **** of Dad's head in an tell your Mum what's going on.

3. continue you poor Mum's suffering until your Dad decides to end it.

Jase

Drunken Bungle Whore

GIve her the details and let her find out and deal with it.

Having been cheated on in the past I can absolutely tell you that knowing for certain is a lot better than thinking your going mad. You know something's wrong, you can see all the signs and you can guess what it is, but everyone keeps denying it and telling you it's all in your head. NOT nice at all - you really do think you're going mad. THEN you feel stupid afterwards (and fear everyone else is thinking the same) because it was all so obvious and you believed his lies. Do you really want to put your mum through that?

Tell her what she needs to know to go and find out the rest. Then be there for her 110% - whatever happens. (And by that I mean that they could have a massive barny, fall out for weeks/ months and then she takes him back. Her life, her choice).

ZIPPY

As nobody has asked yet ?

Is the other woman worth one ? She may be hot and then as a bloke you will understand your dad wanting to slip her one.

Sit back and think you dirty old dog, pat him on the back and go for a pint.

But on a serious note it comes down to your relationship with both your parents, me i would confront my dad outright, if he bolts to the USA then good ridance.

cnj

If it were me then I'd give her the username/password and leave it at that. It's up to your mum to do something, and you're off the hook a little bit (as the ball's in her court as to whether she wants to know what's going on or not).
Personally if it was me I'd have punched my dad by now for being a lying cheat. I love my mum to bits, and there's no way I'd have let her suffer for this long, especially if she had ill health. Remember, you're the one that's going to have to pick up the pieces so maybe the easy option now (keeping quiet) isn't the best long term solution.
Then again it's easy for me (and a lot of people on here) to comment because I've never been in the situation you're in.

newscooby2

[QUOTE=ZIPPY;7250042]As nobody has asked yet ?

Is the other woman worth one ? She may be hot and then as a bloke you will understand your dad wanting to slip her one.

Sit back and think you dirty old dog, pat him on the back and go for a pint.


Don't think I will give a response to that mate!

Well mum has just had another "talk" with dad and he has eventually admitted that he met someone while away. I think after what has been going on my mum had her suspicions and just confronted him with it again and kept on until he eventually came out with it.

I'm not sure as yet if mum still wants me to get into his e-mails but I guess now she knows the truth we may not need to go down this route.

jods

[quote=newscooby2;7250335]
You sound like a right little weasel - No wonder your dad wants to "Do one" - Grow up you snivelling little **** - If, after 30 years of marriage, your Dad wants to have a break then fecking well leave him too it.

Behaving like Hitler Youth will guarantee you SEVERAL THINGS for sure.

1. Ultimately - Your Mum will despise you for being a weasel.
2. Your Dad will think you are a T w a t
3. Your mum and dad will split up
4. Your Dad will leave you a box of tissues in his Will
5. and this is the worst thing... In 10 - 15 years you'll understand exactly where your dad was coming from but it will be TOO LATE.

My Advice, and I invite ANYONE to argue with this...

LEAVE YOUR MUM AND DAD TO SORT IT OUT THEMSELVES.
(Of Course, if either of them get to the point of crying - offer support/hug etc but avoid shouting & screaming etc at the other parent - It doesn't help)


Might sound like I'm being hard but ultimately you have been stuck into a situation where you have to GROW UP - And FAST.

How old are you by the way ?

Karl 227

Bloody hell Jods, he's only eleven

dpb

lol

newscooby2

[QUOTE=jods;7251332]I’m in my early twenties mate and i’m hardly a little weasel. What makes me a weasel and im hardly the reason for him wanting to leave! Its him and my mum where the issue is.


1. Errm, my mum hardly thinks I am a weasel.
2. Errm and errm, no he doesn’t.
3. They are going to give it some time and sort things out.
4. What the **** are you on?
5. I don’t need to wait that long I already know where he is coming from.


There has already been crying (from my mum) and yes I have/am offering support in any way I can. There hasn’t been any shouting from me.

Thanks for your advice but you can stick it up your weasel butt

jods

jods

Good for you - You DO have a pair !!