Online Dating
#92
I just think that generally clubs and pubs are hard work, especially clubs, always did ok but all the shouting to be heard and not knowing if a girl was already with someone just meant a lot of wasted effort and standing around like a ***** spending vast ammounts on entry, taxi's and overpriced drinks, always used to look forward to going to a club but generally one of those things where the anticipation is better than the doing, the build up, i.e. picking mates up, drink at ours whilst we got ready, then to the pub for a couple, taxi ride to the club, few in the bar there first before going in and realising it was dead !
Also, there are many really nice people out there that dont go to clubs or whatever for various reasons, I suspect it just makes meeting someone that bit easier.
I work with a lad who drifts round at work and gets all obsessed with a different woman at work every week, never asks them out and very occasionally gets set up on a date via friends but it never comes to anything, he kind of then fixates on buying "stuff", gadgets, bikes whatever as a project, he still lives with his mum and dad at 30 but his lack of go means he doesnt earn enough to move out and his pride means he wont join a dating site, he will still be in the same position until he is 40 and beyond if he doesnt use what he has available, ok TDW views it as sad and tragic but not as sad and tragic as being lonely, bored and miserable, we are designed to pair off by and large.
Also, there are many really nice people out there that dont go to clubs or whatever for various reasons, I suspect it just makes meeting someone that bit easier.
I work with a lad who drifts round at work and gets all obsessed with a different woman at work every week, never asks them out and very occasionally gets set up on a date via friends but it never comes to anything, he kind of then fixates on buying "stuff", gadgets, bikes whatever as a project, he still lives with his mum and dad at 30 but his lack of go means he doesnt earn enough to move out and his pride means he wont join a dating site, he will still be in the same position until he is 40 and beyond if he doesnt use what he has available, ok TDW views it as sad and tragic but not as sad and tragic as being lonely, bored and miserable, we are designed to pair off by and large.
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so thought i would just share my experiences on this...
i signed up to match.com to see what the score was.
fairly interesting experience, but so far a decent result. Have been lucky enough to meet up with one youn glady, and we seemed to have really hit it off.
I wont bore you with the details, but if anyone is like me and was unsure of trying these things... i say give it a crack!
Anyways, there was a recent contact that was pretty strange.... so much so i decided to start a new thread:
https://www.scoobynet.com/non-scooby...-scammers.html
i signed up to match.com to see what the score was.
fairly interesting experience, but so far a decent result. Have been lucky enough to meet up with one youn glady, and we seemed to have really hit it off.
I wont bore you with the details, but if anyone is like me and was unsure of trying these things... i say give it a crack!
Anyways, there was a recent contact that was pretty strange.... so much so i decided to start a new thread:
https://www.scoobynet.com/non-scooby...-scammers.html
#102
I've tried it some yrs back, a lot of friends, have/still do. lot of girls at work seem to use it. the good looking ones are mobbed by emails etc from these sites.
In a nutshell, if yr a bit older- say 30's, professional, you are not going to meet mr or mrs right in a club etc. you also don't have the time to mess about finding out how solvent people are. who wants to start a relationship with some debt riden failure or some gold digga
it does seriously matter if you have a hse, car, decent job, may want to start a family etc etc
add to that you also need to suss out if you have similar views, interests.
I think its a perfectly viable way of meeting someone, but there are a lot of crazies out there who are clearly single for a very good reason.
In a nutshell, if yr a bit older- say 30's, professional, you are not going to meet mr or mrs right in a club etc. you also don't have the time to mess about finding out how solvent people are. who wants to start a relationship with some debt riden failure or some gold digga
it does seriously matter if you have a hse, car, decent job, may want to start a family etc etc
add to that you also need to suss out if you have similar views, interests.
I think its a perfectly viable way of meeting someone, but there are a lot of crazies out there who are clearly single for a very good reason.
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I have a friend who has come out of a 20 year marriage and he has been on the on line dating sites and I have to say his success has been phenomenal, I have lost count of how many women he has been out with now.
He has enoyed the sex that comes with it, he's had quite a lot , good for him as he came out of a loveless marriage and his old chap hadn't been popped into a female mouth in all that time.
Can you imagine the empathy in the pub the night he let that sad story slip, grown men were on the verge of tears bottom lips quivering all over the joint !
He has enoyed the sex that comes with it, he's had quite a lot , good for him as he came out of a loveless marriage and his old chap hadn't been popped into a female mouth in all that time.
Can you imagine the empathy in the pub the night he let that sad story slip, grown men were on the verge of tears bottom lips quivering all over the joint !
#104
I find it all a bit seedy personally.
I suspect the guys on there email 100 or so different girls and perhaps get a 1% success rate. They date them, wine them, dine them, have sex with them and move on to the next 1 that has responded out of the next batch of 100 emails that has been sent.
All very desperate if you ask me. I have a friend that uses the POF site in exactly this manner.
And then say you do hit it off with a partner, it's going to be in the back of your mind that they're still receiving all this attention. Do you get them to close their account down as soon as it gets a bit serious?
I hate this virtual world we live in nowadays, someone may seem nice online only to turn out to be an absolute monster in real life. It's easy to flirt online behind their keyboards, to tell lies of a high flying career, wealth etc, even to alter their images to make them look thinner, more toned, more tanned etc.
How about knowing you were not number 1 choice, how about knowing the 5 or so other guys ignored her request or the 100 or so other girls ignored his request.
Get out and pick up a girl/guy the normal way. 5yrs ago, we all did, our parents all did, our grandparents all did, our great grandparents all did and for the many years humans have been on this planet, they all did too ;-)
I suspect the guys on there email 100 or so different girls and perhaps get a 1% success rate. They date them, wine them, dine them, have sex with them and move on to the next 1 that has responded out of the next batch of 100 emails that has been sent.
All very desperate if you ask me. I have a friend that uses the POF site in exactly this manner.
And then say you do hit it off with a partner, it's going to be in the back of your mind that they're still receiving all this attention. Do you get them to close their account down as soon as it gets a bit serious?
I hate this virtual world we live in nowadays, someone may seem nice online only to turn out to be an absolute monster in real life. It's easy to flirt online behind their keyboards, to tell lies of a high flying career, wealth etc, even to alter their images to make them look thinner, more toned, more tanned etc.
How about knowing you were not number 1 choice, how about knowing the 5 or so other guys ignored her request or the 100 or so other girls ignored his request.
Get out and pick up a girl/guy the normal way. 5yrs ago, we all did, our parents all did, our grandparents all did, our great grandparents all did and for the many years humans have been on this planet, they all did too ;-)
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#105
fair point, but how do easily find out all the important stuff you need to know, in a pub/club from a total stranger ?? you'll spend all night skirting round with small chat, whereas if you're a lot more honest, yr probably only wanting to bother with someone who actually has something to offer.
I will admit my fiance I did meet in a club incidentally- but most of my relationships have been through work, or them being friends, or friends of friends already.
did on line stuff: yep- had some good times and some fun out of it, but didn't meet the "one"
I will admit my fiance I did meet in a club incidentally- but most of my relationships have been through work, or them being friends, or friends of friends already.
did on line stuff: yep- had some good times and some fun out of it, but didn't meet the "one"
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LOl at the first choice thing:
Meeting someone off line doesn't assure you of that. The guy/girl a person was *really* interested in may have been the one that eluded them and person x just came along at the right time and were "good enough"
Anyone remember the Chris Rock sketch on "why your woman is always mad at you"?
Dating is not nice.......in the real world or on-line. It's always a compromise and, guess what....everyone has a history and you might not be as highly rearded in every respect as one of their exes. We all make compromises based on what's important to us at a particular time in life. You just have to accept it and enjoy what you have!
In this day and age of overtime and people not getting out as much as they should, you use what's available to you to find dates.
At the end of the day, the way you met someone isn't as important as how you get on when you meet them. There are pros and cons to all methods!
I met the best GF I have ever had on-line!
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Meeting someone off line doesn't assure you of that. The guy/girl a person was *really* interested in may have been the one that eluded them and person x just came along at the right time and were "good enough"
Anyone remember the Chris Rock sketch on "why your woman is always mad at you"?
Dating is not nice.......in the real world or on-line. It's always a compromise and, guess what....everyone has a history and you might not be as highly rearded in every respect as one of their exes. We all make compromises based on what's important to us at a particular time in life. You just have to accept it and enjoy what you have!
In this day and age of overtime and people not getting out as much as they should, you use what's available to you to find dates.
At the end of the day, the way you met someone isn't as important as how you get on when you meet them. There are pros and cons to all methods!
I met the best GF I have ever had on-line!
Ns04
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#107
I know what you mean.
But I think online dating really suits the 'American style' whole dating thing. Where people just date all the time like in an impersonal business-like way....you know like it's all 'oh let me just check my blackberry calendar and see who I have to date tonight'.
Over here going out on a date has always had more romantic connotations just just an efficient way to meet people.
Anyway my experience of online dating was hugely negative, it seemed like there were maybe 10 guys for every one woman, and the women must have had really high standards because I only got replies to about 1 in 100 emails. I also find it really degrading and not in my nature to talk myself up and 'advertise' myself....to be a good BS'er basically.
But I think online dating really suits the 'American style' whole dating thing. Where people just date all the time like in an impersonal business-like way....you know like it's all 'oh let me just check my blackberry calendar and see who I have to date tonight'.
Over here going out on a date has always had more romantic connotations just just an efficient way to meet people.
Anyway my experience of online dating was hugely negative, it seemed like there were maybe 10 guys for every one woman, and the women must have had really high standards because I only got replies to about 1 in 100 emails. I also find it really degrading and not in my nature to talk myself up and 'advertise' myself....to be a good BS'er basically.
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