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02 January 2004, 04:05 PM
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Hi all,
I need some serious advice if possible. I'm considering doing some hypnotherapy and was wondering if anybody had done it?
For about 5 years now I've had problems but have not wanted to discuss it with anyone until now as it is really controlling my life now and I feel that I've got nothing good to look forward to. I know that going to my doctor will be a complete waste of time because (from experience) they've got about as much compassion as Sadam Freeking Hussain.
I wouldn't consider myself a shy person at all but whenever I'm in a crowd of people (say a meeting at work or out in a packed pub or a queue in Tesco) I start to get really self conscious. I then start to get really hot and go bright red. I then feel like I've got to get out of the room....quickly! It seems to be getting worse to the point where I just don't go out socially anymore so to avoid these situations. The ONLY way I can cope is by either by pi55ed or stoned (which aint good at work
)
Other situations (cos I work in IT support) like if I'm out supporting a staff member - all of a sudden I'll come over really hot - become mega self conscious and then seem to lose control and more often than not I have to leave the room....
Well I thought i'd try my hand here before chucking £60 per/hr at a hypnotherapist. You're normally pretty good at this sort of thing.....
Any help appreciated...
Cheers
Fluke
Hi all,
I need some serious advice if possible. I'm considering doing some hypnotherapy and was wondering if anybody had done it?
For about 5 years now I've had problems but have not wanted to discuss it with anyone until now as it is really controlling my life now and I feel that I've got nothing good to look forward to. I know that going to my doctor will be a complete waste of time because (from experience) they've got about as much compassion as Sadam Freeking Hussain.
I wouldn't consider myself a shy person at all but whenever I'm in a crowd of people (say a meeting at work or out in a packed pub or a queue in Tesco) I start to get really self conscious. I then start to get really hot and go bright red. I then feel like I've got to get out of the room....quickly! It seems to be getting worse to the point where I just don't go out socially anymore so to avoid these situations. The ONLY way I can cope is by either by pi55ed or stoned (which aint good at work
)Other situations (cos I work in IT support) like if I'm out supporting a staff member - all of a sudden I'll come over really hot - become mega self conscious and then seem to lose control and more often than not I have to leave the room....
Well I thought i'd try my hand here before chucking £60 per/hr at a hypnotherapist. You're normally pretty good at this sort of thing.....
Any help appreciated...
Cheers
Fluke
02 January 2004, 04:13 PM
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could try a book like this one
good luck in trying to sort it out. once identify the problem, you are more than half way to the solution.
[Edited by ProperCharlie - 1/2/2004 4:13:57 PM]
good luck in trying to sort it out. once identify the problem, you are more than half way to the solution.
[Edited by ProperCharlie - 1/2/2004 4:13:57 PM]
02 January 2004, 04:34 PM
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cant really help, but amazing as it seams, i used to be like that myself
nobody belives me, as most of my mates i knock about with now, know me as this crazy nutcase who gets his bollocks out on the internet for a laff
cant really say what caused me to change, one day i just kinda said "**** this it stops today"
i sumtimes go red quite easy, which suprises people, but then i explain that i used to be really shy and it goes away straight away
bizzare, im not a "shy" person either these days, although i used to be, give it a try, it cant harm you (unless you wake up from being hypotised and find your bent over the blokes table, with your pants round your ankles
http:www.hypnotrick.com
[Edited by StickyMicky - 1/2/2004 4:36:05 PM]
nobody belives me, as most of my mates i knock about with now, know me as this crazy nutcase who gets his bollocks out on the internet for a laff
cant really say what caused me to change, one day i just kinda said "**** this it stops today"
i sumtimes go red quite easy, which suprises people, but then i explain that i used to be really shy and it goes away straight away
bizzare, im not a "shy" person either these days, although i used to be, give it a try, it cant harm you (unless you wake up from being hypotised and find your bent over the blokes table, with your pants round your ankles
http:www.hypnotrick.com
[Edited by StickyMicky - 1/2/2004 4:36:05 PM]
03 January 2004, 10:36 AM
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Fluke,
Try this lot: Uncommon Knowledge. The site has a lot in it (self-hypnisis, CDs for sale etc) but if you look around there should be a link to hypnotherapy that they do.
I haven't had hypnotherapy but I went on a weekend hypnosis course that they ran, and have some of their CDs and they are very good. Guaranteed no bull****.
Give it a try!
Jack
Try this lot: Uncommon Knowledge. The site has a lot in it (self-hypnisis, CDs for sale etc) but if you look around there should be a link to hypnotherapy that they do.
I haven't had hypnotherapy but I went on a weekend hypnosis course that they ran, and have some of their CDs and they are very good. Guaranteed no bull****.
Give it a try!
Jack
03 January 2004, 10:53 AM
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Nothing strange about feeling self conscious, most people feel that way to differing extents usually early in their lives. I had the same problem and used to be very shy.
I found that it was better not to avoid company and gradually the self consciousness faded away. It helps when you get accepted into a bunch of close friends who might be good enough to help you on a bit.
Good luck and don't let it upset your life.
Les
I found that it was better not to avoid company and gradually the self consciousness faded away. It helps when you get accepted into a bunch of close friends who might be good enough to help you on a bit.
Good luck and don't let it upset your life.
Les
03 January 2004, 11:51 AM
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Look into my eyes,look into my eyes,dont look around my eyes,look into my eyes,1...2...3...youre under. only joking
As some of the guys have said ,weve all felt self concious at one time or another but the way forward is to stick at it ,don't become reclusive. Give yourself a shake mate and cut down on the boozing,try to live a wee bit healthier and try to feel good about yourself.Dont give yourself any reasons to be self concious,ie,always be spotleesly clean,plenty of deodorant and after shave, get your self some smart new threads to wear and maybe a new cool haircut.If you look good you feel good,and when talking to people,just be yourself,talk slowly and clearly and rather going out with loads of people just start with a few good friends you can trust and just build your confidence up slowly from there.
PS. Listen to a song by Baz Luhrman, (Everybody's free to wear sunscreen),there is a lot of sense in it.
As some of the guys have said ,weve all felt self concious at one time or another but the way forward is to stick at it ,don't become reclusive. Give yourself a shake mate and cut down on the boozing,try to live a wee bit healthier and try to feel good about yourself.Dont give yourself any reasons to be self concious,ie,always be spotleesly clean,plenty of deodorant and after shave, get your self some smart new threads to wear and maybe a new cool haircut.If you look good you feel good,and when talking to people,just be yourself,talk slowly and clearly and rather going out with loads of people just start with a few good friends you can trust and just build your confidence up slowly from there.
PS. Listen to a song by Baz Luhrman, (Everybody's free to wear sunscreen),there is a lot of sense in it.
03 January 2004, 12:29 PM
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Good bit of advice Ted.
Searched for the lyrics and had a good read, so thought I'd pop 'em up on here. It's worth reading through Fluke.
Ladies and gentleman of the class of 99 [97]: Wear sunscreen.
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it.
The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists,
whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience.
I will dispense this advice now.
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth, or never mind.
You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they've faded,
But trust me, in 20 years you'll look back at photos of yourself,
And recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibly lay before you,
And how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine.
Don't worry about the future, or worry, but know that worrying
Is as effective as trying to solve an Algebra equation by chewing bubble gum.
The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed
Your worried mind, the kind that blind sides you at 4 p.m. on some idle Tuesday.
Do one thing everyday that scares you. Sing.
Don't be reckless with other people's hearts,
Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours. Floss.
Don't waste your time on jealousy,
Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind.
The race is long, and in the end it's only with yourself.
Remember complements you've received, forget the insults,
If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.
Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements. Stretch.
Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life.
The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they
Wanted to do with their lives.
Some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don't.
Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees, you'll miss them when they're gone.
Maybe you'll marry. Maybe you won't. Maybe you'll have children.
Maybe you won't. Maybe you'll divorce at 40.
Maybe you'll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary.
Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much,
Or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else's.
Enjoy your body, use it every way you can.
Don't be afraid of it, or what other people think of it.
It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own.
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your own living room.
Read the directions even if you don't follow them.
Do not read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.
Brother and sister, together we'll make it through,
Some day a spirit will take you and guide you there.
I know you've been hurting but I've been waiting to be there for you,
And I'll be there just helping you out whenever I can.
Get to know your parents, you never know when they'll be gone for good.
Be nice to your siblings, they're the best link to your past,
And the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on.
Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle,
Because the older you get the more you need the people you knew when you were young.
Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard.
Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft. Travel.
Accept certain inalienable truths. Prices will rise. Politicians will philander.
You too will get old, and when you do, you'll fantasize
That when you were young prices were reasonable, politicians were
Noble, and children respected their elders. Respect your elders.
Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund.
Maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse, but you never know when either one might run out.
Don't mess too much with your hair, or by the time you're 40 it will look 85.
Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it.
Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal,
Wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts, and recycling it for more than it's worth.
But trust me on the sunscreen.
Brother and sister, together we'll make it through,
Some day a spirit will take you and guide you there.
I know you've been hurting but I've been waiting to be there for you,
And I'll be there just helping you out whenever I can.
Everybody's free, everybody, to feel good.
Searched for the lyrics and had a good read, so thought I'd pop 'em up on here. It's worth reading through Fluke.
Ladies and gentleman of the class of 99 [97]: Wear sunscreen.
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it.
The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists,
whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience.
I will dispense this advice now.
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth, or never mind.
You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they've faded,
But trust me, in 20 years you'll look back at photos of yourself,
And recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibly lay before you,
And how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine.
Don't worry about the future, or worry, but know that worrying
Is as effective as trying to solve an Algebra equation by chewing bubble gum.
The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed
Your worried mind, the kind that blind sides you at 4 p.m. on some idle Tuesday.
Do one thing everyday that scares you. Sing.
Don't be reckless with other people's hearts,
Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours. Floss.
Don't waste your time on jealousy,
Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind.
The race is long, and in the end it's only with yourself.
Remember complements you've received, forget the insults,
If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.
Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements. Stretch.
Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life.
The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they
Wanted to do with their lives.
Some of the most interesting 40 year olds I know still don't.
Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees, you'll miss them when they're gone.
Maybe you'll marry. Maybe you won't. Maybe you'll have children.
Maybe you won't. Maybe you'll divorce at 40.
Maybe you'll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary.
Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much,
Or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else's.
Enjoy your body, use it every way you can.
Don't be afraid of it, or what other people think of it.
It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own.
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your own living room.
Read the directions even if you don't follow them.
Do not read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.
Brother and sister, together we'll make it through,
Some day a spirit will take you and guide you there.
I know you've been hurting but I've been waiting to be there for you,
And I'll be there just helping you out whenever I can.
Get to know your parents, you never know when they'll be gone for good.
Be nice to your siblings, they're the best link to your past,
And the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on.
Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle,
Because the older you get the more you need the people you knew when you were young.
Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard.
Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft. Travel.
Accept certain inalienable truths. Prices will rise. Politicians will philander.
You too will get old, and when you do, you'll fantasize
That when you were young prices were reasonable, politicians were
Noble, and children respected their elders. Respect your elders.
Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund.
Maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse, but you never know when either one might run out.
Don't mess too much with your hair, or by the time you're 40 it will look 85.
Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it.
Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal,
Wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts, and recycling it for more than it's worth.
But trust me on the sunscreen.
Brother and sister, together we'll make it through,
Some day a spirit will take you and guide you there.
I know you've been hurting but I've been waiting to be there for you,
And I'll be there just helping you out whenever I can.
Everybody's free, everybody, to feel good.
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03 January 2004, 04:17 PM
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LMAO @ stickymikey - your link isn't working but I know exactly what site its trying to find
Fluke, whilst I have no direct experience with hypnotherapy I have long suffered a similar phobia. I don't get scared by social situations but rather first encounters with women. That said I sailed through my last encounter I can sympathise with what you are experiencing.
Anyway, sipie (and I'm sure he won't mind me saying) has had direct experience with the condition to which you refer and hypnotherapy also. He's usually keen to pass on his advice and experience given that he's now a well rounded (relatively
) individual so I'll flag this thread to him on Monday
Fluke, whilst I have no direct experience with hypnotherapy I have long suffered a similar phobia. I don't get scared by social situations but rather first encounters with women. That said I sailed through my last encounter
I can sympathise with what you are experiencing.Anyway, sipie (and I'm sure he won't mind me saying) has had direct experience with the condition to which you refer and hypnotherapy also. He's usually keen to pass on his advice and experience given that he's now a well rounded (relatively
) individual so I'll flag this thread to him on Monday
05 January 2004, 02:01 PM
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Cheers Kenny for drawing my attention to this.
Fluke
You seem to be suffering from Social Anxiety which as you will of gathered from the post is pretty common.
It's advisable that you get this treated sooner rather than later as it can manifest in other ways if left alone (ie. panic attacks & agoraphobia) and it sounds as you are starting to have panic attacks
I've used hypnotherapy and it made a huge difference to my life but I'm not 100% convinced that it's the best therapy for social anxiety.
However, worth having a look here exclusive hypnotherapy and more importantly if you do chose to go down the hypnotherapy route, then make sure they are registered with the above and preferably have come on a recommendation from someone.
Fell free to e-mail me as per profile if you have any specific questions.
PS I paid £40 for roughly a 90min session so don't go paying over the odds.
[Edited by SiPie - 1/5/2004 2:03:39 PM]
Fluke
You seem to be suffering from Social Anxiety which as you will of gathered from the post is pretty common.
It's advisable that you get this treated sooner rather than later as it can manifest in other ways if left alone (ie. panic attacks & agoraphobia) and it sounds as you are starting to have panic attacks
I've used hypnotherapy and it made a huge difference to my life but I'm not 100% convinced that it's the best therapy for social anxiety.
However, worth having a look here exclusive hypnotherapy and more importantly if you do chose to go down the hypnotherapy route, then make sure they are registered with the above and preferably have come on a recommendation from someone.
Fell free to e-mail me as per profile if you have any specific questions.
PS I paid £40 for roughly a 90min session so don't go paying over the odds.
[Edited by SiPie - 1/5/2004 2:03:39 PM]
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I'm glad to see this has been posted. My sister is suffering really badly with panic attacks at the moment through progression of what you talk about.
Mum suggested last night that Hypnotherapy may be the way to go and I was thinking about asking on here.
People seem to have a real problem understanding that it is a genuine problem. Just because its not physical it doesnt mean it's not there.
Another (slightly bizarre) route is Accupuncture! All to do the "channels" through your body - they'll probably poke you in the knee to alter your thoughts! LOL!
Good luck.
Mum suggested last night that Hypnotherapy may be the way to go and I was thinking about asking on here.
People seem to have a real problem understanding that it is a genuine problem. Just because its not physical it doesnt mean it's not there.
Another (slightly bizarre) route is Accupuncture! All to do the "channels" through your body - they'll probably poke you in the knee to alter your thoughts! LOL!
Good luck.
05 January 2004, 02:34 PM
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Goochie
Anybody suffering from panic attacks really must read:
Peace from Nervous Suffering or self help for your nerves by Dr Claire Weekes
available at big book stores
Believe you me I've read nearly everything there is to read on the subject and these two books should be considered as the bible for anyone with panic attacks/anxiety/depression or agoraphobia....
Cheers
Si
PS Below is another thread on the same subject
worth a read
Anybody suffering from panic attacks really must read:
Peace from Nervous Suffering or self help for your nerves by Dr Claire Weekes
available at big book stores
Believe you me I've read nearly everything there is to read on the subject and these two books should be considered as the bible for anyone with panic attacks/anxiety/depression or agoraphobia....
Cheers
Si
PS Below is another thread on the same subject
worth a read
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