Yesterday I lost the love of my life, Carmen
26 September 2012, 11:12 PM
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The Coroner said she will have a post mortom, so we are just waiting.
I am stopping at my parents for now, I cant face being in the flat by myself with all her stuff around.
26 September 2012, 11:14 PM
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Gutted for you mate.
I'll tell you the same thing that a mate told me when he was doing rotations in A&E as part of his medical training after a patient died very unexpectedly. A House officer approached him and said that there were two rules in life: 1) Sometimes lovely people die well before their time 2) Sometimes there is nothing anyone can do about rule 1 - you just have to do the best you can with the information you have at the time.
Don't beat yourself up - there is nothing to be gained by it.
Life is going to seem ****e for a while now, but as much as it hurts, keep in mind that with the help of your mates and your family, you will get though this.
Condolences.
Paul
I'll tell you the same thing that a mate told me when he was doing rotations in A&E as part of his medical training after a patient died very unexpectedly. A House officer approached him and said that there were two rules in life: 1) Sometimes lovely people die well before their time 2) Sometimes there is nothing anyone can do about rule 1 - you just have to do the best you can with the information you have at the time.
Don't beat yourself up - there is nothing to be gained by it.
Life is going to seem ****e for a while now, but as much as it hurts, keep in mind that with the help of your mates and your family, you will get though this.
Condolences.
Paul
26 September 2012, 11:22 PM
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So very sorry for your terrible loss. My husband died at 38 from a heart attack so have some inkling as how devastated you must be feeling.
As others have said this is a time to be with your family and friends but if it helps to talk about her on here and post pics to show how lovely she was, then do it. You just have to take things moment by moment and do whatever feels right at the time .
I'm sure you have all the thoughts and support of everyone on here.
As others have said this is a time to be with your family and friends but if it helps to talk about her on here and post pics to show how lovely she was, then do it. You just have to take things moment by moment and do whatever feels right at the time .
I'm sure you have all the thoughts and support of everyone on here.
26 September 2012, 11:45 PM
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So very sorry for your terrible loss. My husband died at 38 from a heart attack so have some inkling as how devastated you must be feeling.
As others have said this is a time to be with your family and friends but if it helps to talk about her on here and post pics to show how lovely she was, then do it. You just have to take things moment by moment and do whatever feels right at the time .
I'm sure you have all the thoughts and support of everyone on here.
As others have said this is a time to be with your family and friends but if it helps to talk about her on here and post pics to show how lovely she was, then do it. You just have to take things moment by moment and do whatever feels right at the time .
I'm sure you have all the thoughts and support of everyone on here.
I am so sorry for your loss.
27 September 2012, 12:22 AM
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Blymey that's so wrong at 30 years old, I really feel for you at this time now, like others have said, don't be alone right now.
She looks lovely and it's not fair, but hope you hold on to the good times and don't blame yourself as its a normal reaction. God bless you for the future and I hope it dosent strain you as I wouldnt know how to cope.
She looks lovely and it's not fair, but hope you hold on to the good times and don't blame yourself as its a normal reaction. God bless you for the future and I hope it dosent strain you as I wouldnt know how to cope.
27 September 2012, 06:20 AM
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I am so sorry to hear of your loss.
I can imagine that you are quite numb at the moment, so make sure you surround yourself with family and friends as it will hit you.
If coming on here helps, do it. Don't listen to anyone telling you not to. We are here if you need a ear to listen fella.
I can imagine that you are quite numb at the moment, so make sure you surround yourself with family and friends as it will hit you.
If coming on here helps, do it. Don't listen to anyone telling you not to. We are here if you need a ear to listen fella.
