Thinking of moving the girlfriend in...? (Legalities)
28 October 2009, 12:28 PM
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Just being cautious pal, my house is all i have...and its me thats being brave after all what has she got to lose....but I have got loads at stake.
28 October 2009, 01:35 PM
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I know exactly where you are coming from. My house is like an investment, if I were to loose it i'd be up crap creek.
But I am simply saying that for some people it's more about living together and being 'partners'... partners being the important word.
Personally i couldn't live like that.
Will you basically keep everything separate? I can see trouble with it all to be honest.... if you are paying all the bills mortgage etc, yet she will pay 'rent' what will she pay for? Shopping, clothes, things for the children?
I know it's probably early days with regards to becoming a step dad, but it will come a point where you are considered a provider or guardian. Once you have crossed that line it's no longer as black and white as she just pays rent.
From a legal aspect if there are children involved its a whole different ball game to if she were a single woman with no dependents.
But I am simply saying that for some people it's more about living together and being 'partners'... partners being the important word.
Personally i couldn't live like that.
Will you basically keep everything separate? I can see trouble with it all to be honest.... if you are paying all the bills mortgage etc, yet she will pay 'rent' what will she pay for? Shopping, clothes, things for the children?
I know it's probably early days with regards to becoming a step dad, but it will come a point where you are considered a provider or guardian. Once you have crossed that line it's no longer as black and white as she just pays rent.
From a legal aspect if there are children involved its a whole different ball game to if she were a single woman with no dependents.
29 October 2009, 11:20 AM
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Yes I was thinking keep everything in my name and either take rent as her landlord so to speak but I agree that under a certain period of time that would be looked at as you us still cohabiting in the eyes of the law.
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29 October 2009, 11:25 AM
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I think it depends.... have you spoken to her about this?
Are you looking at the bigger picture?
If I moved in with someone who was protecting his/her assets and keeping things in his/her name then I would be a little worried about commitment.
It doesn't exactly scream that you want to be with her for better or for worse so to speak.
From a legal and financial point of view if you are taking it cash in hand and you split you could get a nice tax bill at the end of it if she blabs.
Are you looking at the bigger picture?
If I moved in with someone who was protecting his/her assets and keeping things in his/her name then I would be a little worried about commitment.
It doesn't exactly scream that you want to be with her for better or for worse so to speak.
From a legal and financial point of view if you are taking it cash in hand and you split you could get a nice tax bill at the end of it if she blabs.
29 October 2009, 11:31 AM
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I think it depends.... have you spoken to her about this?
Are you looking at the bigger picture?
If I moved in with someone who was protecting his/her assets and keeping things in his/her name then I would be a little worried about commitment.
It doesn't exactly scream that you want to be with her for better or for worse so to speak.
From a legal and financial point of view if you are taking it cash in hand and you split you could get a nice tax bill at the end of it if she blabs.
Are you looking at the bigger picture?
If I moved in with someone who was protecting his/her assets and keeping things in his/her name then I would be a little worried about commitment.
It doesn't exactly scream that you want to be with her for better or for worse so to speak.
From a legal and financial point of view if you are taking it cash in hand and you split you could get a nice tax bill at the end of it if she blabs.
Last edited by slagmagnet69; 30 October 2009 at 08:43 AM.
29 October 2009, 11:35 AM
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In whih case she will still seen to have been 'contributing' to the household. It's not exactly going to sweep her off her feet. Do you think she even wants to live with you?
To be honest, if you feel this strongly mate, you are barking up the wrong tree. Stick as you are until you feel you want to show a bit more commitment. Give it a year or two and the kids will be ol enough to have their own say in what they do as well.
To be honest, if you feel this strongly mate, you are barking up the wrong tree. Stick as you are until you feel you want to show a bit more commitment. Give it a year or two and the kids will be ol enough to have their own say in what they do as well.
29 October 2009, 01:44 PM
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29 October 2009, 04:59 PM
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