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As the saying goes; You can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family.
I totally despise my brother.
Mum and Dad now long gone... just me and him left, he's 44 and a complete and utter total waste to society and life in general, sponger, on benefits, alcoholic, left his partner, 2kids and dogs, doesn't give them a bean. He is a total embarassment to everyone around him.
I hate him, I fvcking hate him, and have done for a number of years.
(I have done an awful lot for him recently to try and help, his last words to me were "You fvcking cvnt")
I wish him dead, my wife wishes him dead, his ex-partner wishes him dead, my mother, who passed away recently, wanted him to die before her.
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I totally despise my brother.
Mum and Dad now long gone... just me and him left, he's 44 and a complete and utter total waste to society and life in general, sponger, on benefits, alcoholic, left his partner, 2kids and dogs, doesn't give them a bean. He is a total embarassment to everyone around him.
I hate him, I fvcking hate him, and have done for a number of years.
(I have done an awful lot for him recently to try and help, his last words to me were "You fvcking cvnt")
I wish him dead, my wife wishes him dead, his ex-partner wishes him dead, my mother, who passed away recently, wanted him to die before her.
Anyone else care to rant?
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arrrh,m thats ashame. I have an older brother, he's 2 years older, Im 37, he's 39, and he's my best mate. Always there, trust him 100%. Yes, we argue, shout and scream every now and then, but he's my bro and I love him.
I dont like his g/f though, pikey scum, but she has made two lovely children with him who I adore, but she, mmmmmmmmmmm die bitch die :-)
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I dont like his g/f though, pikey scum, but she has made two lovely children with him who I adore, but she, mmmmmmmmmmm die bitch die :-)
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For years I thought, he'll wake up one day, realise what he's losing and try to find the life he had. Not now, he's sub-human.
Just wondered if I was alone.
Just wondered if I was alone.
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It's a pity that you feel that way: YOU can't change him, only he can do that, and there is no mileage whatsover in trying.
All you can do is continue to be the best person you know how, don't get stressed over him, and let him do as he pleases. It's his life, if he wants to waste it, then so be it.
Any other way lies upset for you and yours.
All you can do is continue to be the best person you know how, don't get stressed over him, and let him do as he pleases. It's his life, if he wants to waste it, then so be it.
Any other way lies upset for you and yours.
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Start of rant - I am loosing myself amongst the play food and duplo and slowly see my adult self vanishing in the distance. I took a wrong turn on the way back from the school run one day, and seem to have been lost somewhere that adults no longer exist. I wish I had a job to get away from it all and just be a woman and not JUST a mum, just for a short period of time. Also it would be nice to know that someone understood it was more than just an 'off day'. It's been months of feeling the same, and I am begining to feel stale. - End of rant.
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Start of rant - I am loosing myself amongst the play food and duplo and slowly see my adult self vanishing in the distance. I took a wrong turn on the way back from the school run one day, and seem to have been lost somewhere that adults no longer exist. I wish I had a job to get away from it all and just be a woman and not JUST a mum, just for a short period of time. Also it would be nice to know that someone understood it was more than just an 'off day'. It's been months of feeling the same, and I am begining to feel stale. - End of rant.
You carried them under your heart for 9 months, and gave them the life they now have. They can never repay that, not ever.
Make the most of this time, before you know where you are, the child will be grown, and will no longer need you..........THEN see how you feel
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Now that IS sad...........there is no such thing as "JUST a mum: you are someone's world, their keeper, their friend, their mentor, their every provider.
You carried them under your heart for 9 months, and gave them the life they now have. They can never repay that, not ever.
Make the most of this time, before you know where you are, the child will be grown, and will no longer need you..........THEN see how you feel
You carried them under your heart for 9 months, and gave them the life they now have. They can never repay that, not ever.
Make the most of this time, before you know where you are, the child will be grown, and will no longer need you..........THEN see how you feel
Hysteria, can you not get a part time job? Just to give you a bit adult company, and give you a bit variety.
Ah, that's sad, like TT says, we'll be your family.
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Its very true that you can't pick you family, i very rarely speak to mine. Haven't spoke to my dad in 5years or so, avoid my mum when possible as she financially screwed me when i tried to help her thru a few tough times. Some of my uncles are idiots others are aging terrorists and my aunt is too posh to bother with her blood relatives. The only one i would speak on a regular basis would be my older sister (i've 4 in total) as she has just about grown out of being a complete clown.
As for friends i have 1 or 2 but i have many aquaintances.
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Its very true that you can't pick you family, i very rarely speak to mine. Haven't spoke to my dad in 5years or so, avoid my mum when possible as she financially screwed me when i tried to help her thru a few tough times. Some of my uncles are idiots others are aging terrorists and my aunt is too posh to bother with her blood relatives. The only one i would speak on a regular basis would be my older sister (i've 4 in total) as she has just about grown out of being a complete clown.
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Remember that this fellow no matter what is your family though and you only get one family so be careful what you wish for. Sometimes the best help you can give is actually none at all. It does hurt at times though and i question my relation with my father as I do feel like i am missing out as you probably do too with your bother but thats life mate.
Taking advice over family matters from someone who almost organised getting his father run over might not be the best idea though
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Read all families are psychotic by Douglas coupland, Its a fiction but its strangely accurate with its characters references. Its a "everyone knows one of them" book.
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Thanks guys, I cannot get a job at the moment, as I have two children who i would need to pay childcare for, and those of us who use childcare know what a premium we have to pay for the service.
Don't get me wrong, I do not resent my children, I just feel sad that the world seems to slide on by and I am feeling a bit cast aside.
What made me feel this way was going out on the weekend and seeing all our happy go lucky friends all footloose and fancy free. It hit me that I have two children.
I would never ever change them or my situation for the world. I just envy those who are out i the real world and having their brain challenged by something more than what sort if art activity shall we do this pm, painting or playdoh? lol.
I am usually really positive when it comes to my family and my children, and I love bein a full time mum 95% of the time, but I suppose I am i the 5% at the moment and feeling low.
Don't get me wrong, I do not resent my children, I just feel sad that the world seems to slide on by and I am feeling a bit cast aside.
What made me feel this way was going out on the weekend and seeing all our happy go lucky friends all footloose and fancy free. It hit me that I have two children.
I would never ever change them or my situation for the world. I just envy those who are out i the real world and having their brain challenged by something more than what sort if art activity shall we do this pm, painting or playdoh? lol.
I am usually really positive when it comes to my family and my children, and I love bein a full time mum 95% of the time, but I suppose I am i the 5% at the moment and feeling low.
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Families can be a PITA. I have a sister who I fondly refer to as Waynette
4-Kids, smokes, drinks, shes started an apprenticeship as a painter and decorator at the age of 35. She cost her husband his career and he stayed with her. Screwed my parents out of several grand by asking them to go guarantor on a mortgage and then announcing she couldn't afford the repayments but the grandkids needed a home. Three years later, having had my Uncle who had retired because of Parkinsons renovate her house (he was a general contractor)for free, worked out the house had increased in value by about £40k so remortgaged, didn't give my uncle a bean or repay my parents, but bought the widescreen telly, full sky package etc.
The irony is that she doesn't realise that my parents aren't as stupid as she thinks and have written her out of her will to the tune of everything she conned them out of. My other sister, who is a lawyer wrote the will
It may annoy you, but ATEOTD, what goes around comes around
4-Kids, smokes, drinks, shes started an apprenticeship as a painter and decorator at the age of 35. She cost her husband his career and he stayed with her. Screwed my parents out of several grand by asking them to go guarantor on a mortgage and then announcing she couldn't afford the repayments but the grandkids needed a home. Three years later, having had my Uncle who had retired because of Parkinsons renovate her house (he was a general contractor)for free, worked out the house had increased in value by about £40k so remortgaged, didn't give my uncle a bean or repay my parents, but bought the widescreen telly, full sky package etc.
The irony is that she doesn't realise that my parents aren't as stupid as she thinks and have written her out of her will to the tune of everything she conned them out of. My other sister, who is a lawyer wrote the will
It may annoy you, but ATEOTD, what goes around comes around
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Your brother sounds exactly my half brother. I lent him my run around once after he fed me some sob story about wanting to see his kids, and that was the last I saw of him for a week until he came home one day minus the car
When I asked where it was he told me it had run out of petrol 11 miles away and handed me the keys, finally found the car unlocked, full of *** ends and other rubbish on some dodgy estate
When I asked where it was he told me it had run out of petrol 11 miles away and handed me the keys, finally found the car unlocked, full of *** ends and other rubbish on some dodgy estate
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My bro, king of the cvnts... FTW!
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Families are screwed up:
Grandad: Control freak wife beater (and a racist), died from misdiagnosed kidney failure (technically a good thing)
Grandma: Alcoholic (see above for why), died from complications of it.
Other Grandad: Died from smoking (actually quad heart bypass due to smoking)
Other Gran; Still smoking, no money, large debts and basic pension
Aunty; massive debts due to ex husband p*ssing it away, leached all money off Gran (thus her debts), then did a runner.
Other Aunty; Diagnosed with throat cancer; lost their Son several years ago (sudden heart attack); leaving them to bring up their granddaughter who has Down's.
Uncle; Wife flipped her lid, they divorced, she became alcoholic and died as a result. Now has another wife; massive debts. He struggles to work due to RSi injuries in his arms and tendon damage. Suffers heart problems, and ulcers and hernias; Still drinks.
Other Uncle; Lumbered with a suicidal physco missus, who he can't get rid for fear of her topping herself (her brother has already topped himself).
Dad: Alcoholic, died as a result of it affecting his health
Mum: Oeteoporosis; 4 fractures in her neck and back (so far). Not supposed to be working due to health; works insurance co and health policies both wriggled their way out of any payments or settlements. Works 12 hours a day. Also the family door mat for everyone else's problems.
Me? I'm the normal one
Grandad: Control freak wife beater (and a racist), died from misdiagnosed kidney failure (technically a good thing)
Grandma: Alcoholic (see above for why), died from complications of it.
Other Grandad: Died from smoking (actually quad heart bypass due to smoking)
Other Gran; Still smoking, no money, large debts and basic pension
Aunty; massive debts due to ex husband p*ssing it away, leached all money off Gran (thus her debts), then did a runner.
Other Aunty; Diagnosed with throat cancer; lost their Son several years ago (sudden heart attack); leaving them to bring up their granddaughter who has Down's.
Uncle; Wife flipped her lid, they divorced, she became alcoholic and died as a result. Now has another wife; massive debts. He struggles to work due to RSi injuries in his arms and tendon damage. Suffers heart problems, and ulcers and hernias; Still drinks.
Other Uncle; Lumbered with a suicidal physco missus, who he can't get rid for fear of her topping herself (her brother has already topped himself).
Dad: Alcoholic, died as a result of it affecting his health
Mum: Oeteoporosis; 4 fractures in her neck and back (so far). Not supposed to be working due to health; works insurance co and health policies both wriggled their way out of any payments or settlements. Works 12 hours a day. Also the family door mat for everyone else's problems.
Me? I'm the normal one
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And your dad a total bender, at least mine does the effort
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