Mo.B.Dick

Good point

spray1974

Poll is getting very interesting, My reason for posting this is that you ask anybody to there face and you get the same line "only you know the answer" What i was looking for is what peoples opinions are. On the subject and doing so some on the internet are going to be flippant but others are also going to be genuine and honest seeing its not a person on person thing. Underlying reasons for this yeah I have some faults that might have lead upto this but am sure being cheated on is the worst feeling anyone can have in a relationship.

As far as am concerned nobody deserves having there world destroyed in this manner...

Lisawrx

iTrader: (1)

Being cheated on is the worst thing that can happen in a relationship, short of being beaten on. The point is, can you see a way forward, or not?

At the end of the day, it doesn't matter what anyone on a forum thinks. It's your life, your kids' life and your other half, and what's important, is if you can work to get past this, if it's worth even trying, and working out how you got to this point.

If the love is gone anyway, despite her doing this, it's maybe better to walk away, and try and keep things amicable for the sake of the children. An unhappy home can be worse than a broken one.

It's not fobbing you off to say, only you can decide. But it's very easy for people not in a situation to spout off with what they would do, when if it happened to them, the way they'd act may be very different.

Terminator X

iTrader: (7)

You either love someone or you don't ... there is no in between

TX.

jasey

If my wife cheated on me that would be it.

That's not the going getting tough - that's it over.

Life's too short to be with someone who probably doesn't like you anymore !

The Kids will get over it.

ScoobyDoo555

Whilst I accept the *potential* consideration of the kids, I'd boot her up the hoop and be gone.
The kids WILL get over it, and you'll end up happier.
IMHO, you never stay together for the sake of the kids - they'll know.

Of course, if you can't afford to go, that's a different problem.

All I know is that if my wife did the dirty, she'd be gone, no matter how hurt I felt - and the same applies to me (not going to happen though )

But it's all down to what you can live with. If you can live with her betrayal (which is what it is), then that is down to you.

Good luck with it either way

mr_D

iTrader: (12)

if a women cheats on you then there is no better revenge than to let the guy she cheated with keep her!!!

well it worked for me.

i got a kid with this girl and everything was hunky dory till her mother broke her hip and we had to run her pub. she ended up cheating on me with one of the guys who worked there. i went mental putting my fists through security glass(not a good idea, but i was a little intoxicated and i couldnt get to her). i was angry and was dragged home after an hour of breaking things. i let him keep her, never texted never called just left them to it. she fell pregnant with his kid,. he disowned her and s1agged her out behind her back. she got beat up in town all the time because he cheated on his girlfriend to be with her. she had to get rid of the baby because of all the greif it gave her and everyone around her.

now she is single and lonely and the only thing i hate it the fact my lil boy had to go through all that. he was 2 yesterday and it breaks my heart to have to leave him all the time, but she had what was coming to her.

(oh and now she wants me back)

Leslie

Depends on how you feel about her, and whether she is sorry and wants to continue the relationship.

The important people in this affair are you of course but mostly your children.

Its a bad situation for you and the children and I hope it can be sorted out in the best way for you and the children.

Les

spray1974

Thanks for your kind advice people the kids and myself are number one here too be frank I will try to work it out, but at the end of the day if she don't love me then its finished and yes I believe that love is an emotion and you either love or not there's no middle ground with it, so looks like am on a sticky situation then. I will give it a try though, as for the other guy hes a prime number one looser, prospects nil work nil track record and relationships and marriage FAIL..

I believe I can move on with or without. I will be hurt to loose her as I cant understand how you can love someone for 16 years then say naw its a mistake, and hurt that the children wont be with me and that they have to experience this whole situation.

bigsinky

always use the 4 Fs mate.

Jye

Oh dear, another wannabe twinkie

Get a grip is my unwanted advice

paulwrxboro

good luck mate

Leslie

+1

Les

New_scooby_04

iTrader: (4)

Leave her..... cheating is a sacking offence mate; no ifs and buts about it
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After you've banged her sister!

al4x1

about all to add is are they all yours?

Hysteria1983

If you only half love someone, then do you then half love someone else?
It doesn't really work that way imo. You either do or you don't. You can't really love them to any degree, unless it's ...... to the moon and back. That is THE most technical way to tell someone how much you love them!

Hysteria1983

As for the children, I wouldn't stay with my man just for the children if he cheated on me.
I would pack up and be off to pastures new.
I couldn't spend day after day pretending to love someone for the sake of the children, and then night after night alone with a man who made my skin crawl.
Once the trust has been broken in a relationship it's just a matter of time before the cracks appear.
You have to think about the bigger picture, How is family life and your relationship generally?
Could you get back to a happy place, and put this moment in time in a box, lock it up and throw away the key?
In order for things to get better you have to agree to forgive and forget, and never use it against her, or she will never feel like you ever forgiver her.
If you can't see yourself being able to do that, then you need to think why, and what are you going to do about it?!