jonny_693

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What a small world, I can't believe we had the same counsellor.

It didn't help me much, but certainly did no harm. Go for it.

ScoobyWon't

You're Mansfield way aren't you Ant?

If so, Snazy, feel free to call it at mine on the way, I'm about 20-25 minutes south of there.

I think you have my mobile number. If you fancy a chat feel free to ring, PM me your number in advance as I don't answer to unknown numbers. Paranoia

I was offered some form of counselling at work last year when I felt I was heading towards self-destructing, however, they never called with an appointment so I didn't bother with it.

I think I still have some good reading material in my email which astraboy emailed to myself. If he's not already sent it to you, I can forward it.

astraboy

this is actually really good advice.

Ant

Yeah Kirkby so close enough

chocolate_o_brian

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I wouldn't personally ask for that kind of advice on a forum like this. Too many people who behind their keyboards will say anything for a reaction with no thought of the consequences.

We've both been there a couple 3 years ago and I learnt from my mistakes. Heart on sleeve DOES NOT work on Scoobynet I'm afraid.

Good luck anyway Michael. Pm us if you want.

Snazy

I agree mate. I'm not looking for them to cure me or anything, but sometimes it's takes someone looking in from the outside to find out what is triggering you.

Thats where the problem stems from, this is the first time on over 2 years that I have had any time to take a look at myself, and all of a sudden it's something I can't relate to anymore.
I'm a deep thinker, and usually more than in control of my mind. I'm the cool head when surrounded by panic, the calm reaction to a dramatic situation, but when it comes to me, it's a whole different matter.

Caffeine intake AVERAGE, a few diet pepsi drinks a day
Alcohol intake NONE, non drinker
Number of hours sleep per night AVERAGE 6-8 a night
Do you take time for regular exercise? 6-10 miles a day with the dogs etc
Is you diet full of crap convenience food? SENSIBLE, very little crap
Do you spend long periods alone without contact with friends / family? HIGH CONTACT I work 6 hours a day spent in a chatty office, and mother lives with me.

I'm not one for believing drugs solve anything, so have no real interest in that route at all. I know where the problem is, just got to find what it is that I'm missing, and work on it.

hodgy0_2

"A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step"

it does not really matter what the "step" is, it just matters you take it

Snazy

Yeah been offered it before at work and thru the GP when mum was first diagnosed, but decided against it in the end as I felt I could do it on my own. But the stage I'm at now, I know something is not right so want to get dealing with it before I start pretending all is well.

Cheers for the offer mate, Snaz on tour, I like it lol. Definatly one to consider and if I come up that way it would be rude not to


Andy, I hear ya mate, but at times like this any and everything needs considering, and as this thread and the PM's I have had have proved, there are some fantastic people on SN, even if some of them DO like Apple products lol.
I'm not in a vunerable state or anything, so if people want to say dumb things, so be it. Just curious to hear from a broad spectrum of people what their experiences are.

GC8

Michael, I dont mean to come across as unsympathetic, but there are members here who are really, really ill, who dont mention it at all.

Are we going to return to Scoobynet MSR (Mostly Snazy Related)?

jjones

your only problem is that you are an attention *****.

"look at me, look at me"

sorry, have nothing against you, in fact i think you are a decent guy.. but living your life out posting nearly every personal/insignificant fact on random forums is not normal.

put the laptop/smartphone/pc down and interact more in the physical world.

i don't mean this to be hurtful but it is my thoughts.

ODWOC

And notice how the 'other one' jumped on the band wagon

Now watch as they are 'victimised'

AlzayUK300

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FFS what a bunch of **** takers you are.

I got 15 sessions from a private shrink paid for by my company, I was suffering from really bad depression. Not sure what happened to me but it hit me like an express train one day.

Yes it was all comfy seats and pillows, but the help was amazing, I had a few bad visits where I took panic attacks but she got me through it.

If you feel you need it DO IT. Most folk have great problems whether its work, money, family just some are better at covering it up than others. Everyone will eventually crack.

There is no shame on it.

ODWOC

Couldn't agree more...

These two have history in the public domain

chocolate_o_brian

iTrader: (22)

And you have a history of having many aliases banned for being what you are. Nobodies perfect eh?

As said Michael good luck with it but keep some stuff away from here or at least by pm. Keeps the ammunition away from 'members' like the above alias

ODWOC

Nothing to do with me... but don't let that get in the way of your attention seeking

chocolate_o_brian

iTrader: (22)

Ok

ODWOC

'OK' what?

What 'aliases' have been banned?

None, that's what... you pair make it up as you go along. If you require help then seek it in the numerous appropriate places and cease this attention seeking nonsense

Rasher

unloading your troubles to a perfect stranger who doesnt take sides and most imporantly listens to you does help in my personal experience, it is worth a shot mate

Snazy

Fair point mate, but each to their own I guess. I'm not for one second saying I have worse issues than anyone on here, quite the opposite, but sometimes other peoples experience is invaluable, like this time.

If the thread bores you, apologise but would suggest you ignore it, or just add me to your ignore list. This is who I am, it's not gonna change

Not taken as hurtful, no reason to, it's your opinion and you are entitled to it.
Not quite sure about posting every personal fact, but if that's how it looks, sorry to be such a chore.

I am not quite sure how you perceive my life, some dark exsistance in a cupboard or something, but I do spend a lot of time with real people too lol.

Cheers mate, nice to know it works for some people and is not just a fraud science. Certainly not ashamed of considering using one

Hope all is well with you now mate.


Sorry to have opened a can of worms for you Andy, for me I'm quite happy for these people to have their say. It's not actually a response to the question asked in the post, so has no real impact to be fair lol.

Main thing is I have got the answers I wanted from my post, that's what I set out to do. If it gives some a little entertainment along the way, bonus.

Snazy

Sometimes complete stranger can become your closest friend. Like I say, the main plan for me is to have someone identify the issue that I am sure I'm fine with, that is actually getting to me on some level.

Thanks once again for all the responses and taking the time to read and make them, even the sarcastic and digs lol.

Group hug

See you soon Sal

Lisawrx

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Peeps, chill out before it all gets nasty.

Some people like to vent/talk about their problems, even to strangers and it doesn't make them attention seekers. Just some people wear their heart on their sleeve more than others. No harm there, just ignore them if they bore you.

Not to be soft, but this forum has offered me a little outlet at times and some bloody good support along the way through some crap, and I (and others) like to give that back.

Snazy, I suggest, if you feel you need some help and you can't deal with this alone, you see someone and get some advice/an ear. If it helps, great. If not then you find another way to deal with whatever you are feeling. Is there nobody closer to you (that doesn't recite out of a text book) that you could talk to?

No matter how much you talk to someone in the 'profession' you can only really help yourself.. I'm not familiar with such people, but I'm not sure if I could put up with the totally detatched and standard responses you'd probably get.

Whether or not a counselor could help, I don't know. Doing something is harder than ignoring issues (hence why I put up with life as it is) I'm just not convinced a counselor is going to fix things for you.

JackClark

Pretty pointless seeing a councillor then, it's who you are and what you that's making you sick.

Snazy

Cheers Lisa.
Like I say I'm not expecting someone to fix my mind like a plumber fixes a leaking pipe.
In my experience talking things through sometimes helps identify a trigger that is causing the feelings, moods and emotions. That is what I'm hoping to gain from this. Not a quick fix.

Someone closer to me, not really no. And to be honest sometimes it's best to keep these things away from the ones you care about. Not keep them secret, but not expect them to be able to help. Too much pressure just makes for more problems.

Like you say though, some of us choose to vent, some more than others lol.

Snazy

errm thanks.
Every opinion counts,even yours

JackClark

I like your little icon thing, scratching it's head like I'm the mental one. Perhaps it's your snide attitude that's causing issues.

ScoobyWon't

In that case watch out for the nutter who lives in the flat above the play centre opposite Station road.

The **** threw a 26" crt television out of the window at me! He also has a tendancy to throw bar-bells through the closed windows.

Ant

noted

Snazy

Sounds like you have met Ant already lol.

Chip

Sounds like a nice place you live in.

Chip

Scooby Soon!

For an apple fan you sure are bitter sometimes!