greenonedave

Everybody has their own time span in regards to recovery to the kind of loss you had, I lost my dad 17 years ago and sometimes when you least expect it , it comes round and gives you a painfull thump, The only way that i can get thro these times is to focus on the good times I had with my Dad and consider that he would be proud of how his family all remember him and how proud he would be of his grandchildren. As my wife always says, You dont get over it, you just get used to it. Good luck.

Julz1983

I can see that after a while that is quite true.
When I read that link I can definately associate with the first few sentences.
When the phone rings you think it could be the person. If I got anything new, ie- car, or there was something you would be told and would usually tell the person who had died it used to be habit of just about going to pick up the phone and dial but then realise no-one would answer. I might sound like a proper fruit cake here but for the first few days or so I did phone my Dad's mobile just to make sure, I obviously knew he was gone but to me at the time it couldn't have really happened and been true. Don't worry I don't do it now so no-one needs to call the men in the white coats! As everyone has already said, there is no time limit on when you should stop greiving or start letting go. Don't hold back on what you want to say either, whether it be on here or to someone you know, after all I've just typed out something that probably makes me sound like a right lunatic!

greenonedave

There is a normal series of emotions that we all go throu when you suffer the loss of a loved one, i.e. first initial shock, disbelief,anger, dissapointment sadness , its a normal part of grieving .Everybody has to go through all these feelings on the road to the final adjustment. Talking is for some a good vent others do it on their own whilst others find organisations like cruise very usefull. You can only find the right path that will suit you. Honestly it takes time but you can do it.

Removed.

I lost my Dad nearly 5 years ago, and I still have "moments", where something sets me off, usually something small. I nearly rang him a few weeks ago to tell him about a large ocean going tug moored a mile or so off the coast (He was in the merchant navy in WWII). I was dialling the number and realised what I was doing, cue tears. I don't think it ever stops, it just gets easier to cope with. Unfortunately we lost Mum a week before Christmas, so it's brought it all back. The strangest feeling was when I realised that I didn't have parents any more.