New girlfriend and unfavourable habit :-(
21 June 2008, 07:38 PM
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Bin her, now. It looks like she is already covering up her habit. It can only get worse.
There are loads of lovely girls out there who have no interest in drugs. I'm sure you won't find it hard to get one
There are loads of lovely girls out there who have no interest in drugs. I'm sure you won't find it hard to get one
21 June 2008, 07:43 PM
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thanks for all the replies. On the bright side some have amused me no end 
I shall have a chat with her about it and see how it goes.
Still scratching my head as to why she felt the need to tell me about her drug troubled past on the 3rd date. I was surprised and didn't know what to think but decided OK, you've had issues, your open about it and you've got on with your life, respect due.
She holds a pretty responsible job but the industry she works in is stressful and by the sounds of it harbours many other individuals who rely on the stuff to get by. She even told me that her bosses do it a lot.
Still can't work her out. Her parents are sound, very responsible and obviously not short of a penny. I wonder if they still know she dabbles or assume she's cured - I can't help feeling very sad about it.
I agree, there are other fish in the sea but when the water is polluted all you can't help but pull out is baduns.
I shall have a chat with her about it and see how it goes.
Still scratching my head as to why she felt the need to tell me about her drug troubled past on the 3rd date. I was surprised and didn't know what to think but decided OK, you've had issues, your open about it and you've got on with your life, respect due.
She holds a pretty responsible job but the industry she works in is stressful and by the sounds of it harbours many other individuals who rely on the stuff to get by. She even told me that her bosses do it a lot.
Still can't work her out. Her parents are sound, very responsible and obviously not short of a penny. I wonder if they still know she dabbles or assume she's cured - I can't help feeling very sad about it.
I agree, there are other fish in the sea but when the water is polluted all you can't help but pull out is baduns.
21 June 2008, 07:51 PM
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In all honesty mate, ppl on here tbh really suprise me with their opinions...but whats what they are...opinions..
Some it seems have lived a really sheltered life, most my age in the late 80's and 90's were around E's and pills on a weekly basis, these days its coke, everyone is at it, even ppl you wouldn't have thought, its not big, and its not clever, but it doesn't make the ppl bad.
Some it seems have lived a really sheltered life, most my age in the late 80's and 90's were around E's and pills on a weekly basis, these days its coke, everyone is at it, even ppl you wouldn't have thought, its not big, and its not clever, but it doesn't make the ppl bad.
You're right though, its not big or clever. In fact I'd say it smacked (massive pun intended) of a lack of individualism and a poor sense of adventure.
Women were and are always best taken sober.
OK, not all women but then that's where the coke heads come in.
21 June 2008, 08:05 PM
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three dates and the girl has come clean with you about her past,she has taken drugs,So she has told you which she didn't have too..you could have gone another 7 months before you found out from someone else or some other way..But the fact is she confronted you and told you.she obviously wants to carry on seeing you,otherwise she would not of said anything i reckon.Now you say the people she works with are mixed up with drugs,so she is in that environment,but seems to me like she is looking for help to get out of it..I think it would of been more suspect if she had not of told you m8.i think you should talk to her more,and try to get her to open up a little more..
21 June 2008, 08:12 PM
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I think you've got crackheads and sniff takers mixed up pal.
Most of my mates take the stuff on week-ends, fair play, their choice, but most have highly paid skilled jobs, im yet to see them go around stealing stereo's and burgling.....a great example of someone who watches and reads too much **** IMO.
Sorry if it offends you or you dislike it, but you couldn't be further from the truth.
I know the score, I am not that anti but I am even less pro as it turns people into annoying gibbering ***** who think they are in some big secret naughty club.
21 June 2008, 08:16 PM
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Oh I know the difference, nothing like seeing a "highly paid skilled" person sniffing Coke of a toilet seat, spending all night trying to tell you what they have been up to without actually telling you, drinking themselves stupid at the same time and then having three days off work.
I know the score, I am not that anti but I am even less pro as it turns people into annoying gibbering ***** who think they are in some big secret naughty club.
I know the score, I am not that anti but I am even less pro as it turns people into annoying gibbering ***** who think they are in some big secret naughty club.
21 June 2008, 08:20 PM
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Obviously you will get different answers from people depending on their attitude to drugs. Myself never having taken any,and its not a world i move in, i'd get rid. Not because of her past, but that she still does them. Get rid and move on.
21 June 2008, 08:23 PM
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You obviously don't trust her, so I'd get rid of her now if I was you.
Turn the tables, if you were doing something she found unacceptable, would she stick with you?
I know that my ex will come crawling back to me in the future, but I won't get back into a relationship with her as I don't and cannot trust her. I know the reasons I don't rust her (not drugs) and I know that no matter how much she says she won't do it again, I'd always be wondering what she was getting up to when she isn't with me. In turn, that'd probably cause arguments (in fact if it was my ex, she'd start arguments as no matter what she tries I don't get bothered).
You are obvioulsly keen on her, but I'd get rid before the relationship develops further. The sooner you kill it off, the less hurt you will both suffer.
There are loads of women out there so why settle for one who clearly doesn't meet your standards or expectations?
Turn the tables, if you were doing something she found unacceptable, would she stick with you?
I know that my ex will come crawling back to me in the future, but I won't get back into a relationship with her as I don't and cannot trust her. I know the reasons I don't rust her (not drugs) and I know that no matter how much she says she won't do it again, I'd always be wondering what she was getting up to when she isn't with me. In turn, that'd probably cause arguments (in fact if it was my ex, she'd start arguments as no matter what she tries I don't get bothered).
You are obvioulsly keen on her, but I'd get rid before the relationship develops further. The sooner you kill it off, the less hurt you will both suffer.
There are loads of women out there so why settle for one who clearly doesn't meet your standards or expectations?
21 June 2008, 08:30 PM
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In all honesty mate, ppl on here tbh really suprise me with their opinions...but whats what they are...opinions..
Some it seems have lived a really sheltered life, most my age in the late 80's and 90's were around E's and pills on a weekly basis, these days its coke, everyone is at it, even ppl you wouldn't have thought, its not big, and its not clever, but it doesn't make the ppl bad.
Some it seems have lived a really sheltered life, most my age in the late 80's and 90's were around E's and pills on a weekly basis, these days its coke, everyone is at it, even ppl you wouldn't have thought, its not big, and its not clever, but it doesn't make the ppl bad.
Personally i dont give a shlt what other people do, but would i go out with someone who took hard drugs, no, never. Even smoking dope would put me off.
21 June 2008, 08:33 PM
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21 June 2008, 08:37 PM
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21 June 2008, 08:42 PM
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All people/relationships have thier problems, it's actually very rare that you meet a person that you can really gell with.
Coke like any substance that is used for recreational purposses depends on the quantities used and how often, as to weather or not it is a significant problem.
You as you've said have a problem with drug use, so you need to be honest with her and tell her how you feel and what the consiquences of her continued use will be for your relationship.
If you decide to persevere with this girl the only way you will stop her is to change the company she keeps on a night out as the temptation will be there and once she's had a few drinks, as do most people the possibility she will make a poor judgment call will increase.
The only way to resist temptation is to remove oneself from it..
If you like this girl and want your relationship to work then you will face many challenges throughout the course of that time together, it's normal.
The difference between a sucsussfull relationship and a failed one is how much effort each party puts into it.
If she is not prepared to make the effort then she's not the one for you!
Coke like any substance that is used for recreational purposses depends on the quantities used and how often, as to weather or not it is a significant problem.
You as you've said have a problem with drug use, so you need to be honest with her and tell her how you feel and what the consiquences of her continued use will be for your relationship.
If you decide to persevere with this girl the only way you will stop her is to change the company she keeps on a night out as the temptation will be there and once she's had a few drinks, as do most people the possibility she will make a poor judgment call will increase.
The only way to resist temptation is to remove oneself from it..
If you like this girl and want your relationship to work then you will face many challenges throughout the course of that time together, it's normal.
The difference between a sucsussfull relationship and a failed one is how much effort each party puts into it.
If she is not prepared to make the effort then she's not the one for you!
21 June 2008, 08:45 PM
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If you (OP) haven't been downstairs then a) You're slow and B) Check the split does still have an island.
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21 June 2008, 08:55 PM
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alot of people are acting like they have lived a Bible type life,and never comitted a sin..How many people get slaughted every week on Beer,and it's perfectly acceptable to make an **** of yourself..If alcohol was invented today,it would be made illegal.Thankfully it's not..Think im gonna pour myself another Vodka,CHEERS
21 June 2008, 08:59 PM
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lol alot of people are acting like they have lived a Bible type life,and never comitted a sin..How many people get slaughted every week on Beer,and it's perfectly acceptable to make an **** of yourself..If alcohol was invented today,it would be made illegal.Thankfully it's not..Think im gonna pour myself another Vodka,CHEERS
alot of people are acting like they have lived a Bible type life,and never comitted a sin..How many people get slaughted every week on Beer,and it's perfectly acceptable to make an **** of yourself..If alcohol was invented today,it would be made illegal.Thankfully it's not..Think im gonna pour myself another Vodka,CHEERS Enjoy your Vodka.
21 June 2008, 09:11 PM
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I thought it was a disscusion not an argument.as for Bible type life,i was talking about people in General.The girl has taken Drugs and come clean about it,she went to the toilet for a little scratch and sniff for the first time in two months,according to the information.wheres the Flaw,Vodka is great BTW...
21 June 2008, 09:17 PM
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I thought it was a disscusion not an argument.as for Bible type life,i was talking about people in General.The girl has taken Drugs and come clean about it,she went to the toilet for a little scratch and sniff for the first time in two months,according to the information.wheres the Flaw,Vodka is great BTW...
21 June 2008, 09:29 PM
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21 June 2008, 09:33 PM
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I think I have one on webcam right now to be honest.
******* as in coming out with me and my hounds or as in sitting in a car having a fiddle, with the interior light on so it attracts a bigger audience than a Cheeky girls concert?
******* as in coming out with me and my hounds or as in sitting in a car having a fiddle, with the interior light on so it attracts a bigger audience than a Cheeky girls concert?
21 June 2008, 09:35 PM
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So, if she's going you need to plan one big night of fun involving her getting proper mashed on Charlie and ending up with you, her and at least one fit other and a digital camera 
