If Someone Asks You If You're OK...
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If Someone Asks You If You're OK...
...is it rude / ignorant to not reciprocate ?
Its a little thing that nags me a bit, but if I ask someone if they are ok / allright, I would expect them to ask me back
Is it a manner thing ? Am I just too polite ?
Is it just me ?!
Its a little thing that nags me a bit, but if I ask someone if they are ok / allright, I would expect them to ask me back
Is it a manner thing ? Am I just too polite ?
Is it just me ?!
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For me its a lot to do with who I am asking, There are some people at work who if I ask they tell there life troubles, basically bring the whole tone of the office down.
I dont think its a question that many people ask and really want to know, Its just something you ask.
Its almost like when you ask people how there holiday was, you dont really care, you just ask.
I dont think its a question that many people ask and really want to know, Its just something you ask.
Its almost like when you ask people how there holiday was, you dont really care, you just ask.
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People tend to say it as we pass and I don't ask back I simply say "yeah good thanks" generally because I am going somewhere.
If I do say something its cause I am able to have the time.
If I do say something its cause I am able to have the time.
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funnily enough while i was at work today i was working in a corridor in the ceiling and guy was walking past who i had exchanged "mornings" with said "alright bud" and by the time i had got my "yeah not to bad and you?" out of my mouth he had walked around the corner of the corridor.
this bugged me for the rest of the day as he may have thought i was being ignorent
this bugged me for the rest of the day as he may have thought i was being ignorent
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I never ask how people are, the few people who I actually care how they are will have told me if they are better/worse than OK.
Asking just to make chitchat or not listening to responses is rude and ignorant.
At least I'm honest, I DGAF how you are so I'm not asking.
Asking just to make chitchat or not listening to responses is rude and ignorant.
At least I'm honest, I DGAF how you are so I'm not asking.
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As said, its become a greeting so sometimes I just casually say yeah thanks and leave it at that, if its a good friend and they ask me when Ive not seen them for a week I'll give them a honest answer and ask them back
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I agree about the comment on who is asking, for instance, if a cold caller rings me up and asks me how I am, I won't ask them back, because quite frankly I don't care !
However if an important caller (ie buyer) rings me up I'll ask them if they are "alright" as a bit of a greeting.
However if an important caller (ie buyer) rings me up I'll ask them if they are "alright" as a bit of a greeting.
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When someone says to me "how are you?" which is a pretty standard greeting, I either launch in to a very long story about all my woes or say fine & don't ask them back. Amazing how many people respond "yeah, I'm OK" even though I've not asked them!
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If its someone asking in person, rather than on the phone, I always find collapsing to your knees with your head in your hands, sobbing, and screaming 'no, its all going wrong' generally stops them asking again.
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i told one annoyingly chirpy woman that "no, my fathers just died" (he had been dead a while ) to see what reaction that had, and it was rather amusing
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Unfortunately it does look as though good manners is disappearing in many quarters these days.
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It irritates me when people answer these questions with
"not too bad" or "mustn't grumble" as though they've encountered an uncommonly good day and they are still reluctant to admit to it.
Such a negative attitude.
On purpose, my responses are always over the top with "Marvellous thanks! You?" or "Splendid thank you. How the devil are you?"
Of course, if you spoke to me randomly on the tube and I didn't know you I'd glare at you for being so rude as to talk to me on public transport.
btw, I'm from london
"not too bad" or "mustn't grumble" as though they've encountered an uncommonly good day and they are still reluctant to admit to it.
Such a negative attitude.
On purpose, my responses are always over the top with "Marvellous thanks! You?" or "Splendid thank you. How the devil are you?"
Of course, if you spoke to me randomly on the tube and I didn't know you I'd glare at you for being so rude as to talk to me on public transport.
btw, I'm from london
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A new Doctor I had never seen before asked me how I was as a greeting which made me laugh. I felt like saying "Yep doc, I'm on top of the world, never felt fitter, not sure why the hell I'm here to be honest. Cheerio!"
I don't always ask the question back. It depends how quickly I'm moving. I always think it looks very false, if you reply with the same question more than 10 feet away as I think it gives the impression you really couldn't give a toss more than if you don't ask.
I don't always ask the question back. It depends how quickly I'm moving. I always think it looks very false, if you reply with the same question more than 10 feet away as I think it gives the impression you really couldn't give a toss more than if you don't ask.
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