Why is it, only married women like me?
25 August 2003, 03:33 PM
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OK, I'm getting fed up with this now, married women love me, single women don't, what's it all about?
It's been going on for long enough now but after being at a wedding at the weekend I'm sick of it! I always get on great with them, this weekend being no different, chatting and dancing with loads of them, they all said I looked really nice in my suit (Best man), they said I was lovely and should have no bother pulling...I mention that I've seen someone I like, the married women and my mates agree and thinks she likes me, then **** all, nadda!
I can get along with single women, I don't completely repel them, not yet anyway but I always struggle with phase II
What's going on, what am doing different?
Don't let me die a sad lonely old single man, please
It's been going on for long enough now but after being at a wedding at the weekend I'm sick of it! I always get on great with them, this weekend being no different, chatting and dancing with loads of them, they all said I looked really nice in my suit (Best man), they said I was lovely and should have no bother pulling...I mention that I've seen someone I like, the married women and my mates agree and thinks she likes me, then **** all, nadda!
I can get along with single women, I don't completely repel them, not yet anyway but I always struggle with phase II What's going on, what am doing different?
Don't let me die a sad lonely old single man, please
25 August 2003, 03:57 PM
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Perhaps it's because the relationships you have with the married women are totally different to the ones you have/want to have with the single women. You're just a friend to the married women, and that's fine, but when it comes to the single women it's a whole different ball game - you want something more. What works in the friendships with the married women isn't going to work when you're after a single girl. You might also subconsciously act differently around them too.
Don't let it worry you being single either; it's a pretty good life in my opinion.
Don't let it worry you being single either; it's a pretty good life in my opinion.
25 August 2003, 04:15 PM
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Cheers, I'm no expert either(obviously!) so any thoughts have to be a help
Maybe it is a sub concious thing, I could do with sussing it though
) so any thoughts have to be a helpMaybe it is a sub concious thing, I could do with sussing it though
25 August 2003, 04:15 PM
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I'd be worried if I was you mate. Think you are going to end up single, sad & lonely.
On the plus side no one to nag when you spend more on the car, eat pizza off your stomach while watching schlock action movies, drink beer & burp as loudly as you want, sod all this toilet seat up or down - just pee on the floor, no worries about being freshly shaven or even clean, fart as much as you want in bed, letch at women in public etc etc.
You would'nt know I've been married for 13 years would you
Alas
On the plus side no one to nag when you spend more on the car, eat pizza off your stomach while watching schlock action movies, drink beer & burp as loudly as you want, sod all this toilet seat up or down - just pee on the floor, no worries about being freshly shaven or even clean, fart as much as you want in bed, letch at women in public etc etc.
You would'nt know I've been married for 13 years would you
Alas
25 August 2003, 04:53 PM
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Mind you Bob, if you can't do all the above stated by Alas when you are married then you've married the wrong girl anyway.
Apart from the being clean remark. That has to be a must for your own standards.
It'll work out when the time comes, don't worry.
Apart from the being clean remark. That has to be a must for your own standards.
It'll work out when the time comes, don't worry.
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25 August 2003, 05:26 PM
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Bob,
I have exactly the same trouble, I get on great with all my mates wives and girlfriends, btu single girls just think I'm some sort of perv, I reckon it's down to the married ones being 'safe' for me to talk to, but the single ones are a threat to the way I live my life, and without knowing, I reckon I must give off some sort of different feel to them, Hell, I dunno, maybe I shouldn't keep my trousers round my ankles eh!!
Ron..
ps, If you find a place where guy's like us can get lucky, for gods sake let me know where!
I have exactly the same trouble, I get on great with all my mates wives and girlfriends, btu single girls just think I'm some sort of perv, I reckon it's down to the married ones being 'safe' for me to talk to, but the single ones are a threat to the way I live my life, and without knowing, I reckon I must give off some sort of different feel to them, Hell, I dunno, maybe I shouldn't keep my trousers round my ankles eh!!
Ron..
ps, If you find a place where guy's like us can get lucky, for gods sake let me know where!
25 August 2003, 06:18 PM
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Well, I think I'm fairly clean...I have a bath once a year whether I need it or not
Ron, will let you know if I find owt mate, you give me a shout aswell mate...I'm in Yorkshire so we should have a completly seperate bunch of gals to go at
Ron, will let you know if I find owt mate, you give me a shout aswell mate...I'm in Yorkshire so we should have a completly seperate bunch of gals to go at
25 August 2003, 07:08 PM
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It's probably because you're trying too hard Bob 
You know you're not going to get anywhere with the attached ones so you don't try to impress.
Try pretending the single ones are married
You know you're not going to get anywhere with the attached ones so you don't try to impress.
Try pretending the single ones are married
25 August 2003, 08:36 PM
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Bob...a single bloke with an interest in photography...you aint into trainspotting by any chance...
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Seriously though,i think the first reply hit the nail on the head.
....Seriously though,i think the first reply hit the nail on the head.
26 August 2003, 12:10 PM
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I'm rapidly starting to think women are all fooked up metalists! One minute you have to be all nice to em and what have you, then the next you're trying too hard...my sis in law said the same thing
el fi, fanks for that
PaulR, no trainspotting here fanks
Mr Cookie, was that an offer
erm yeah, still
One minute you have to be all nice to em and what have you, then the next you're trying too hard...my sis in law said the same thingel fi, fanks for that
PaulR, no trainspotting here fanks
Mr Cookie, was that an offer
erm yeah, still
26 August 2003, 03:25 PM
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How about speed dating? That surely takes away some of the pressure as everyone's there for the same reason. If you don't get on with someone, then it's only 3 minutes of awkward silence. I reckon it could be quite a good laugh.
26 August 2003, 04:16 PM
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agree with TVRGary.
Girls love a guy who is funny...but you also have to be a bit cheeky as well. Be a bit rude - not filthy or **** stylee - but just make a few suggestive jokes. Gets me every time.
get that mix right and you cant go wrong mate. Trust me
Girls love a guy who is funny...but you also have to be a bit cheeky as well. Be a bit rude - not filthy or **** stylee - but just make a few suggestive jokes. Gets me every time.
get that mix right and you cant go wrong mate. Trust me
26 August 2003, 06:10 PM
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ah, we're gettin on to it now...I can do funny...no really I can I just need to work on the "cheeky" now then....
Blimey, you don't sweat much for a fat lass
That sort of thing, yeah?
told ya I could do funny
I just need to work on the "cheeky" now then....Blimey, you don't sweat much for a fat lass
That sort of thing, yeah?
told ya I could do funny
26 August 2003, 07:46 PM
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Some sigle women like proper b@stards ! Tell you what,try a bit of "rough n ready" style.Forget being sweet all da time and develop a nasty streak.You will see da change,maan!
26 August 2003, 07:55 PM
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There's a guy at work who has a real nack when it comes to women.
There's no secret he just treats them well,always shows an interest in what THEY are doing,not boasting about what HE'S been up to,is also a laugh,never talks down to them,and is also realistic about himself.He can be cheeky but only in a fun way,and although he's confident he aint in love with himself.
He just makes them feel important,its a real lesson watching him.
26 August 2003, 09:07 PM
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I'm not sure it's that easy to completely change your character so that you become a b@stard instead of a nice guy. I'd have thought that most people will see through that anyway, and even if you do get someone that way, is she really going to be the type of person you want? Fair enough, you can take some pointers and use those to 'play the game' a little, but why be someone that you're not? The guys that are b@stards usually have some sort of deep rooted problem anyway - you have to rise above them.
I think that being cool, calm and collected is a pretty good approach to it - you don't want to be desperate in any way as that can be a real turn off. By doing that, it also means you're not getting so stressed out about it, and if it doesn't work then c'est la vie - move on to the next one. It makes it easier to deal with emotionally.
As paulr said about his friend, treat women with respect and be interested in what they have to say. Be cool and stay a little bit mysterious and aloof - keep things back. Be confident, and always make sure you're well turned out.
At the end of the day though, I'm single, so what the hell do I know?!!
I think that being cool, calm and collected is a pretty good approach to it - you don't want to be desperate in any way as that can be a real turn off. By doing that, it also means you're not getting so stressed out about it, and if it doesn't work then c'est la vie - move on to the next one. It makes it easier to deal with emotionally.
As paulr said about his friend, treat women with respect and be interested in what they have to say. Be cool and stay a little bit mysterious and aloof - keep things back. Be confident, and always make sure you're well turned out.
At the end of the day though, I'm single, so what the hell do I know?!!