Love - what does it mean to you?
20 August 2012, 11:41 PM
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I lived with someone for 10 years only for her to p1ss off and take half of everything. Had quite a few relationships since but after living on my own for nearly 7 years.....that`s the way it`s staying! I`m not saying I want to be alone, just won`t live with anyone again. If a girl has her own place and is happy with that situation, then great....but that`s as far as I`ll ever go again. As for the meaning of love....**** knows!
21 August 2012, 12:47 PM
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I lived with someone for 10 years only for her to p1ss off and take half of everything. Had quite a few relationships since but after living on my own for nearly 7 years.....that`s the way it`s staying! I`m not saying I want to be alone, just won`t live with anyone again. If a girl has her own place and is happy with that situation, then great....but that`s as far as I`ll ever go again. As for the meaning of love....**** knows!
21 August 2012, 04:46 PM
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Its pretty ****ty when taht happens. It happened to a few of my mates. Some long termers where she suddenly upped and left with no real reasons.
Although in those cases the woman shacked up with another bloke rather quickly. Too quickly IMO
: I know for fact one bird was seeing a bloke behind my mates back....at the time she worked for my mum who had noticed her doodling on a notepad with this other guys name scribbled all over the place....I didn't find this out until after the split though. Of course I relayed said information on, as it did involve a house, so it did get pretty messy.
Although in those cases the woman shacked up with another bloke rather quickly. Too quickly IMO
: I know for fact one bird was seeing a bloke behind my mates back....at the time she worked for my mum who had noticed her doodling on a notepad with this other guys name scribbled all over the place....I didn't find this out until after the split though. Of course I relayed said information on, as it did involve a house, so it did get pretty messy.
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Tbh i think that most if not all people have had a **** ending of a relationship, thats life and what doesnt kill you makes you stronger however im wondering if the whole saying of one person for each person and the term 'soul mate' is really true, if so what happens if you have that soul mate and lose them, is it a case of giving up and not looking ever again or settling for second best 
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I've seen that happen to a few mates too and it's never easy because people want an explanation for closure and you can't blame someone for feeling like their entitled to one after 10 years together; it's not as if it were a fling!
I guess sometimes explanations are invariably inadequate though and it's the result that matters and stays the same regardless, so best just to leave it and move on.
I guess sometimes explanations are invariably inadequate though and it's the result that matters and stays the same regardless, so best just to leave it and move on.
Its pretty ****ty when taht happens. It happened to a few of my mates. Some long termers where she suddenly upped and left with no real reasons.
Although in those cases the woman shacked up with another bloke rather quickly. Too quickly IMO: I know for fact one bird was seeing a bloke behind my mates back....at the time she worked for my mum who had noticed her doodling on a notepad with this other guys name scribbled all over the place....I didn't find this out until after the split though. Of course I relayed said information on, as it did involve a house, so it did get pretty messy.
Although in those cases the woman shacked up with another bloke rather quickly. Too quickly IMO
: I know for fact one bird was seeing a bloke behind my mates back....at the time she worked for my mum who had noticed her doodling on a notepad with this other guys name scribbled all over the place....I didn't find this out until after the split though. Of course I relayed said information on, as it did involve a house, so it did get pretty messy.
21 August 2012, 05:50 PM
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Tbh i think that most if not all people have had a **** ending of a relationship, thats life and what doesnt kill you makes you stronger however im wondering if the whole saying of one person for each person and the term 'soul mate' is really true, if so what happens if you have that soul mate and lose them, is it a case of giving up and not looking ever again or settling for second best
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21 August 2012, 06:11 PM
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I lived with someone for 10 years only for her to p1ss off and take half of everything. Had quite a few relationships since but after living on my own for nearly 7 years.....that`s the way it`s staying! I`m not saying I want to be alone, just won`t live with anyone again. If a girl has her own place and is happy with that situation, then great....but that`s as far as I`ll ever go again. As for the meaning of love....**** knows!
same boat as you puts you off a bit but i was only married a year she too the lot house etc
never again
21 August 2012, 06:18 PM
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If that`s not acceptable to future girlfriends/partners, whatever, then b0llocks to them 
On MY terms from now on 
I could have had a better `solution` for about £15k
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I agree. I had to remortgage to `pay her off` and I just couldn`t afford to do it again. It`s my house and it always will be If that`s not acceptable to future girlfriends/partners, whatever, then b0llocks to them On MY terms from now on
I could have had a better `solution` for about £15k
If that`s not acceptable to future girlfriends/partners, whatever, then b0llocks to them On MY terms from now on I could have had a better `solution` for about £15k
i can only guess what worth every penny
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I agree. I had to remortgage to `pay her off` and I just couldn`t afford to do it again. It`s my house and it always will be If that`s not acceptable to future girlfriends/partners, whatever, then b0llocks to them On MY terms from now on
I could have had a better `solution` for about £15k
If that`s not acceptable to future girlfriends/partners, whatever, then b0llocks to them On MY terms from now on I could have had a better `solution` for about £15k
21 August 2012, 07:24 PM
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If you believe in something that's out there and you want it, why not do something about it?!? Are lots of people biding their time?
Some attached ones that do something about that 'something' are the ones who either have cowardly affairs, or they'd do a shameless, anti-social runner with that 'something'. And then their ex and many others would call them the bitches or the barsturds of the century. There are some stories in this thread itself referring to such or similar occurings, and the abandoned ones have been left traumatised. Not the best, man.
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21 August 2012, 07:35 PM
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Isn't it a bit disingenuous and unfair to stay with someone if you suspect that "true love" is elsewhere? Or is that just how relationships work i.e. most are compromises which people entertain as it would seem something of a nonsense to be condemn oneself to being lonely whilst waiting for something that may or may not happen for them?
I wonder how many people can genuinely look at their partner and say "I sincerely believe that you are the one for me"?
21 August 2012, 08:18 PM
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Indeed, but what do you do in that situation? Does the uncertainty mean that the person you're with is not true love and that you should end it with them so you can go and find it?
Isn't it a bit disingenuous and unfair to stay with someone if you suspect that "true love" is elsewhere? Or is that just how relationships work i.e. most are compromises which people entertain as it would seem something of a nonsense to be condemn oneself to being lonely whilst waiting for something that may or may not happen for them?
I wonder how many people can genuinely look at their partner and say "I sincerely believe that you are the one for me"?
Isn't it a bit disingenuous and unfair to stay with someone if you suspect that "true love" is elsewhere? Or is that just how relationships work i.e. most are compromises which people entertain as it would seem something of a nonsense to be condemn oneself to being lonely whilst waiting for something that may or may not happen for them?
I wonder how many people can genuinely look at their partner and say "I sincerely believe that you are the one for me"?
It is wrong to stay with people that you don't love. Love is not a business deal. Love is a genuinine feeling which cannot be bought. Ethically, you should set the person free who you don't love any more (or never really loved them, anyway) so that they can find someone half genuine for themselves. You have no right to string someone along for your own psychological safety, and for your practical and selfish reasons. Again, you feel great about yourself by thinking that you don't want to hurt them.
The fact is that you don't want to be on your @rse; just in case it doesn't work out with what is out there. People with young children in such circumstance find it difficult, which is understandable. I also believe that people should try their best to walk away from first relationship before they start another one. Stopping to love your lover is hurtful enough for them; why make it worse for them by having affairs.
There are people who don't entertain relationship without love. They would start breaking things if they had to be false, or kick the other one out if he/she acted like some bullsh!tter or treated relationship as a deal for convenience.
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