Your own death
13 April 2008, 12:11 PM
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I don't mind reading this thread again, and posting a bit more on how people deal with death. In real world it happens, so no harm giving little time to it.
My one friend recently lost her 50 years old husband. They are a religious Christian family. He found out 6 months ago that his sudden illness was caused by an enormous, inoperable, cancerous tumour behind his lungs that he never know anything about, never felt ill before with it. The day he was told that he had just 6 months to live, he didn't go home, didn't tell anyone at first, he went straight to church and spent two hours there by himself in deep thoughts. After that, he felt much more prepared to face his demise. Religion helped him to face his death. I remember him telling me what he was waiting for, his courage was remarkable.
I presume that above may attract comments like religion is for the weakminded etc. etc. However, it helped a man I knew. So, that was his way of dealing with it.
Someone else I know of finds a lump in her breast two years ago when she was breastfeeding her newly born child. Her 14 yr. old jokes with her "HA, HA! I bet you have cancer!" He meant no harm. But on this thought, she gets herself checked and finds that it is cancer that has spread further in her body. She was given until January 2008 to live, but she is still alive, waiting to go. She received some NHS funding she was entiled to, as a terminally ill patient. Rather than using it for herself, she sent her two older kids on a holiday to States, she wants to do as much as she can for her children before she goes. She has discussed and planned her funeral with her children, day by day she withers away, furniture changes in the house for she is having difficullty to move about now. But she carries on doing things for her children as much as she can. That is her way of dealing with it.
Her partner is getting completely hammered to drown his sorrows about his wife's illness. That's his way of dealing with it.
Another person fell apart and lost interest in most things until she passed away. A big part of her ended the day she discovered she only had a very little time left in this world.
Different lives, different thoughts, different ways of dealing with it. Most of us are afraid of dying, or have become immune to the fear of death for our reasons and/or logic. But when it does arrive at our door step, we discover our own ways to face it.
My one friend recently lost her 50 years old husband. They are a religious Christian family. He found out 6 months ago that his sudden illness was caused by an enormous, inoperable, cancerous tumour behind his lungs that he never know anything about, never felt ill before with it. The day he was told that he had just 6 months to live, he didn't go home, didn't tell anyone at first, he went straight to church and spent two hours there by himself in deep thoughts. After that, he felt much more prepared to face his demise. Religion helped him to face his death. I remember him telling me what he was waiting for, his courage was remarkable.
I presume that above may attract comments like religion is for the weakminded etc. etc. However, it helped a man I knew. So, that was his way of dealing with it.
Someone else I know of finds a lump in her breast two years ago when she was breastfeeding her newly born child. Her 14 yr. old jokes with her "HA, HA! I bet you have cancer!" He meant no harm. But on this thought, she gets herself checked and finds that it is cancer that has spread further in her body. She was given until January 2008 to live, but she is still alive, waiting to go. She received some NHS funding she was entiled to, as a terminally ill patient. Rather than using it for herself, she sent her two older kids on a holiday to States, she wants to do as much as she can for her children before she goes. She has discussed and planned her funeral with her children, day by day she withers away, furniture changes in the house for she is having difficullty to move about now. But she carries on doing things for her children as much as she can. That is her way of dealing with it.
Her partner is getting completely hammered to drown his sorrows about his wife's illness. That's his way of dealing with it.
Another person fell apart and lost interest in most things until she passed away. A big part of her ended the day she discovered she only had a very little time left in this world.
Different lives, different thoughts, different ways of dealing with it. Most of us are afraid of dying, or have become immune to the fear of death for our reasons and/or logic. But when it does arrive at our door step, we discover our own ways to face it.
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13 April 2008, 05:32 PM
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I'm not scared of popping my clogs, although, I hope it's quick and easy because I couldn't bear a slow and painful death. I'm just worried about how my son's life will turn out without me there. And how hurt my family and friends will be, because when you lose someone close to you the sorrow never leaves you 
What a great topic of discussion on my birthday!
What a great topic of discussion on my birthday!
13 April 2008, 07:26 PM
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The only certain thing in life is death. We all have to deal with it, we just do it in different ways.
My fear of death comes from the effect it would have on my daughters life if i was no longer here.
Until she was born i can honestly say i was'nt worried about it and i always said if it was going to happen when i was young it had better be in some style, like a scene from a great film
My fear of death comes from the effect it would have on my daughters life if i was no longer here.
Until she was born i can honestly say i was'nt worried about it and i always said if it was going to happen when i was young it had better be in some style, like a scene from a great film
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I'm not scared of popping my clogs, although, I hope it's quick and easy because I couldn't bear a slow and painful death. I'm just worried about how my son's life will turn out without me there. And how hurt my family and friends will be, because when you lose someone close to you the sorrow never leaves you
What a great topic of discussion on my birthday!
What a great topic of discussion on my birthday!
14 April 2008, 08:40 AM
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Dying scares the **** out of me, but its inevitable!
When the time comes there's nowt you can do - Living each day as it comes & trying to fulfil as much as possible
When the time comes there's nowt you can do - Living each day as it comes & trying to fulfil as much as possible
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