Scooby96

...however we never got divorced - how can I check this?

I rec'd a letter this morning asking me for £90 - "half" the cost of a divorce done directly through the court - I thought it was £90 in total not £180???

NotoriousREV

What is it with women? She wants a divorce so you have to pay half? **** that, she wants it, she pays.

Scooby96

What to do about checking out whether shes already remarried. How many years can you get for bigamy?

Redkop

Think you will find that £180 is correct.... see here

The basic cost of a divorce is £180.00 set fee to lodge the petition at the court, plus a £30.00 set fee to apply for your decree absolute.

Scooby96

I think I will write back:-

"You pay it bitch"

boxst

Hello Chris

It's actually quite difficult to check if someone is married. Well, unless you know roughly what area they got married in, and then you can check the local offices in that area.

If she HAS got re-married, she must have lied quite a few times, as it explicitly asks if you have been married before. If so, you must tick a box and then produce the decree absolute before anyone will marry her.

Steve.

boxst

Hello

Amused at the google ads: "Romantic gift for Spouse". Sometimes that are so out ...

Steve.

Scooby96

But if she put down "single" ie never married before then that wouldnt be relevant!

Scooby96

Who can I grass her up to?

Just spoke to KCC Births, Deaths & Marriages and they say I need to have her new husbands name and if it anytime in the future I find that out to call them. They cant do a search just on her details - how ridiculous!!

Might try the GRO as she may have got hitched abroad.

Any suggestions??

Spoon

If only those who have been taken for thousands could hear you moan about paying £90 to close a nightmare chapter Chris.

I'm still caught up over 2 years down the line and tens of thousands worse off, before the settlement!!!

Rethink it, pay it, lose her, move on.

You know you'd be better to do that unless you genuinely enjoy saga after saga.

Nick

Absolutely agree with Spoon here - pay the money & get rid of her. You've got off lightly mate!

Scooby96

Thats all well and good but its cost me a lot more than that to date, like a house....

Its also the principle, I asked her a while back (after 2 years of being separated) and she told me to wait 5 years then pay for it myself but that it couldnt be done DIY, I would have to pay her solicitors costs etc!

Yes I am bitter to a degree. I sympathise with those that pay 000's in legal fees but just because its harder for some doesnt mean I should sit back and take it.

||VaNDaL||

ex-wives eh?


Can't live with em, can't kill em.........



would be nice tho

ajm

Doesn't take much to make that an economically viable option these days....

Nick

So you have the financial situation sorted legally, but not the divorce? Seems a little unusual. If the financial situation really is sorted, then tell her to p off!

boxst

Hello Chris

Yes... the point is that she is then not only committing bigamy but fraud as well.

You could always get someone to ring her up, and pretend she has won a prize for "her and her husband" with a "You are married I hope?".

Steve.

pugoetru

She got married fek it who cares its not your problem any more

Surely you have more to worry about/spend your time on

JoanUK300

I think the point is she is STILL married to her ex!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Leslie

The only thing I can think is that maybe if you agreed to paying that fee as she requests, you might be laying yourself open to further financial claims because you would be condoning the divorce. Might be worth a close check with a legal eagle before you do anything at all.

Les

Jo Peters

She may not have re-married - she might just be trying to arrange the divorce now so that she can re-marry. If she is doing the divorce DIY or otherwise (using solicitors), you should get a copy of the divorce proceedings (and will be listed as the respondent) through the post from the courts (as far as I am aware, she can't just get a divorce done without you knowing abut it). On this you will also see if she is asking for any other money - ie maintenance etc and if she is asking you to pay half the fees and you will be able to agree or disagree with it on that form which you then send back to the courts. She will also need to list the grounds for divorce - ie 2 year separation etc.

I have just done all this myself and the cost if you do it diy and there are no other queries is indeed £180.00 plus £30.00 for the decree absolute. Took me from November to last Friday to be completed although we parted amicably, went halves with everything and had kids involved.

Jo

Scooby96

No kids involved, and have now been seperated for 5 years +

It was her decision to make me wait 5 years BTW, biatch

JDM

Write her a nice and polite letter declining her invitation to pay and point out that you are busy enjoying yourself with a string of younger women and don't intend to get re-married following your expericence with a certain sour faced old witch. Therefore a divorce is of little or no interest to you.

Drunken Bungle Whore

So you'd rather not pay the piddling amount (by comparison to what you could have to pay.....and believe me you're lucky one of you still has the house) and have the chance to continually wind her up, make her life difficult and generally act like a 5 year old? Blokes!

Just pay it and be done and stop whining! And the rest of you can stop making the assumption that it's always the bloke that ends up worse off!

Scooby96

Erm, I lost my house to the bitch and she was extremely vindictive after we split.

Plus the fact that the 3 or 4 times I've asked her for the same shes flatly refused.

alcazar

iTrader: (2)

Grass her up:


Go on..............you know you want to:

Alcazar

Drunken Bungle Whore

Aha - so clearly what you're saying is "She started it".

Hmm - and there's me thinking you were being childish.....

Scooby96

I suppose I'm still holding a grudge cos she got the house from me, the one I bought 4 years before meeting her. And then theres all the **** she said about me to my current girlfriends ex husband - that deserves a whole thread to itself!!!!

Vengeful - yes, childish - I dont think so....