Help dealing with stress & anxiety.
20 January 2011, 10:54 PM
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It most definately is not! it can easily lead to poor decisions and solutions in the short term as it is a depressive drug, short term can become medium term can become long term dependancy. My advice would be to take up excercise, become lost in cycling or running, it really is good for more than the body. really.
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20 January 2011, 11:12 PM
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I suffered with stress and all that bad stuff a few years back. Tried alcohol but it only made things worse (although I didn't see that at the time).
If you have spare time, as I did at the time, go for a walk. A long walk. We have some parks around here with lakes. I'd sit on a bench and watch the wildlife go about their business for an hour or two - It really was very calming. If I had a couple of quid spare I would then go to a local driving range and knock a couple of baskets of *****. The first 50 ***** would all be aimed at 230+ Yards, the next 50 chipped to the 50 yard spot then the rest were free for all
After that - a good hard wnak always helps!
If you have spare time, as I did at the time, go for a walk. A long walk. We have some parks around here with lakes. I'd sit on a bench and watch the wildlife go about their business for an hour or two - It really was very calming. If I had a couple of quid spare I would then go to a local driving range and knock a couple of baskets of *****. The first 50 ***** would all be aimed at 230+ Yards, the next 50 chipped to the 50 yard spot then the rest were free for all
After that - a good hard wnak always helps!
21 January 2011, 12:15 AM
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Almost everybody on this board will have been through really tough times in their lives. It's not weak, it just happens and there will be a whole heap of people willing and able to get you back on your feet. You'll look back on this period, you'll learn from it and one day soon it will be you lending a helping hand. When you're in crisis and everything seems too much, just remember, you WILL get through to the other side. Best of luck tomorrow, it sounds like a professional listener is exactly what you need right now and well done for recognising it. Take care, 
21 January 2011, 03:57 PM
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Best of luck- i know people take the pi55 because its mental but when its bad its just as bad as cancer ( at least you get sympathy with that). Unless anyone has been there ( which i have and am now) they cant possibly understand.
At the moment, i have gone from somebody who normally looks after themselves- diet, exercise and very fit) to someone whos drinking 9-10 drinks aday to try and relieve severe anxiety about a family problem and taking time off work to carry on with this. I know its so destructive and iam trying hard now to break the cycle so, i for one will never take depression/anxiety lightly- its a *******.
At the moment, i have gone from somebody who normally looks after themselves- diet, exercise and very fit) to someone whos drinking 9-10 drinks aday to try and relieve severe anxiety about a family problem and taking time off work to carry on with this. I know its so destructive and iam trying hard now to break the cycle so, i for one will never take depression/anxiety lightly- its a *******.
22 January 2011, 04:57 PM
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I was just trying to summarise how you can learn to manage it and its not impossible.
Sorry things are obviously worse than just gritting your teeth here, i hope rehab works out for you. (which drugs if u dont mind me asking?)
22 January 2011, 09:58 PM
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I'm having a bad time of things, my way of coping is the natural way, reducing alcohol as it's a depressant, and induce endorphins via regular excercise, yoga is helping too, never felt better
22 January 2011, 10:18 PM
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The most valuable piece of advice I have ever been given.
"You have been given the gift of 'now.' In a few seconds, 'now' will be gone forever. You can waste 'now' by thinking about the past or the future, or you can use it. Soon, you will have another gift of a new 'now,' but it will be a different one, and if you waste this one, you might waste the next one thinking about this one"
Initially I thought it was bollox, as I was in a good place and probably didn't waste too much time dwelling on what could have been or what might be, but in the intervening years, there have been several times where the past or future have taken over my thoughts entirely. Remembering the gift of 'now' has so far sorted it every time
"You have been given the gift of 'now.' In a few seconds, 'now' will be gone forever. You can waste 'now' by thinking about the past or the future, or you can use it. Soon, you will have another gift of a new 'now,' but it will be a different one, and if you waste this one, you might waste the next one thinking about this one"
Initially I thought it was bollox, as I was in a good place and probably didn't waste too much time dwelling on what could have been or what might be, but in the intervening years, there have been several times where the past or future have taken over my thoughts entirely. Remembering the gift of 'now' has so far sorted it every time
23 January 2011, 09:45 AM
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The most valuable piece of advice I have ever been given.
"You have been given the gift of 'now.' In a few seconds, 'now' will be gone forever. You can waste 'now' by thinking about the past or the future, or you can use it. Soon, you will have another gift of a new 'now,' but it will be a different one, and if you waste this one, you might waste the next one thinking about this one"
Initially I thought it was bollox, as I was in a good place and probably didn't waste too much time dwelling on what could have been or what might be, but in the intervening years, there have been several times where the past or future have taken over my thoughts entirely. Remembering the gift of 'now' has so far sorted it every time
"You have been given the gift of 'now.' In a few seconds, 'now' will be gone forever. You can waste 'now' by thinking about the past or the future, or you can use it. Soon, you will have another gift of a new 'now,' but it will be a different one, and if you waste this one, you might waste the next one thinking about this one"
Initially I thought it was bollox, as I was in a good place and probably didn't waste too much time dwelling on what could have been or what might be, but in the intervening years, there have been several times where the past or future have taken over my thoughts entirely. Remembering the gift of 'now' has so far sorted it every time
23 January 2011, 10:29 AM
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Ok the basic rule of stress it that you need a little in your life but not a lot. Worry about things you can do something about and not about the things out of your control.
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/diseases/...lingwithit.htm
http://familydoctor.org/online/famdo...tress/167.html
may help
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/diseases/...lingwithit.htm
http://familydoctor.org/online/famdo...tress/167.html
may help
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23 January 2011, 01:35 PM
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I have been through a similar time so I do understand how awful it can be. I was told by a very capable advisor that the best person to win over it was myself. I was told that every time I fought against it I would get stronger. He was right.
I hope you can find someone to help you as well that that chap did with me.
Les
I hope you can find someone to help you as well that that chap did with me.
Les
23 January 2011, 02:25 PM
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I suffered with stress and all that bad stuff a few years back. Tried alcohol but it only made things worse (although I didn't see that at the time).
If you have spare time, as I did at the time, go for a walk. A long walk. We have some parks around here with lakes. I'd sit on a bench and watch the wildlife go about their business for an hour or two - It really was very calming. If I had a couple of quid spare I would then go to a local driving range and knock a couple of baskets of *****. The first 50 ***** would all be aimed at 230+ Yards, the next 50 chipped to the 50 yard spot then the rest were free for all
After that - a good hard wnak always helps!
If you have spare time, as I did at the time, go for a walk. A long walk. We have some parks around here with lakes. I'd sit on a bench and watch the wildlife go about their business for an hour or two - It really was very calming. If I had a couple of quid spare I would then go to a local driving range and knock a couple of baskets of *****. The first 50 ***** would all be aimed at 230+ Yards, the next 50 chipped to the 50 yard spot then the rest were free for all
After that - a good hard wnak always helps!
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