cookstar

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Have been told that that two months wages is the "accepted" amount a guy is expected to fork out on a ring.

Now I'm not after your own personal views on this, because no SNET user could possibly be that materialistic , just what you believe the norm to be.

Simon C

How about anything she likes, or you like?

Or the alternative, anything she gets given.



Mine got the boot!!!

cookstar

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lol, I certainly wouldn't buy something because it was expected, just interested as to what peoples views are

Lisawrx

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I personally think, get her something she will really like, hopefully you will have an idea of what that may be. As for the cost, it really shouldn't matter, so long as she loves it, it's not like you have to tell her how much you paid for it.

jods

1 carat, emerald cut, very slight inclusion, white.[certificated]

You just need to find the best price out there. £3-4 K would be my guess

Jay m A

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2 months pay? Blimey!

3 years ago when I did the deed it was generally accepted as 1 months takehome.

Thats inflation for you, I blame Labour. And Al Gore

Brendan Hughes

Vaguely entertained the thought of buying her a diamond of sorts, then saw Blood Diamond and some CBS documentary about making diamonds. It is phenomenal how much is marketing.

My wife chose her own engagement rings (yes, a pair), six years after we got married £100 for both, she knows exactly what they're made from, and she loves them

cookstar

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Blood diamond does keep coming up in my mind when I think about daimonds too

Lisawrx

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My engagement ring is not a diamond one, I picked it, so I'm perfectly happy, and it didn't cost a fortune. I'd rather money was spent elsewhere, as a rule.

T5OLF

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I got married 3 years ago and spent 1300 quid on a ring, on top of a wedding that cost approx 14k I think that was more than enough for your average guy in the street.

cookstar

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14k for a wedding, **** that. Think I will go abroad and do it, if she accepts that is Failing that I will go on my own

little-ginge

My engagment ring is a platinum solitare... it wasn't mega bucks but it wasn't cheap either.... it isn't all about the money though.. I could have a cheaper ring and would have still been happy, but we both liked the one we chose together..

cookstar

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That raises another question, is it better to suprise her with one and risk that its not her taste, or go together to choose one?

Dream Weaver

Anyone that reckons its worth spending thousands on a ring is talking crap, just buy the one she really likes rather than the one her mates will be in awe at.

Luckily my mrs knows the value of money and although the rings I have bought her this past few years haven't been cheap, they haven't been silly either and she has been very happy with them.

Although when we were married, her wedding ring cost £80 and mine was £560

little-ginge

Put it this way. We had been 'window shopping' for a while i.e me dragging him past the jewellers and going 'oo that ring is nice..'

I didn't think for a moment he would take any of it in - we went away on holiday and he proposed over there.. with the ring I had pointed out weeks earlier...

Not meaning to be a right bitch, i realised i didn't actually like it once it was out of the shop window - so the day we came home, we returned it, and chose one we both liked together..

Although for him to buy it and surprise me like that was lovely, it actually meant more to me that we ended up choosing it together.

cookstar

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I didn't think things like that were returnable, seems like a good plan that,

little-ginge

Goldsmiths were very understanding

Mew

thought that was a nice little speech then u went and ruined it with the costs of ur rings

how comes "hers" is £80 whereas urs is £560

Freak

Diamond on its own...then get a ring made up for it.
Could be significantly cheaper!

47th st/6th ave is diamond district in NY.. well worth the trip over there for the saving...

I proposed with a jelly ring once.
She ate it, then said no.

Adidas

Cookie,

Can't you give her the engine hoist instead??

Lee247

Cookie Do I need to be buying a hat

Mine is Sapphires and Diamonds. His is one diamond And we picked together

angrynorth

My fiance favoured the square "princess cut" set in a contemporary clasp and band. I really like that style as it still has the traditional engagement ring look but has a real contemporary look to it too. I would hope it will remain timeless.

I'm not a big fan of the stones that are set completely flush in the band, I think that they will look a bit dated in a few years.

All this 3 months of your pay packet is ****e. Just get the best one you can afford. A good tip is to find your local diamond merchants and get them to set it for you rather than buying high street. I got a 1ct grade E set in platinum at a fraction of the price I was looking at in a high street jewellers.

The best thing is most of the diamond merchants have access to the same design stock as the upmarket retailers so you can pretty much get anything you want.

You would expect at least a 25% discount over high street prices, perhaps more.

If you are in Manchester, there is a little Jewish place near Cheetham Hill that I can put you in touch with who do this sort of thing.

As for taste, I'm sure you will know if she is a contemporary person or traditional, that's the only distinction you need to make, once you know that you will be able to choose correctly without a problem.

HTH

Kit B

Just get whatever you can afford..
It's a load of p##h saying that it has to be an exact amount of wages...

Klaatu

Personally, I think the whol idea of these "engagement rings" are a load of crap! My now wife asked about it, and I put it to her simply like this; "We're now married, we have a band of gold each, had three ceremonies (Local customs), had several holiday trips, ate out several times, partied several times to celebrate, met and dined with many friends and relatives, purchsed new clothes and shoes, migrated to Australia and you STILL want another ring?"

gpssti4

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Don't forget marriage is about three rings; the engagement ring, the wedding ring and the suffering

Oh and spend somewhere between £300 and £800. That's more than enough to look the part and as they say "money can't buy you love".

davyboy

2 months!

No way would I spend 15k on a ring!

ChefDude

this is quite topical for me actually.

does anyone know hatton garden well enough to recommend a ring shop? - i'm after a 1 carat on platinum for around £5-6K

Abdabz

It's like all traditions, through the sands of time they get distorted.
The alleged tradition in the 20th Century at least was one months wages, although if you love each other it shouldnt matter if is one weeks wages...

Abdabz

I did the suprise thing, but then I have impecable taste The fact that I did the suprise thing meant a lot more to her than if I had done what other friends had done and planned the buying of the ring together.
I got soooo many brownie points

scoob_babe

Never heard of this tradition when we got engaged 9 years ago! Surely it should be whatever she likes - I've seen nicer rings in the high street than I have in Bulgari and Cartier.

PS he was a student at the time, so I guess my ring was wages * infinity seeing as he wasn't earning anything at the time!!!!!!!!!!!