Tragedy strikes
06 November 2007, 07:15 PM
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So, so sorry to hear this.
It happened to us in 2001, 7 months into the pregnancy we found out James had died in the womb.
Mattee - you obviously know what has to happen so I won't go into it.
Anyway, we felt so desolate and our hearts really did ache, especially after having a cuddle with him and then handing him back to the midwife, so awful.
After many problems and very dark times we now have two wonderful kids and I hope you will too, very soon.
I still talk to James occasionly and will never ever forget him, I think of him as my kids Guardian Angel.
Anyway, mate, God Bless to the both of you and be strong for each other.
I'll be thinking of you on the 17th as it's my boy Freddy's 2nd birthday.
There but for the Grace of God.....
zip.
It happened to us in 2001, 7 months into the pregnancy we found out James had died in the womb.
Mattee - you obviously know what has to happen so I won't go into it.
Anyway, we felt so desolate and our hearts really did ache, especially after having a cuddle with him and then handing him back to the midwife, so awful.
After many problems and very dark times we now have two wonderful kids and I hope you will too, very soon.
I still talk to James occasionly and will never ever forget him, I think of him as my kids Guardian Angel.
Anyway, mate, God Bless to the both of you and be strong for each other.
I'll be thinking of you on the 17th as it's my boy Freddy's 2nd birthday.
There but for the Grace of God.....
zip.
06 November 2007, 07:54 PM
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06 November 2007, 07:55 PM
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Words cannot explain your feelings right now 
Don`t be afraid to show your emotions, its only human to cry.
Don`t know what to say. . . . . . . . .
Please Accept Our Sincere Condolences.
Ant, Ange & Ben
xx
Don`t be afraid to show your emotions, its only human to cry.
Don`t know what to say. . . . . . . . .
Please Accept Our Sincere Condolences.
Ant, Ange & Ben
xx
06 November 2007, 10:20 PM
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Not much that can be added.....
Awful, awful news. My thoughts are with you and the missus and of course little Joseph.
Chin up on saturday Matt. My wife and i lost a baby last year in the early stages of pregnancy and that was devastating enough......
Awful, awful news. My thoughts are with you and the missus and of course little Joseph.
Chin up on saturday Matt. My wife and i lost a baby last year in the early stages of pregnancy and that was devastating enough......
06 November 2007, 11:14 PM
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Do not stand at my grave and weep;
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow;
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain;
I am the gentle autumn's rain.
When you awake in morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft star that shines at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there...
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow;
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain;
I am the gentle autumn's rain.
When you awake in morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft star that shines at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there...
07 November 2007, 01:33 AM
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I'm totally stunned! I am sorry but I have nothing useful to say at all, the right words simply fail me.
As you know the Missus is due in a few weeks now, she is gutted for you too.
Asif
As you know the Missus is due in a few weeks now, she is gutted for you too.
Asif
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07 November 2007, 01:44 AM
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I'm not normally stuck for words on here but after just reading this i am.
All can say is i am so so sorry, i really dont kmow what else to say.
Fookin hell mate.
As much as this sounds stupid please try and keep your chin up (if you can at all)
Please pass our condolances onto your missus.
take care mate
All can say is i am so so sorry, i really dont kmow what else to say.
Fookin hell mate.
As much as this sounds stupid please try and keep your chin up (if you can at all)
Please pass our condolances onto your missus.
take care mate
07 November 2007, 01:58 AM
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so very sad to read about your loss,i can't even begin to imagine how it must feel...don't know how but your gonna have to find the strength to be there for your wife...
07 November 2007, 12:33 PM
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So sorry to hear this, it makes me really sad to read stories like this because it truely is awful..
Mine and Gav's close friends lost there baby at 7 months not long ago, he was a boy, fully grown and he was beautiful, he was called Matthew, she had to give birth to him and it was just awful and we know that they've been through hell and back the last couple of month's but are slowly trying to piece there lives back together, its a terrible loss to lose a child, again, really sorry to hear this..
With them being such close friends its been terrible to see them going through what they have and you're right, it does put life into perspective!!
Mine and Gav's close friends lost there baby at 7 months not long ago, he was a boy, fully grown and he was beautiful, he was called Matthew, she had to give birth to him and it was just awful and we know that they've been through hell and back the last couple of month's but are slowly trying to piece there lives back together, its a terrible loss to lose a child, again, really sorry to hear this..
With them being such close friends its been terrible to see them going through what they have and you're right, it does put life into perspective!!
07 November 2007, 01:31 PM
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real sorry to hear this.... I myself have been through losing a baby @ 10 weeks old via cot death and really understand how you feel. Thoughts are with you @ such a terrible time...
08 November 2007, 09:53 AM
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Having seen the thread title, I was praying the thread wasn't going to be about this subject.
Matt, I don't know what to say, and I don't mind admitting that I have tears in my eyes reading through this.
We almost went through the same thing twice. The fact I am a father myself really brings home something like this, and it makes me feel bad for the times my son doesn't sleep and I am grumpy with him.
My deepest and sincerest thoughts go to you and your wife, please pass on our best, and I hope Joseph is in a better place now, surfing on the white waves somewhere.
Stay happy.
Matt, I don't know what to say, and I don't mind admitting that I have tears in my eyes reading through this.
We almost went through the same thing twice. The fact I am a father myself really brings home something like this, and it makes me feel bad for the times my son doesn't sleep and I am grumpy with him.
My deepest and sincerest thoughts go to you and your wife, please pass on our best, and I hope Joseph is in a better place now, surfing on the white waves somewhere.
Stay happy.
08 November 2007, 11:01 AM
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Been through a similair thing 3 years ago, 7 months in my wife lost our son.
Going through with the birth knowing that you wont be taking the baby home is unbelievable, my wife like yours was so good and strong throughout.
One thing to remember even when you feel at your lowest ebb is that 'Time will heal the hurt' you will never forget him but you will eventually learn to live with the loss.
We tried virtually straight away for another and now have a 2 year old son who helped the wife and myself no end get over the loss.
He arrived at 7 months too, small but perfect and is now the liveliest and at times annoying but above all, the most loveable thing you will ever meet.
Good luck to the both of you.
Ian
Going through with the birth knowing that you wont be taking the baby home is unbelievable, my wife like yours was so good and strong throughout.
One thing to remember even when you feel at your lowest ebb is that 'Time will heal the hurt' you will never forget him but you will eventually learn to live with the loss.
We tried virtually straight away for another and now have a 2 year old son who helped the wife and myself no end get over the loss.
He arrived at 7 months too, small but perfect and is now the liveliest and at times annoying but above all, the most loveable thing you will ever meet.
Good luck to the both of you.
Ian
