Tragedy strikes
06 November 2007, 12:27 PM
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Tragedy strikes
Mentioned this in another thread but wife and I lost our baby last week.
Found out on Tuesday, had to wait two days for pills to work, 8 hours of labour on Thursday.
He was a perfect little boy - the cord knotted and took his life.
We called him Joseph and bury him next Saturday - his due date.
Sorry to put such a downer on the board.
Needless to say, wife and I are finding it very very hard indeed. We do have astonishing support from friends and family.
Puts life into perspective.
Found out on Tuesday, had to wait two days for pills to work, 8 hours of labour on Thursday.
He was a perfect little boy - the cord knotted and took his life.
We called him Joseph and bury him next Saturday - his due date.
Sorry to put such a downer on the board.
Needless to say, wife and I are finding it very very hard indeed. We do have astonishing support from friends and family.
Puts life into perspective.
06 November 2007, 12:31 PM
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That is just awful mate. Our first is due in about 8 weeks and I always worry about things going wrong. I wish you both all the best at what must be a very dark time.
06 November 2007, 12:32 PM
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Mattee,
Genuinely sorry to hear this news. Be strong. Make the most of your friends and family to get yourself through this difficult time. Chin up mate !
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Genuinely sorry to hear this news. Be strong. Make the most of your friends and family to get yourself through this difficult time. Chin up mate !
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06 November 2007, 12:35 PM
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Matt that's terrible news, I know of people who've also lost a baby in similar circumstances so I know the suffering that they've been through. You and your wife have my full and sincere sympathy 
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06 November 2007, 12:36 PM
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Matteboy, reallly sorry to hear of your devasting news, you and your family must feel absolutely dreadful, what awful news, just remember mate sometimes things happen for a reason, and every dog has its day,
hope you feel better over the nest few months, these things really put a **** day at work into perspective.
hope you feel better over the nest few months, these things really put a **** day at work into perspective.
06 November 2007, 12:42 PM
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Matteeboy, so sorry to hear of your loss. I wouldnt worry about putting a downer on anything, its tragic news and in a small way it does help to get it out in the open.
We found out that our first little lad had the cord around his neck when he was born, only the fact that he was late and my wife quite small meant that he was delivered by Caesarian and this saved him apparently.A mate of mine has Cerebral Palsy, again, down to the cord at birth.
We found out that our first little lad had the cord around his neck when he was born, only the fact that he was late and my wife quite small meant that he was delivered by Caesarian and this saved him apparently.A mate of mine has Cerebral Palsy, again, down to the cord at birth.
06 November 2007, 12:48 PM
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A sismlar thing happened to us some years ago Matt and I understand just how you must feel. I really am very sorry it has happened. You will have to do a lot of supporting of each other.
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06 November 2007, 12:55 PM
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Hi Matt.
Let the tears come. No-one, nowhere, has any right to criticise you for it.
Let your family and friends know you might be behaving strangely for the next six months. People don't always relate to this, they think that after a couple of months you should have "got over it". Horsesh!t.
There will be bad days after that too, I assure you, but hopefully less of them.
If I can give you one positive thought. What happened was a fluke, a roll of the dice. I'm no expert, but I'm guessing that you two still have full (physical) capability to have another child; ie I hope you don't have any history or pattern of miscarriages or other medical problems that suggest another pregnancy would be futile. If that is so, then you feel ready, go ahead and try again. You might not feel it now, but hang on to that thought for the future. You can succeed, and a new child is worth a million antidepressants.
Give her a hug from us.
Brendan and Javhlan.
Let the tears come. No-one, nowhere, has any right to criticise you for it.
Let your family and friends know you might be behaving strangely for the next six months. People don't always relate to this, they think that after a couple of months you should have "got over it". Horsesh!t.
There will be bad days after that too, I assure you, but hopefully less of them.
If I can give you one positive thought. What happened was a fluke, a roll of the dice. I'm no expert, but I'm guessing that you two still have full (physical) capability to have another child; ie I hope you don't have any history or pattern of miscarriages or other medical problems that suggest another pregnancy would be futile. If that is so, then you feel ready, go ahead and try again. You might not feel it now, but hang on to that thought for the future. You can succeed, and a new child is worth a million antidepressants.
Give her a hug from us.
Brendan and Javhlan.
06 November 2007, 12:59 PM
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That's quite terrible. So very sorry to hear that. Saturday will be a tough day so I hope you can be strong for each other and your family and friends can help out.
They'll be an old boy in Sussex thinking of Joseph on Saturday. david
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They'll be an old boy in Sussex thinking of Joseph on Saturday. david
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06 November 2007, 01:19 PM
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Very sorry to hear that .... my sister went through the very same.
My thoughts are with you .... not much more I can say, it's nice to see the board sending their condolences.
My thoughts are with you .... not much more I can say, it's nice to see the board sending their condolences.
06 November 2007, 01:32 PM
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You're not putting a downer on things by posting this. Let it out! Don't bottle it up. No words from anyone can ever truly explain the sympathy they have towards you and your wife for this tragic loss. My thoughts go out to you both 
I can't think of what else to say
I can't think of what else to say
06 November 2007, 01:35 PM
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So sorry to hear that, I couldn't possibly imagine what you and your wife are going through now.
The same happenned to my work colleague's sister. They gave it a while and tried again - they have a lovely child now.
We've recently had a sudden and unexpected death in the family, people grieve in different ways, theres no right or wrong way to grieve
My thoughts are with you.
The same happenned to my work colleague's sister. They gave it a while and tried again - they have a lovely child now.
We've recently had a sudden and unexpected death in the family, people grieve in different ways, theres no right or wrong way to grieve
My thoughts are with you.
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06 November 2007, 01:48 PM
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Sad, sad news
I have a baby boy due in about 5 weeks and they are so full of life as you'll know Matt. The kicking, punching and turning around it does in there makes me happy, drives the wife nuts though Perfectly formed, they're just in there for the last 8-10 weeks gaining weight.
Was it a lack of movement that alerted you to this, or did your wife have other symptoms? This scares the helll out of me.
Can't even imagine how you're both feeling. Sorry to hear this.
I have a baby boy due in about 5 weeks and they are so full of life as you'll know Matt. The kicking, punching and turning around it does in there makes me happy, drives the wife nuts though
Perfectly formed, they're just in there for the last 8-10 weeks gaining weight.Was it a lack of movement that alerted you to this, or did your wife have other symptoms? This scares the helll out of me.
Can't even imagine how you're both feeling. Sorry to hear this.
