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Old 18 November 2009, 06:20 AM
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I would love to be back in bed but my youngest was up at 3.30am and not well at all. Just got him back to sleep on the sofa!

One thing I do know having had young kids over the past couple of years - sleep deprivation or broken sleep patterns for whatever reason put more stress on you physically and especially mentally than any other thing I can think of!

I am very lucky in that I have flexible working so I will be able to catch up later on.
Old 18 November 2009, 07:21 AM
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Don't go to a doctor till you've exhausted "self-help"
This is shockingly bad advice, make the doc your first stop so he can rule out anything physical (as unlikely as that sounds) and rule out the danger of you being a suicide risk. Then as mentioned by the poster, you may well be able to fix this with self help. Pills and counselling may not be necessary, but I'd prefer for a doctor to make that decision initially.

See the doc first and if you feel you may get tongue tied or whatever, my advice would be to print out your initial post, take it with you and let him ask any questions after he's read it.

Good luck

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Old 18 November 2009, 11:52 AM
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Try speaking to your occupational health, ours is fantastic and really helpful (South Yorks)
Old 18 November 2009, 02:12 PM
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Originally Posted by ScoobyDoo555
Do you know what's great about this site? THIS. For all the tw@ts and unpleasantness that get you thinking that it's time to jack it all in, you get one topic that brings out the best in people.
That's exactly what I've been thinking. Thanks to all for the PMs, replies on this thread etc.
Old 18 November 2009, 02:32 PM
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Originally Posted by SiPie
This is shockingly bad advice, make the doc your first stop so he can rule out anything physical (as unlikely as that sounds) and rule out the danger of you being a suicide risk. Then as mentioned by the poster, you may well be able to fix this with self help. Pills and counselling may not be necessary, but I'd prefer for a doctor to make that decision initially.

See the doc first and if you feel you may get tongue tied or whatever, my advice would be to print out your initial post, take it with you and let him ask any questions after he's read it.

Good luck
I agree with you in general, however as I mentioned quite a few companies will not hire someone that has mental instability (even depression) on their medical record.

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Old 18 November 2009, 02:59 PM
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Originally Posted by boxst
I agree with you in general, however as I mentioned quite a few companies will not hire someone that has mental instability (even depression) on their medical record.

Steve
When you consider that 1 in 4 people have mental health issues, and 1 in 10 people will suffer from clinical depression at some point in their life, that seems to be a bold claim you are making there and will eventually mean companies have no people to employ.

Besides, career and money should NEVER come before physical and mental health.
Old 18 November 2009, 03:26 PM
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what a great, constructive thread - hope everyone finds the help they need.

i cant eat a lot, sleep, or be bothered with much, but we all have issues of some sort or other to deal with...
This poxy country dont help lol

good luck
Old 18 November 2009, 04:55 PM
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Occupational health say I'm depressed. Apparently they will be sending me for counselling.

Ah well, I can't deny it now, I'm as mental as 50% of SN members now
Old 18 November 2009, 05:10 PM
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The good news is that's the first step on the way back. You have been describing classic symptoms of depression which is a brain chemistry imbalance. Ignore the self help heros - that comes later, although exercise is a proven way to help depression - get a local mate to take you to the gym and not accept any excuses that you don't feel like it etc. A true mate will do that for you.

See the GP as a priority - the treatment recommended is likely to include serotonin - which will help rebalance the chemistry /make you feel more positive , help you sleep and generally help you break the cycle of insomnia, worrying, fatigue. The GP will also possibly suggest CBT - cognitive behaviourial therapy, which trains you into a new way of thinking that breaks the negative cycle you've been suffering from.

Both therapies work and there is no shame in any of this - other than when you get better (and you will) you may not be bonkers enough to come on here any more...

Chin up and crack on

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Old 18 November 2009, 05:54 PM
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Quote from Markus "Ya big poof, pull yourself together or I'll get on a bloody plane and fly over and give you an effing slap!"



Ha! funny as ***! but in all seriousness my friend speak to someone in the know, g,p or councilor, dont just do nothing!!! hope you start feeling better soon

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Old 18 November 2009, 06:06 PM
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Originally Posted by ScoobyWon't
Occupational health say I'm depressed. Apparently they will be sending me for counselling.

Ah well, I can't deny it now, I'm as mental as 50% of SN members now

Good news, well, obviously not that you are depressed, but that you have been to OH, plus they have defined you as being a mentalist and are sending you to get shrunk, or turned into an even bigger mental




Originally Posted by sparks_c/s
Quote from Markus "Ya big poof, pull yourself together or I'll get on a bloody plane and fly over and give you an effing slap!"



Ha! funny as ***! but in all seriousness my friend speak to someone in the know, g,p or councilor, dont just do nothing!!! hope you start feeling better soon

I thought I'd throw some humor SW's way, as he'd know I was simply trying to cheep him up, rather than taking the pish, as some may have thought.
Old 18 November 2009, 06:21 PM
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Originally Posted by ScoobyWon't
Occupational health say I'm depressed. Apparently they will be sending me for counselling.

Ah well, I can't deny it now, I'm as mental as 50% of SN members now
Don't forget to talk to your friends. As I said before, it will help to offload and we are prepared to listen and be there for you

Glad you have made the first move in getting help. Good luck
Old 18 November 2009, 11:09 PM
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I thought I'd throw some humor SW's way, as he'd know I was simply trying to cheep him up, rather than taking the pish, as some may have thought.


Didn't think that at all, don't be so cynical humor ws.....is the idea! just being light hearted my friend
Old 19 November 2009, 10:37 AM
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I am sure that the counselling will help you out of it.

Best wishes and please keep us informed.

Les
Old 19 November 2009, 01:21 PM
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I'm sorry to hear you are feeling so sh#te, I think you were the first person that spoke to me on snet. I'm glad you have taken steps to get help and hope you feel better soon.
Liz
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