New girlfriend and unfavourable habit :-(
23 June 2008, 11:46 AM
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"If I dump her she may hit the drugs again and I don't want that!"
Lying and taking go hand in hand. Blackmail is a close follower. You are on very thin ice my friend.
Chatting to her will get you nowhere. She is simply going to tell you exactly what you want to hear.
Yve
Lying and taking go hand in hand. Blackmail is a close follower. You are on very thin ice my friend.
Chatting to her will get you nowhere. She is simply going to tell you exactly what you want to hear.
Yve
23 June 2008, 11:58 AM
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Sounds to me like she hasn't told you about it because she's scared you'll react in a similar way to some people on this thread. By all means talk to her about it, but don't be judgemental or she'll just conceal the habit (if it is a habit, that is). If you want to stay with her encourage her to be open about it, and offer to help if that's what she wants.
23 June 2008, 11:59 AM
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With the way you feel about drugs etc. and I agree with that myself, I would hit the deck running. I can see nothing but real trouble ahead for her and you too if you are involved.
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23 June 2008, 01:03 PM
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I recently met this girl on holiday. She shares the same taste in terms of fast cars etc which was cool.
Met up with her a few times. She smokes cigarettes which I wasn't keen on but the personality is good so went with it.
On the 3rd date she tells me about her past, that she got involved in drugs (a class A one to be precise) and that she was sent off to boarding school by her parents to sort it out - and hasn't touch the item since.
Anyway, on my previous date we were at this pub. A friend of the group disappeared into the ladies room and so did she. I later found out that she took some of this class A substance but to what extent I didn't know. Later outside I overheard her saying to her mate that the last time she touched it was a couple of months ago - not several years ago as I was initially told.
I asked her about it the following morning and she said didn't deny it but said she applied it to her gums. I was unimpressed that she even did that.
Coming from a background of NON-drugs (never even smoked ****!) I can't handle this in my head. I like her a lot but fear this complication will bring it all to an end. I fear that she does drugs more often now.
It's got me thinking now though about how much she does use the stuff. We spend the night together in a hotel a few weeks ago, she went into the wash room to get refreshed and all I could here was the taps on full blast for a good few minutes. Call me paranoid here but this has me wondering if the noise of the water flow could have been masking the sound of an otherwise unfavourable activity?
I really don't know what to do. Meet someone you really like and have this on your mind....
I talk to select people about this issue and they have mixed views. Some say put the nail in the coffin and move on. Some say stick with it as she has been honest so far and could mean she respects my feelings so things could change.
Not the type of topic you read on these forums everyday but someone must have been in this kind of boat?
Met up with her a few times. She smokes cigarettes which I wasn't keen on but the personality is good so went with it.
On the 3rd date she tells me about her past, that she got involved in drugs (a class A one to be precise) and that she was sent off to boarding school by her parents to sort it out - and hasn't touch the item since.
Anyway, on my previous date we were at this pub. A friend of the group disappeared into the ladies room and so did she. I later found out that she took some of this class A substance but to what extent I didn't know. Later outside I overheard her saying to her mate that the last time she touched it was a couple of months ago - not several years ago as I was initially told.
I asked her about it the following morning and she said didn't deny it but said she applied it to her gums. I was unimpressed that she even did that.
Coming from a background of NON-drugs (never even smoked ****!) I can't handle this in my head. I like her a lot but fear this complication will bring it all to an end. I fear that she does drugs more often now.
It's got me thinking now though about how much she does use the stuff. We spend the night together in a hotel a few weeks ago, she went into the wash room to get refreshed and all I could here was the taps on full blast for a good few minutes. Call me paranoid here but this has me wondering if the noise of the water flow could have been masking the sound of an otherwise unfavourable activity?
I really don't know what to do. Meet someone you really like and have this on your mind....
I talk to select people about this issue and they have mixed views. Some say put the nail in the coffin and move on. Some say stick with it as she has been honest so far and could mean she respects my feelings so things could change.
Not the type of topic you read on these forums everyday but someone must have been in this kind of boat?
If you date someone with a drug habbit there is a good chance that you'll always come second to it: be aware of that!
Ns04
23 June 2008, 01:09 PM
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Can't be ars*d reading it all either, all I can say to the OP is to loosen up a bit, and as the old adage goes if you can't beat 'em join 'em. Coke fuelled orgy is the way forward 
23 June 2008, 02:30 PM
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I think we need to see pics of her before we can make a decision. 
I'd be more concerned if it was heroin. Coke is not so bad.
Coke is a very sociable drug. If you take it or have taken it, it's hard to turn down a cheeky line if someone offers it. If it bugs you, it's gonna be hard to deal with this as if just dabbles now and then, she'll think it's OK compared to if she used to cane it.
Tough one.
I'd be more concerned if it was heroin. Coke is not so bad.
Coke is a very sociable drug. If you take it or have taken it, it's hard to turn down a cheeky line if someone offers it. If it bugs you, it's gonna be hard to deal with this as if just dabbles now and then, she'll think it's OK compared to if she used to cane it.
Tough one.
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23 June 2008, 02:41 PM
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Drugs are a mugs game, even alcohol! Soft drugs leads to hard drugs and casual use leads to addiction!
If you do alcohol, you will end up on this:
http://dsc.discovery.com/news/2006/1...y/kfc_zoom.jpg
If you do alcohol, you will end up on this:
http://dsc.discovery.com/news/2006/1...y/kfc_zoom.jpg
23 June 2008, 02:51 PM
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I say this only to counter the rather one sided view here that anyone that has had a few dozen recreational drug experiences ends up under a bridge in a cardboard box! Hundreds might, but millions dont (and then add socio-economic factors...)
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23 June 2008, 03:13 PM
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Gaz, Diesel. I was joking, hence the picture!!!
Maybe if you weren't both off your **** on crack as we speak, you'd have noticed!!!
Ns04
PS No, Gaz: the OTHER kind of crack!!!
Maybe if you weren't both off your **** on crack as we speak, you'd have noticed!!!
Ns04
PS No, Gaz: the OTHER kind of crack!!!
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23 June 2008, 04:12 PM
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23 June 2008, 05:01 PM
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Reading the first post properly its never going to work. You don't do drugs and she does. You'll never take drugs and you don't know if she'll stop for you - bearing in mind all her friends probably do. Usually drug takers go out with drug takers and drinkers go out with drinkers etc etc. They tend not to work together.
Mind you, like I said, all night sex-athons off your box are awesome
Mind you, like I said, all night sex-athons off your box are awesome
23 June 2008, 05:03 PM
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So what's the future.
You working hard saving for a new house, car, or holiday and she's spending it on drugs?
Can't end happily.
There are better people around, leave the druggies to each other.
Cheers
Lee
You working hard saving for a new house, car, or holiday and she's spending it on drugs?
Can't end happily.
There are better people around, leave the druggies to each other.
Cheers
Lee
23 June 2008, 06:26 PM
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Help her as much as you can, but definetly leave her. How many times in your life have you felt like this with a woman? I'm betting its a good few. You've managed without them...so you'll manage without this one and meet someone else that doesnt take drugs.
23 June 2008, 07:38 PM
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You need to sort this out yourself, or with good friends. You wont get what you obviously need to hear on here. All you'll get is biased opinions. If your in love with her, you'll know what to, but if it's still up in the air then only you can decide that. Dont waste your time on here, talk to people who really care about your situation. But if Drugs are a BIG ISSUE to you, then you should'nt be posting on here but stick to your morals, unless you really dont think you'll get a hotter chick than her again, which if true is a tad sad.
23 June 2008, 11:48 PM
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thing is you'll never trust her.
Your head is also telling what you need to do.
don't make it any worse foryourself by stringing it out.
every time she's not next to you you'll be thinking whats she upto!!
Your head is also telling what you need to do.
don't make it any worse foryourself by stringing it out.
every time she's not next to you you'll be thinking whats she upto!!
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That's both females and males out the window, then.
Looks like its on to this for you:
http://blogs.zdnet.com/BTL/images/sheep.jpg
They can't lie, and never say no........apparently!
Oh hang on, they do use grass! They're out too!
Looks like its on to this for you:
http://blogs.zdnet.com/BTL/images/sheep.jpg
They can't lie, and never say no........apparently!
Oh hang on, they do use grass! They're out too!
25 June 2008, 12:38 AM
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That's both females and males out the window, then.
Looks like its on to this for you:
http://blogs.zdnet.com/BTL/images/sheep.jpg
They can't lie, and never say no........apparently!
Oh hang on, they do use grass! They're out too!
Looks like its on to this for you:
http://blogs.zdnet.com/BTL/images/sheep.jpg
They can't lie, and never say no........apparently!
Oh hang on, they do use grass! They're out too!
25 June 2008, 11:03 AM
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Someonr touched on it a few posts back, opinions on here will vary depending on what camp you're in. Which basically is the divide between you and her. you are dead against drugs, she isn't. It seems at this moment in time she is around drugs socially and at work, so she isn't changing anytime soon. Perhaps there will be a time when her job / friends drift and her habit changes, who knows?
But basically you and her aren't compatible atm and it looks like it isn't the time for her to change.
game over, but get your end away 1st.
But basically you and her aren't compatible atm and it looks like it isn't the time for her to change.
game over, but get your end away 1st.