Love - what does it mean to you?
20 August 2012, 12:15 AM
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Why? Once a month isn't that demanding, is it?? Can you only manage a 3-monthly or just a yearly one? 
Only joking, DYK.
I was referring to the issue that many women have with their long standing partners that they don't have sex that often with them any more. Thankfully, I have had it a bit better than once a month, so no regrets in that department.
you're dumped love... Only joking, DYK.
I was referring to the issue that many women have with their long standing partners that they don't have sex that often with them any more. Thankfully, I have had it a bit better than once a month, so no regrets in that department.
20 August 2012, 06:54 AM
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Why? Once a month isn't that demanding, is it?? Can you only manage a 3-monthly or just a yearly one?
Only joking, DYK.
I was referring to the issue that many women have with their long standing partners that they don't have sex that often with them any more. Thankfully, I have had it a bit better than once a month, so no regrets in that department.
Only joking, DYK.
I was referring to the issue that many women have with their long standing partners that they don't have sex that often with them any more. Thankfully, I have had it a bit better than once a month, so no regrets in that department.
More like 3 times a day,well of a weekend,more time to do it.
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20 August 2012, 12:19 PM
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Has anyone walked away from a relationship where the nookie was great but felt they were missing something else?
Problem was that we had **** all in common and she was obsessed with horses. Still, I had a cracking 18 months or so, except for the last month or so when clearly the writing was on the wall.
20 August 2012, 01:14 PM
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Yup - went out with a nymphomaniac for 18 months, even got engaged, but ultimately, there was nothing in the relationship. She was bundled off to an all-girls school as a child and seemed to be lacking any kind of love from her parents for the duration. Once she got older and discovered boys and sex, and that she could get attention from boys by giving sex, it seemed to work for her and it certainly worked for me as well for a good while
Problem was that we had **** all in common and she was obsessed with horses. Still, I had a cracking 18 months or so, except for the last month or so when clearly the writing was on the wall.
Problem was that we had **** all in common and she was obsessed with horses. Still, I had a cracking 18 months or so, except for the last month or so when clearly the writing was on the wall.
20 August 2012, 05:40 PM
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Well after 20 years together, and just celebrating our 15th wedding anniversary, I would say that Wifey and I have discovered what love is, for us.....
And I think that's the key - "love" means different things to different people.
And even after this amount of time, I constantly find myself questioning what "love" actually means.
The definition I think changes over time, but at present, it's
And I think that's the key - "love" means different things to different people.
And even after this amount of time, I constantly find myself questioning what "love" actually means.
The definition I think changes over time, but at present, it's
- the feeling that there's someone you can talk to about ANYTHING, and be comfortable. Soul mate?
- knowing you can talk to them without the requirement to do so every 30secs (if Wifey did that to me at work, I would either wonder what's up, or tell her to get lost!! And I'm sure she's the same.)
- Those glances or looks you get (or give) that make you think, "Damn!! I'm one lucky S.O.B!!!!"
- The constant p1ss-taking of each other - having that "challenge": I don't like women who are basically emotional & personality vacuums. They bore the **** out of me. The difficult bit is finding someone who's both attractive and has a personality.
- The physical side is always great - but tied into the previous point, the shock when people do see us together, demonstrating public shows of affection (or ripping the p1ss out of each other) - our friends never know what to expect. But they always know why and the underlying success that after 20 years, we're still as much in "love" as we were all those years ago, if not more.
20 August 2012, 06:20 PM
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Well after 20 years together, and just celebrating our 15th wedding anniversary, I would say that Wifey and I have discovered what love is, for us.....
And I think that's the key - "love" means different things to different people.
And even after this amount of time, I constantly find myself questioning what "love" actually means.
The definition I think changes over time, but at present, it's
And I think that's the key - "love" means different things to different people.
And even after this amount of time, I constantly find myself questioning what "love" actually means.
The definition I think changes over time, but at present, it's
- the feeling that there's someone you can talk to about ANYTHING, and be comfortable. Soul mate?
- knowing you can talk to them without the requirement to do so every 30secs (if Wifey did that to me at work, I would either wonder what's up, or tell her to get lost!! And I'm sure she's the same.)
- Those glances or looks you get (or give) that make you think, "Damn!! I'm one lucky S.O.B!!!!"
- The constant p1ss-taking of each other - having that "challenge": I don't like women who are basically emotional & personality vacuums. They bore the **** out of me. The difficult bit is finding someone who's both attractive and has a personality.
- The physical side is always great - but tied into the previous point, the shock when people do see us together, demonstrating public shows of affection (or ripping the p1ss out of each other) - our friends never know what to expect. But they always know why and the underlying success that after 20 years, we're still as much in "love" as we were all those years ago, if not more.
not often you're fortunate to meet someone and feel like that.
20 August 2012, 06:23 PM
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Yep: apparently we didn't get drunk sufficiently quickly!
It was interesting to see how even those who were rather cynical about the notion of romantic love didn't want to write it off though (they were all in relationships) which made me think. If you believe in something that's out there and you want it, why not do something about it?!? Are lots of people biding their time?
Scoobydoo555 - Congrats. Here's to another 15 years!
It was interesting to see how even those who were rather cynical about the notion of romantic love didn't want to write it off though (they were all in relationships) which made me think. If you believe in something that's out there and you want it, why not do something about it?!? Are lots of people biding their time?
Scoobydoo555 - Congrats. Here's to another 15 years!
20 August 2012, 07:11 PM
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Well after 20 years together, and just celebrating our 15th wedding anniversary, I would say that Wifey and I have discovered what love is, for us.....
And I think that's the key - "love" means different things to different people.
And even after this amount of time, I constantly find myself questioning what "love" actually means.
The definition I think changes over time, but at present, it's
And I think that's the key - "love" means different things to different people.
And even after this amount of time, I constantly find myself questioning what "love" actually means.
The definition I think changes over time, but at present, it's
- the feeling that there's someone you can talk to about ANYTHING, and be comfortable. Soul mate?
- knowing you can talk to them without the requirement to do so every 30secs (if Wifey did that to me at work, I would either wonder what's up, or tell her to get lost!! And I'm sure she's the same.)
- Those glances or looks you get (or give) that make you think, "Damn!! I'm one lucky S.O.B!!!!"
- The constant p1ss-taking of each other - having that "challenge": I don't like women who are basically emotional & personality vacuums. They bore the **** out of me. The difficult bit is finding someone who's both attractive and has a personality.
- The physical side is always great - but tied into the previous point, the shock when people do see us together, demonstrating public shows of affection (or ripping the p1ss out of each other) - our friends never know what to expect. But they always know why and the underlying success that after 20 years, we're still as much in "love" as we were all those years ago, if not more.
20 August 2012, 07:31 PM
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I had a similar thought pop into my head whilst having a damn good lap dance in between thinking "would I date a lap dancer" and "does licking count as a touching offence" 
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Anyhoo, for me 50:50 Friendship:Attractiveness.
I've tried one or the other, but it turns out I'm a fussy old bugger. There has to be the visual spark. I've paired up with some women who I get on great with, lots in common, good banter similar wavelengths, but physically, no attraction at all. I tried to get my head round it, especially one in particular as we really did get on well, she had a pretty face but thats all I could say. I just know if it went long term I'd just keep looking at more attractive women and would run off whenever a attractive woman comes along showing me the right kind of attention.
And that is what I do...go out with the ones I do find attractive. Only to find that I either annoy them or they annoy me. I have a habit of picking up fruit loops, attractive fruitloops, but mental or high maintanence, so it never works out. Its not like I'm out looking for a supermodel or page three pin up, far from it. Maybe in my teens I did and whilst I used to have a type, my tastes in ideal women have broadened in spectrum significantly as I got older, but I still have to have a proper physical attraction.
. Anyhoo, for me 50:50 Friendship:Attractiveness.
I've tried one or the other, but it turns out I'm a fussy old bugger. There has to be the visual spark. I've paired up with some women who I get on great with, lots in common, good banter similar wavelengths, but physically, no attraction at all. I tried to get my head round it, especially one in particular as we really did get on well, she had a pretty face but thats all I could say. I just know if it went long term I'd just keep looking at more attractive women and would run off whenever a attractive woman comes along showing me the right kind of attention.
And that is what I do...go out with the ones I do find attractive. Only to find that I either annoy them or they annoy me. I have a habit of picking up fruit loops, attractive fruitloops, but mental or high maintanence, so it never works out. Its not like I'm out looking for a supermodel or page three pin up, far from it. Maybe in my teens I did and whilst I used to have a type, my tastes in ideal women have broadened in spectrum significantly as I got older, but I still have to have a proper physical attraction.
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20 August 2012, 07:46 PM
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20 August 2012, 08:01 PM
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Ah yes, the age old question!
According to the lap dancers union, yes it does!
As for the nature of the thread: all sorts welcome, silly and serious alike. Was keen to get some views on it though, as it's such an important part of life and yet it struck me that most of us harbour a lot of uncertainty about! The kind of uncertainity that one might not tolerate in other aspects of life.
According to the lap dancers union, yes it does!
As for the nature of the thread: all sorts welcome, silly and serious alike. Was keen to get some views on it though, as it's such an important part of life and yet it struck me that most of us harbour a lot of uncertainty about! The kind of uncertainity that one might not tolerate in other aspects of life.
20 August 2012, 08:36 PM
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Someone else wrote on here about p!ss taking with each other,me and the ex were great at that,we could joke and take the p!ss with each other and it was fun,even sometimes erotic.Pity we split and she moved back to Czech,but she talked to me recently and said she misses me ,i did say well move back here and lets give it another go,but too be honest i lived in Czech and it was a great place to live,the culture,family etc,why the **** would you want to live back in England,i felt guilty just asking her..
anyhow time for a deep thought song...
,i did say well move back here and lets give it another go,but too be honest i lived in Czech and it was a great place to live,the culture,family etc,why the **** would you want to live back in England,i felt guilty just asking her..anyhow time for a deep thought song...
