How much did your life change after having children?
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So they are noisey, smelly, expensive, hard work, ruin your social life, ruin your house, make a mess, prevent you doing anything you want to do and don't sleep at night!!! to list just a few points you lot have made.
So why exactly do you want the little monsters in the first place? and having learnt your lesson WTF do you do it all again and have more ??
You women moan like b1tches when you are pregnant, oh it is to hot, oh it is to cold, my clothes don't fit, I am so uncomfortable, I am so fat and unatractive, the baby is kicking, I need a pee, blah blah blah
So again WHY DO YOU DO IT time and time again?
So why exactly do you want the little monsters in the first place? and having learnt your lesson WTF do you do it all again and have more ??
You women moan like b1tches when you are pregnant, oh it is to hot, oh it is to cold, my clothes don't fit, I am so uncomfortable, I am so fat and unatractive, the baby is kicking, I need a pee, blah blah blah
So again WHY DO YOU DO IT time and time again?
Pregnancy is massive sacrafice, but we do it because that's the way nature intended it to happen.
It is painful, you feel like crap you look even worse, you can't sleep, your skin looks like you use chip pan fat as mosturiser and you look and move like you have a cannon ball wedged up your crack.
That's before you have had to go into labour, and have your jack and danny ruined whilst the tiny human exits the 'host' and makes it's way into the world.
Then it all makes sense!
It's as if your body drains itself in a split second, and fills up with this overwealming feeling, of love and protection.
This tiny human has been made 100% by your bodies, and everything just falls into place.
Sure, your house will never look the same, but it turns from a house into a home.
There will be nappies coming out of your ears, and at some point you will have sick or poo or maybe both smeared on your clothes. But you won't care.
These babies grow to love you, and learn from you. They want you to be there to show them the world.
Why stop at one? Surely another one of them is just even more fun?
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Our first was born 27th May 1986, he didn't go through the night ONCE until June 1989, by which time wife was MASIVELY pregnant waith the next one.
It was also a VERY hot, humid summer, she couldn't sleep with the heat, and was up at least twice for a wee, then the youngest was born 26th August 1989, HE didn't sleep though until end of July 1992.
SIX years with disturbed nights, we just forgot what it was like to sleep though........
It was also a VERY hot, humid summer, she couldn't sleep with the heat, and was up at least twice for a wee, then the youngest was born 26th August 1989, HE didn't sleep though until end of July 1992.
SIX years with disturbed nights, we just forgot what it was like to sleep though........
Our second (currently 5 months old) has been sleeping though from 7 weeks (7pm-7/10am)
Its all about routine
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As my husband said, (I am allowed to agree with him ), adoption is one way to sort the population crisis. Give a child a home who alternatively would have a thoroughly **** life. Our little treasure would never have been given the opportunities we could give him if he'd stayed with his birth mum. He is amazing. He has changed our lives for the better beyond explanation. I have a daughter who is 12 and I must say I do not feel differently about him because he is adopted. I feel truly lucky, even though I didn't give birth to him, or even know him for the first 18 months of his life, it's about the next X years when we will know him.
If more people thought that way Clare, the world would be a better place.
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David, that middle picture is the absolute spitting image of you, maybe 40 years ago
Love the little outfits, our boy has a sheriff outfit he's grown out of and is currently in a cow outfit. Probably child abuse to dress him like that but he looks the business
Love the little outfits, our boy has a sheriff outfit he's grown out of and is currently in a cow outfit. Probably child abuse to dress him like that but he looks the business
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I have one son who is 2 years 6 months, it has changed my life massively, My girlfriend has gone back to work fulltime, so im his main carer during the day which is fine but i work nights and finish anywhere from midnight to 4am and i'll have to get up at 7.30 regardles with him. So my main problem is sleep. but i love him and would never change what i have.
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I think the missus wants to try for our first next year, its been mentioned a good few times now, i`m not looking forward to it to be honest.
Its got to happen at some point, and i have managed to put it off for so long (i`m 33), most of my mates have the bloody things now, every time i login to babybook in a morning before work, i am bombarded with baby stuff from everybody.
I could probably go my entire life without having one, i just see them as 18 years worth of ****y sleep and missing cash.
And i am terrible when i have ****ty sleep.
Its got to happen at some point, and i have managed to put it off for so long (i`m 33), most of my mates have the bloody things now, every time i login to babybook in a morning before work, i am bombarded with baby stuff from everybody.
I could probably go my entire life without having one, i just see them as 18 years worth of ****y sleep and missing cash.
And i am terrible when i have ****ty sleep.
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My eldest is 2 and a few months, and my youngest is 4 months, alot harder at work with two of them. But when me and the misses sit down come 8-8,30 we both look at each other knowing its worth it.
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I think the missus wants to try for our first next year, its been mentioned a good few times now, i`m not looking forward to it to be honest.
Its got to happen at some point, and i have managed to put it off for so long (i`m 33), most of my mates have the bloody things now, every time i login to babybook in a morning before work, i am bombarded with baby stuff from everybody.
I could probably go my entire life without having one, i just see them as 18 years worth of ****y sleep and missing cash.
And i am terrible when i have ****ty sleep.
Its got to happen at some point, and i have managed to put it off for so long (i`m 33), most of my mates have the bloody things now, every time i login to babybook in a morning before work, i am bombarded with baby stuff from everybody.
I could probably go my entire life without having one, i just see them as 18 years worth of ****y sleep and missing cash.
And i am terrible when i have ****ty sleep.
The worst thing you can do is have a child you don't really want and not love it. But it takes a heartless **** or chav to do that.
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My life changed completely, I have 3 teenage daughters and a son who will be 2 next Wednesday. I have no longer have control over my money, the TV or major decisions that need to be taken in the house; but strangely enough, it changed my life for the better, my life is completely full and I wouldn't change a thing!
My son at 2 can tell the difference between a classic, blobeye and a hawk and can hear an impreza from down the road, he's car mad! On my life, his 1st workd was car, and according to the Mrs it's all my fault. He eats and sleeps with his cars, and that's no exaggeration.
My middle daughter is an aspiring athlete and fills me with pride! In fact they all do!
I couldn't ask for more.
OK I'll stop now before you all throw up
My son at 2 can tell the difference between a classic, blobeye and a hawk and can hear an impreza from down the road, he's car mad! On my life, his 1st workd was car, and according to the Mrs it's all my fault. He eats and sleeps with his cars, and that's no exaggeration.
My middle daughter is an aspiring athlete and fills me with pride! In fact they all do!
I couldn't ask for more.
OK I'll stop now before you all throw up
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To be honest, he is better behaved than most kids I know whose parents gave birth to them. We're extremely lucky!
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a hell of a lot , i was 19 when i had my little girl i didn't even no i was haven't her , i was sitting down watching tele with the ex an she ran to the toilet because she thought she had weed her self then about an hour after she was having pains so took her to A,a,E an the doc's said it was her kidneys so gave her morphine an bout hour after she gave birth , she had no bump no signs she was up the duff till she dropped
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a hell of a lot , i was 19 when i had my little girl i didn't even no i was haven't her , i was sitting down watching tele with the ex an she ran to the toilet because she thought she had weed her self then about an hour after she was having pains so took her to A,a,E an the doc's said it was her kidneys so gave her morphine an bout hour after she gave birth , she had no bump no signs she was up the duff till she dropped
Bloomin' eck only in Wrexham!!!
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I think the missus wants to try for our first next year, its been mentioned a good few times now, i`m not looking forward to it to be honest.
Its got to happen at some point, and i have managed to put it off for so long (i`m 33), most of my mates have the bloody things now, every time i login to babybook in a morning before work, i am bombarded with baby stuff from everybody.
I could probably go my entire life without having one, i just see them as 18 years worth of ****y sleep and missing cash.
And i am terrible when i have ****ty sleep.
Its got to happen at some point, and i have managed to put it off for so long (i`m 33), most of my mates have the bloody things now, every time i login to babybook in a morning before work, i am bombarded with baby stuff from everybody.
I could probably go my entire life without having one, i just see them as 18 years worth of ****y sleep and missing cash.
And i am terrible when i have ****ty sleep.
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I agree completely. Having just passed the 5 year mark with my missus, the questions of engagement and marriage are starting to creep into conversation and ultimately I can see the question of children being on the table within a few years. I hate children, unfortunately my missus doesn't.....there maybe trouble ahead......
Like I said before, some people don't like kids, have them and totally change their minds afterwards becoming fantastic parents. But some unfortunately have kids they don't really want and it is the child that suffers... I'd like to think you would be the former not the latter mate. But if you do do it, do it as you want a child/children, not to make your Mrs happy
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