Leslie

I dont think you need to feel all that guilty really. She has made the approaches and she must realise how you feel about that. She doesn't seem to have a right as such to contact you.

Maybe best that you politely say how you feel about the relationship and that there is nothing to be gained by taking it up again. That way your conscience will be eased and she has no excuse to get shirty about it.

Les

GlesgaKiss

Very sensible advice. I think I might actually tell her that today, even if I just send her a text.

Jamescsti

Just wondering does it ever work really, being friends with an ex?
I've tried it but I realise now it was because I wanted to get back together with her, that was a long long time ago.
Just wondering?

HankScorpio

Mates type chat (weather, cars, eastenders, who's hot, who isn't) tends not to happen between people who've had each others genitals in their mouths (in my experience).

GlesgaKiss

Didn't work for me because I had the same on my mind as you, and I knew she did.

astraboy

Yeah I've been there, in fact, in the past, I've posted on here a couple of times about it.

What you must remember is some girls are just not girlfriend material. They either cant be arsed, dont want a relationship, dont like you that much or even just want to mess with your head. The end result is the same regardless of which they are.

Women though do have one thing in common. They want attention. They want to feel they can turn a mans head. In some cases, They will treat you like **** for a couple of weeks, then start being nice as pie. What they're hoping is to elicit you running back despite them treating you like ****. It makes them feel like they control you. Both physically and emaotionally. and it empowers them.

I've been there. Some who are still here may remember me posting about this situation and I'm still feeling the effects 4 years later and while I'm very happily attached with my current g/f.

I seem to remember a lot of people telling me to get shot of this distructive relationship, but I was too much of a nice guy to do so. In the end it cost me dear.

Some girls are not girlfriend material. This one sounds like a good example.

You've done the right thing.
astraboy.

Lee247

Don't tar us all with the same brush

astraboy

I didnt
astraboy.

GlesgaKiss

Cheers astraboy. My opinion is a lot like yours. She is definetly not girlfriend material. I have to give her one thing though: she is very, very clever. It's honestly amazing some of the mind games she plays - and I'm not daft by any stretch.

Lee247

Alright, big gob, no need to shout

Stephb1986

Just tell her that you've had enough of her picking you up and dropping you when she feels like it and you have feelings too, your happy for her that she has a new car and you hope she enjoys it but you dont want to talk to her anymore.

I have plenty of male friends nothing has happened with any of them, i've been happy in a relationship for the last 18 months and wouldn't dream of jepordising it for anyone.

Good luck

Steph xx

StickyMicky

i think you were a little wrong to text her back at all, better to compleatly cut ties, then still have a smidge of conversation going imo



to be honest, i have been in the same boat and usually just switch my phone off compeatly, the last time the missus walked out on me, i switched my phone off for 3 days, and came home from the pub to find her "back" LOL


takes a bit of self control mind!

StickyMicky

they actually do like a bit of a **** IMO
they can try and train a man to be all sensitive and stuff but once they master them, they tend to lose intrest ASAP in my opinion.


they might bitch on that they always want somebody more sensitive and all that gushy crap, but its bollocks, they mostly want a man, not a half arsed boy-girl

cossie-nutter

iTrader: (45)

Mate kick her to the kurb and cut all ties even changing your phone numbers! If she can't get the hint after that then get a restraining order slapped on her! (She will soon get the hint then!)

Also text her once saying please leave me alone i am happy with out you and good luck in your life and i am changing all numbers so this is the last text ever!
cheers!
iamacutnandwantridofyouforgood