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Here's my "claim to fame".
I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome on December 3rd this year, at 45 years old.
I don't just "have" Asperger's, i practically define it. All the clues (including the obsessive postcount) were always there right in front of me, but it took a major event in my life for me to seek professional advice. For me it's been an epiphany (see, over-elaborate vocabulary, a la Asperger's), and hopefully hasn't come too late in life for me to make some real changes in the way i do, and more importantly, say things.
It's obviously very early days, but even in the short time i've had my diagnosis, i've not talked to anybody who would not press the "off" button to rid themselves of Asperger's if they could. It's not just a trendy condition for angsty students, it's a hugely debilitating ailment for those who genuinely have it. In my mind, it's actually fairly different from autism, although there's undoubtedly overlap.
If there's anyone on here who wants to chat privately about it, i'd be happy to do so.
I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome on December 3rd this year, at 45 years old.
I don't just "have" Asperger's, i practically define it. All the clues (including the obsessive postcount) were always there right in front of me, but it took a major event in my life for me to seek professional advice. For me it's been an epiphany (see, over-elaborate vocabulary, a la Asperger's), and hopefully hasn't come too late in life for me to make some real changes in the way i do, and more importantly, say things.
It's obviously very early days, but even in the short time i've had my diagnosis, i've not talked to anybody who would not press the "off" button to rid themselves of Asperger's if they could. It's not just a trendy condition for angsty students, it's a hugely debilitating ailment for those who genuinely have it. In my mind, it's actually fairly different from autism, although there's undoubtedly overlap.
If there's anyone on here who wants to chat privately about it, i'd be happy to do so.
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To be utterly frank, I suppose it does explain some idiosyncrasies. I do however struggle to understand how its supposed to detract from one's ability to function out there in the real world. Surely its just a state of mind totally dependant on the individual's personality and lifestyle situation.
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My son is under assessement for a number of things associated with autism/aspergers.
Personally I am unwilling for him to be labelled with anything at four years of age.
However it would be good to hear some of your experiences.
Personally I am unwilling for him to be labelled with anything at four years of age.
However it would be good to hear some of your experiences.
Here's my "claim to fame".
I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome on December 3rd this year, at 45 years old.
I don't just "have" Asperger's, i practically define it. All the clues (including the obsessive postcount) were always there right in front of me, but it took a major event in my life for me to seek professional advice. For me it's been an epiphany (see, over-elaborate vocabulary, a la Asperger's), and hopefully hasn't come too late in life for me to make some real changes in the way i do, and more importantly, say things.
It's obviously very early days, but even in the short time i've had my diagnosis, i've not talked to anybody who would not press the "off" button to rid themselves of Asperger's if they could. It's not just a trendy condition for angsty students, it's a hugely debilitating ailment for those who genuinely have it. In my mind, it's actually fairly different from autism, although there's undoubtedly overlap.
If there's anyone on here who wants to chat privately about it, i'd be happy to do so.
I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome on December 3rd this year, at 45 years old.
I don't just "have" Asperger's, i practically define it. All the clues (including the obsessive postcount) were always there right in front of me, but it took a major event in my life for me to seek professional advice. For me it's been an epiphany (see, over-elaborate vocabulary, a la Asperger's), and hopefully hasn't come too late in life for me to make some real changes in the way i do, and more importantly, say things.
It's obviously very early days, but even in the short time i've had my diagnosis, i've not talked to anybody who would not press the "off" button to rid themselves of Asperger's if they could. It's not just a trendy condition for angsty students, it's a hugely debilitating ailment for those who genuinely have it. In my mind, it's actually fairly different from autism, although there's undoubtedly overlap.
If there's anyone on here who wants to chat privately about it, i'd be happy to do so.
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H1983, i'm not sure whether i'd have been diagnosed Asperger's as young as four. I was precocious as a kid, my ability to do maths was almost scary. I don't have savant skills of any sort whatsoever, but school to me was just too easy.
Unfortunately, secondary school brought me down to earth with a bump. Being all-round capable, and incapable of shutting up about it, loses you friends quicker than wildfire. So i actually had to dumb down so that the bullying relented.
I'm a fabulous collector. I could collect for England. Obsessively so.
I have a hypersensitivity to two noises - sniffing and ticking clocks. If you ever wanted to torture me, just have somebody with a cold bring in a clock, i'd give up immediately.
I have a hypersensitivity to two perfumes - Obsession and Poison. Both make me physically sick, literally.
Perfectionism? Those who know me won't need me to elaborate.
The need to correct error? It's like biting a pillow whenever i see something wrong, especially written prose.
The list is a long and inglorious one.
Unfortunately, secondary school brought me down to earth with a bump. Being all-round capable, and incapable of shutting up about it, loses you friends quicker than wildfire. So i actually had to dumb down so that the bullying relented.
I'm a fabulous collector. I could collect for England. Obsessively so.
I have a hypersensitivity to two noises - sniffing and ticking clocks. If you ever wanted to torture me, just have somebody with a cold bring in a clock, i'd give up immediately.
I have a hypersensitivity to two perfumes - Obsession and Poison. Both make me physically sick, literally.
Perfectionism? Those who know me won't need me to elaborate.
The need to correct error? It's like biting a pillow whenever i see something wrong, especially written prose.
The list is a long and inglorious one.
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To be utterly frank, I suppose it does explain some idiosyncrasies. I do however struggle to understand how its supposed to detract from one's ability to function out there in the real world. Surely its just a state of mind totally dependant on the individual's personality and lifestyle situation.
(If that made any sense
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(If that made any sense
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It does make sense. What it's meant for me is people telling me i'm not very good at some things, which to an Asperger with God Syndrome is pretty hard to take. What i know about empathy you could write on the back of a stamp. What i know about forseeing consequences of my actions, you could write on a pinhead. Learning about those weaknesses and how to compensate for them is all part of what i'm currently going through.
On the bright side, we never lie. We don't have the imaginitive ability. Which in some ways, thinking on my feet here, was what made me SO angry about the Clownwatch thing, when people were hurling accusations at me left right and centre. It just wasn't "logical" - why couldn't they see that too?!! lol Ah well, better at 45 than never at all i suppose.
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my sons doctor said we all have it in us its just if it shows or not /
heres a question he asked me
IF YOU CAME INTO WORK AND DISCOVERED SOMEONE HAD PUT THIER COAT ON YOU PEG WOULD YOU MOVE IT ? i answered no but he said its astounding the amount of people who would move the coat . we all have traits of it he said perhaps thats why we have so may parking problems people defending thier parking space even thier wheely bins space in some cases
heres a question he asked me
IF YOU CAME INTO WORK AND DISCOVERED SOMEONE HAD PUT THIER COAT ON YOU PEG WOULD YOU MOVE IT ? i answered no but he said its astounding the amount of people who would move the coat . we all have traits of it he said perhaps thats why we have so may parking problems people defending thier parking space even thier wheely bins space in some cases
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Tel, when I met you at the London muppets drinkums, I would never have guessed this at all. You came across as a very well mannered and likable fellow, and please don't take this the wrong way, slightly OCD about a couple of things (high heels being 1 of them)
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It does make sense. What it's meant for me is people telling me i'm not very good at some things, which to an Asperger with God Syndrome is pretty hard to take. What i know about empathy you could write on the back of a stamp. What i know about forseeing consequences of my actions, you could write on a pinhead. Learning about those weaknesses and how to compensate for them is all part of what i'm currently going through.
On the bright side, we never lie. We don't have the imaginitive ability. Which in some ways, thinking on my feet here, was what made me SO angry about the Clownwatch thing, when people were hurling accusations at me left right and centre. It just wasn't "logical" - why couldn't they see that too?!! lol Ah well, better at 45 than never at all i suppose.
On the bright side, we never lie. We don't have the imaginitive ability. Which in some ways, thinking on my feet here, was what made me SO angry about the Clownwatch thing, when people were hurling accusations at me left right and centre. It just wasn't "logical" - why couldn't they see that too?!! lol Ah well, better at 45 than never at all i suppose.
I must say, good on you for opening up about this and good luck with what you are going through. I know we haven't always seen eye to eye, but I genuinely hope you are able to make those changes in life that you need to, and that you become happier for it.
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My son has an unhealthy obsession with washing (the process) and washing machines.
I know there are several thousand washing machine related videos on YouTube. He will sit for ages watching them.
He also gets these tick/spasm type things when watching it, or if he watches washing blowing on a washing line.
He is also very unwilling to help or participate in anything that he makes.
He is very creative and is good at sourcing materials to make things/structures. Things that are way above the average skills of a four year old.
His teacher is astounded at this, but at the same time concerned he is still a bit uneasy about interacting with his peers.
I know there are several thousand washing machine related videos on YouTube. He will sit for ages watching them.
He also gets these tick/spasm type things when watching it, or if he watches washing blowing on a washing line.
He is also very unwilling to help or participate in anything that he makes.
He is very creative and is good at sourcing materials to make things/structures. Things that are way above the average skills of a four year old.
His teacher is astounded at this, but at the same time concerned he is still a bit uneasy about interacting with his peers.
H1983, i'm not sure whether i'd have been diagnosed Asperger's as young as four. I was precocious as a kid, my ability to do maths was almost scary. I don't have savant skills of any sort whatsoever, but school to me was just too easy.
Unfortunately, secondary school brought me down to earth with a bump. Being all-round capable, and incapable of shutting up about it, loses you friends quicker than wildfire. So i actually had to dumb down so that the bullying relented.
I'm a fabulous collector. I could collect for England. Obsessively so.
I have a hypersensitivity to two noises - sniffing and ticking clocks. If you ever wanted to torture me, just have somebody with a cold bring in a clock, i'd give up immediately.
I have a hypersensitivity to two perfumes - Obsession and Poison. Both make me physically sick, literally.
Perfectionism? Those who know me won't need me to elaborate.
The need to correct error? It's like biting a pillow whenever i see something wrong, especially written prose.
The list is a long and inglorious one.
Unfortunately, secondary school brought me down to earth with a bump. Being all-round capable, and incapable of shutting up about it, loses you friends quicker than wildfire. So i actually had to dumb down so that the bullying relented.
I'm a fabulous collector. I could collect for England. Obsessively so.
I have a hypersensitivity to two noises - sniffing and ticking clocks. If you ever wanted to torture me, just have somebody with a cold bring in a clock, i'd give up immediately.
I have a hypersensitivity to two perfumes - Obsession and Poison. Both make me physically sick, literally.
Perfectionism? Those who know me won't need me to elaborate.
The need to correct error? It's like biting a pillow whenever i see something wrong, especially written prose.
The list is a long and inglorious one.
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We're exceptional actors, Simon. And the later we're diagnosed, the better actors we become. We copy what others do in social situations. But even now (well, up till December 3rd), if there's a social gathering, i'll more than likely be the one at the back, on my own. Chit chat to us is like drinking hemlock. The overbearing noise of pubs and clubs does our heads in. But for short periods of time, we can compensate. After all, nobody wants to be alone. Undiagnosed Aspergers are jusy bloody excellent at repelling people, in the end.
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I think your diagnosis explains alot, and I mean absolutely no offence by that.
I must say, good on you for opening up about this and good luck with what you are going through. I know we haven't always seen eye to eye, but I genuinely hope you are able to make those changes in life that you need to, and that you become happier for it.
I must say, good on you for opening up about this and good luck with what you are going through. I know we haven't always seen eye to eye, but I genuinely hope you are able to make those changes in life that you need to, and that you become happier for it.
Thanks, Lisa. If i don't change after diagnosis, then i have absolutely nobody else to blame but myself. My Asperger's has cost me dear in 2010, more than you'd ever know. It's my chance to prove that i can learn and adapt, as far as i'm able.
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Tel, I don't think your alone here. Having read your posts and quite a few others on this thread, there are traits described here that I have in bucketloads, as does my father! I've always been called single minded and determined to the exclusion of other things.
I've always put it down to me being me, and still will. However, there are quite a few other posters here saying the exact same thing about themselves.
I've always put it down to me being me, and still will. However, there are quite a few other posters here saying the exact same thing about themselves.
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H1983, that's definitely more on the autistic end of the spectrum than Asperger's. But it doesn't sound as if it's bad enough to severly limit his development. You're lucky, you have some sense of "something wrong" very early on, that has to be a distinct advantage.
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Tel, I don't think your alone here. Having read your posts and quite a few others on this thread, there are traits described here that I have in bucketloads, as does my father! I've always been called single minded and determined to the exclusion of other things.
I've always put it down to me being me, and still will. However, there are quite a few other posters here saying the exact same thing about themselves.
I've always put it down to me being me, and still will. However, there are quite a few other posters here saying the exact same thing about themselves.
I think B2B made the point earlier, a lot of people do have "some" autistic traits, after all, nobody has posted a zero score on that questionairre. But, without trying to turn it into a badge of honour, being slightly autistic in some respects does not an Asperger make. Autism can being benefits there's no doubt, but you wouldn't want Aspergers. It's ironic, career-wise i'm probably in the top few % in terms of "success", i do a job ideally suited to an Asperger so i've been lucky. But would i now sacrifice everything material i've been able to amass in order to be normal? Yes, in a heartbeat. That's the tragedy of this damn condition.
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I had some OCD traits at one point, for a couple of years, doing things in certain orders and making myself recheck things, got p1ssed of with it one day and decided not to do any of it and just stopped it, I can see how people get like that and if they have it bad it must be difficult to not do it.
Telboy, at no point have you ever given any suggestion of what you have had to deal with, all the best with it and I hope my somewhat frivolous thread didn't come across as dismissive.
Telboy, at no point have you ever given any suggestion of what you have had to deal with, all the best with it and I hope my somewhat frivolous thread didn't come across as dismissive.
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His main thing that he gets upset about is change. He likes to sit at a certain side of the table, on 'the red chair' otherwise he gets upset.
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Oh i know about resistance to change. I've had just two jobs in over 20 years, the same car for ten years now and unless there's a compelling reason to move, i could be in this house for the rest of my days...
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It does make sense. What it's meant for me is people telling me i'm not very good at some things, which to an Asperger with God Syndrome is pretty hard to take. What i know about empathy you could write on the back of a stamp. What i know about forseeing consequences of my actions, you could write on a pinhead. Learning about those weaknesses and how to compensate for them is all part of what i'm currently going through.
On the bright side, we never lie. We don't have the imaginitive ability. Which in some ways, thinking on my feet here, was what made me SO angry about the Clownwatch thing, when people were hurling accusations at me left right and centre. It just wasn't "logical" - why couldn't they see that too?!! lol Ah well, better at 45 than never at all i suppose.
On the bright side, we never lie. We don't have the imaginitive ability. Which in some ways, thinking on my feet here, was what made me SO angry about the Clownwatch thing, when people were hurling accusations at me left right and centre. It just wasn't "logical" - why couldn't they see that too?!! lol Ah well, better at 45 than never at all i suppose.
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That clownwatch guff, for what it's worth, I never, ever had you in the equation. You have always been forthright and straight with me and it never entered my head you would be two faced. Same goes for Bubba. Having met him on numerous occasions, there is no way on earth he would have had anything to do with it
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Hopefully it is now, dead and buried.
Good luck and I sincerely hope it all goes well for you x
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He was already being assessed for other physical issues to do with co ordination, and issues with motor skills, gross and fine. He is doing quite well within his class despite his nature.
His main thing that he gets upset about is change. He likes to sit at a certain side of the table, on 'the red chair' otherwise he gets upset.
His main thing that he gets upset about is change. He likes to sit at a certain side of the table, on 'the red chair' otherwise he gets upset.
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Chit chat to us is like drinking hemlock. The overbearing noise of pubs and clubs does our heads in.
I think there are plenty of people who would hold a similar viewpoint. In fact I'd worry for my sanity if I was told that I'm supposed to tolerate it and join in.
This is one reason why I can't suffer news channels or
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I still think I'm right though. How on earth can nitter natter be tolerated? Why is there this social expectation that it is okay to talk utter garbage?
Before its pointed out, maybe I'm guilty of such waffle on SN. However that is usually boredom motivated, I could do it on a Blog, Mémoire, Tweet, Diary etc. But I find tweets/blogs ten times more annoying than a Vicky Pollard type conversation. Honestly, I wouldn't dare do it in real life within earshot of another person, not when sober at least.
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My son has an unhealthy obsession with washing (the process) and washing machines.
I know there are several thousand washing machine related videos on YouTube. He will sit for ages watching them.
He also gets these tick/spasm type things when watching it, or if he watches washing blowing on a washing line.
He is also very unwilling to help or participate in anything that he makes.
He is very creative and is good at sourcing materials to make things/structures. Things that are way above the average skills of a four year old.
His teacher is astounded at this, but at the same time concerned he is still a bit uneasy about interacting with his peers.
I know there are several thousand washing machine related videos on YouTube. He will sit for ages watching them.
He also gets these tick/spasm type things when watching it, or if he watches washing blowing on a washing line.
He is also very unwilling to help or participate in anything that he makes.
He is very creative and is good at sourcing materials to make things/structures. Things that are way above the average skills of a four year old.
His teacher is astounded at this, but at the same time concerned he is still a bit uneasy about interacting with his peers.
Now he can read and write and use the computer on his own I am amazed at how many washing machine and lift videos there are on youtube. I think you have to be bordeline autistic to make videos of lifts or washing machines, which just goes to show how many people around the world are on the spectrum!
We have met many other autistic children and every one is different, my son for instance is quite sociable. I wouldn't worry too much about the label, it is mainly a way to help you get the right educational provision and help your child.
The kids who have the hardest time are the ones whose parents keep rejecting that anything is wrong (which I am absolutely not saying applies to you!).
So much has changed in education and treatment for autism over the last 20 years, there are so many strategies that can help autistic kids such as simple TEACCH schedules that help him/her understand what they are doing during the week/day, or the Pyramid PECS communication system that helps them learn to propoerly interact and get their needs met.
I personally think my child might not necessarily be autistic, it might be something entirely different but the label has helped him get the resources that he has needed and he is happy.
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