Unbelievable email from my brother to mum
27 December 2009, 02:58 PM
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Unbelievable email from my brother to mum
My brother sent this to our mum,i cant quite believe he could do this although its not out of character as he disowned me 11 years ago for not putting enough effort into selling a skyline he imported,cut me out the deal and after a couple of years of others trying to sell it,TELLS me i need to shift it for him!
Story is he moved to japan about 11 years ago and came back once 10 years ago and has not attended any grandparents funerals either even when he lived down south as he was too busy.
Sorry about the long read,what do you reckon
After the last mail from Pauline I duly checked my account to see if your
>> gift had arrived safely. However, the amount deposited seems a bit odd and
>> I am rather confused.
>>
>> As Dad will no doubt remember, we discussed this matter in India and I
>> assumed it was going to be settled once he returned home, clearly it
>> hasn't.
>>
>> To put things plainly, this year marks the eleventh year I have been in
>> Japan. That means had I been in England I would have received eleven years
>> of Christmas gifts, as far as I recollect I have received two. In addition
>> to that I am assuming you buy something for both Lisa and Andy, however,
>> Chiaki and Mami have never received anything. As I mentioned before, when
>> I
>> spoke to Dad on the telephone last year on Christmas day, he said he was
>> going to put something in my account - which he didn't. So, my question is
>> what does the 300GBP you deposited represent? because I can't fathom it.
>> Is
>> it only for 2009? or is there the 'forgotten' 2008 part in there too? and
>> Mami's part, or only mine? It really doesn't seem to add up, it's simply
>> too insufficient.
>>
>> In addition to that, there is the birthday issue. Dad said that both
>> Melanie and Paul get nothing for their birthday, not even a meal? only
>> their fortieth. Assuming that to be true what about their children? I am
>> assuming the children get both Christmas and birthday presents plus other
>> expenditure. However, I have no children yet, so I wonder how that works
>> out. Do H&C get twice as much as Adam? or half as much each? and what
>> about
>> if I have children? Are you keeping all this expenditure written down so
>> that exactly the same can be spent? If not it seems very unfair indeed. I
>> mean if I had ten children would they get ten times as much as Adam who is
>> an only child? It just doesn't make much sense to me.
>>
>> To bring it back to the deposit. Which part of that 300 was for our
>> wedding
>> present? Again it just doesn't add up, it's simply not enough, however you
>> try and divide it. I opened the wedding card because I though you had put
>> a
>> separate cheque in there, but nothing. Clearly three-hundred pounds is
>> totally insufficient to address the Christmas present disparity (and
>> possible the birthday too), and if you then minus from it a wedding
>> present, you are literally talking pennies. Clearly it is insultingly and
>> embarrassingly stingy, I have no idea what you could be thinking of.
>>
>> As I mentioned before. When Sharon and I got married we received a measly
>> 100GBP for a night in a hotel and nothing else. When Melanie got married I
>> wonder how much was paid out, and Paul too, he had a big wedding, how come
>> it is only me that seems to be getting nothing? Chiaki and I received
>> nothing either.
>>
>> From my perspective we have always made an effort to you, that is until we
>> got so fed up of sending you stuff and not getting so much as a thank-you
>> in return - hence we gave up. After India I thought to start again making
>> an effort with Mother's Day and Father's Day, but again, not so much as a
>> thank-you - a total waste of time and money.
>>
>> You have also never made any efforts to either sustain any kind of
>> relationship. Pauline said she couldn't buy anything for us because she
>> didn't know about our life here, I found that sadly ironic. People find it
>> very hard to believe that you have never been to Japan, of course there
>> has
>> been so much water under the bridge that I no longer have the interest or
>> inclination to host you here. Had you behaved much more like responsible
>> parents I would welcome you, but not now, not any more.
>>
>> I don't expect you will see my point, clearly we are viewing things from
>> different angles, I do know, though, that you are sadly the meanest people
>> I have ever met. It used to be a joke about the ************ being mean, but
>> second to selfish, I think meanness is the most repugnant of all human
>> characteristics and certainly nothing to be joked about or praised.
>> Thankfully I have not inherited that personal trait, and thankfully no-one
>> amongst my friends displays that either.
>>
>> Before writing this I discussed you and this situation with both some of
>> my
>> high-level students and an Indian colleague so I could get some other
>> opinions. My students were shocked and horrified at your neglectful
>> behaviour and lack of responsibility which goes totally against the
>> principles we live by here in Japan. And my Indian colleague was likewise
>> stunned because she couldn't understand what the point of accruing a lot
>> of financial wealth is if you lose your family in return. How apt to be
>> talking of Scrooge at Christmas.
>>
>> My thinking now is to get my stuff from your attic, get my childhood
>> photos
>> and be done with you. Whether or not I come over and arrange it myself or
>> have someone else arrange it on my behalf, I have yet to decide. But I
>> think it is really the best way to end things once and for all. That way I
>> won't feel this eternal conflict with you and you can be rid of me - which
>> seems to be what you have been aiming at.
>>
Story is he moved to japan about 11 years ago and came back once 10 years ago and has not attended any grandparents funerals either even when he lived down south as he was too busy.
Sorry about the long read,what do you reckon
After the last mail from Pauline I duly checked my account to see if your
>> gift had arrived safely. However, the amount deposited seems a bit odd and
>> I am rather confused.
>>
>> As Dad will no doubt remember, we discussed this matter in India and I
>> assumed it was going to be settled once he returned home, clearly it
>> hasn't.
>>
>> To put things plainly, this year marks the eleventh year I have been in
>> Japan. That means had I been in England I would have received eleven years
>> of Christmas gifts, as far as I recollect I have received two. In addition
>> to that I am assuming you buy something for both Lisa and Andy, however,
>> Chiaki and Mami have never received anything. As I mentioned before, when
>> I
>> spoke to Dad on the telephone last year on Christmas day, he said he was
>> going to put something in my account - which he didn't. So, my question is
>> what does the 300GBP you deposited represent? because I can't fathom it.
>> Is
>> it only for 2009? or is there the 'forgotten' 2008 part in there too? and
>> Mami's part, or only mine? It really doesn't seem to add up, it's simply
>> too insufficient.
>>
>> In addition to that, there is the birthday issue. Dad said that both
>> Melanie and Paul get nothing for their birthday, not even a meal? only
>> their fortieth. Assuming that to be true what about their children? I am
>> assuming the children get both Christmas and birthday presents plus other
>> expenditure. However, I have no children yet, so I wonder how that works
>> out. Do H&C get twice as much as Adam? or half as much each? and what
>> about
>> if I have children? Are you keeping all this expenditure written down so
>> that exactly the same can be spent? If not it seems very unfair indeed. I
>> mean if I had ten children would they get ten times as much as Adam who is
>> an only child? It just doesn't make much sense to me.
>>
>> To bring it back to the deposit. Which part of that 300 was for our
>> wedding
>> present? Again it just doesn't add up, it's simply not enough, however you
>> try and divide it. I opened the wedding card because I though you had put
>> a
>> separate cheque in there, but nothing. Clearly three-hundred pounds is
>> totally insufficient to address the Christmas present disparity (and
>> possible the birthday too), and if you then minus from it a wedding
>> present, you are literally talking pennies. Clearly it is insultingly and
>> embarrassingly stingy, I have no idea what you could be thinking of.
>>
>> As I mentioned before. When Sharon and I got married we received a measly
>> 100GBP for a night in a hotel and nothing else. When Melanie got married I
>> wonder how much was paid out, and Paul too, he had a big wedding, how come
>> it is only me that seems to be getting nothing? Chiaki and I received
>> nothing either.
>>
>> From my perspective we have always made an effort to you, that is until we
>> got so fed up of sending you stuff and not getting so much as a thank-you
>> in return - hence we gave up. After India I thought to start again making
>> an effort with Mother's Day and Father's Day, but again, not so much as a
>> thank-you - a total waste of time and money.
>>
>> You have also never made any efforts to either sustain any kind of
>> relationship. Pauline said she couldn't buy anything for us because she
>> didn't know about our life here, I found that sadly ironic. People find it
>> very hard to believe that you have never been to Japan, of course there
>> has
>> been so much water under the bridge that I no longer have the interest or
>> inclination to host you here. Had you behaved much more like responsible
>> parents I would welcome you, but not now, not any more.
>>
>> I don't expect you will see my point, clearly we are viewing things from
>> different angles, I do know, though, that you are sadly the meanest people
>> I have ever met. It used to be a joke about the ************ being mean, but
>> second to selfish, I think meanness is the most repugnant of all human
>> characteristics and certainly nothing to be joked about or praised.
>> Thankfully I have not inherited that personal trait, and thankfully no-one
>> amongst my friends displays that either.
>>
>> Before writing this I discussed you and this situation with both some of
>> my
>> high-level students and an Indian colleague so I could get some other
>> opinions. My students were shocked and horrified at your neglectful
>> behaviour and lack of responsibility which goes totally against the
>> principles we live by here in Japan. And my Indian colleague was likewise
>> stunned because she couldn't understand what the point of accruing a lot
>> of financial wealth is if you lose your family in return. How apt to be
>> talking of Scrooge at Christmas.
>>
>> My thinking now is to get my stuff from your attic, get my childhood
>> photos
>> and be done with you. Whether or not I come over and arrange it myself or
>> have someone else arrange it on my behalf, I have yet to decide. But I
>> think it is really the best way to end things once and for all. That way I
>> won't feel this eternal conflict with you and you can be rid of me - which
>> seems to be what you have been aiming at.
>>
27 December 2009, 03:14 PM
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after reading that i have come to the conclusion he is a bit of a tw@t to be fair better off out of your lives, you cant move to japan and expect to be treated like you live around the corner.
27 December 2009, 03:23 PM
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What a complete c*nt!! Book a flight out to where he is and slap the **** silly. And tell him there is more to family relationship than gifts and money!!!
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Nope, what he needs is a damn good slap and told to grow up! 
Paul, I know he's your brother so apologies for saying this but the guy sounds like an a-grade c**t. Reckon I'd be inclined to reply on behalf of your folks n tell him he's behaving like a child and to F**k Off .... that n tell him he was adopted which is why he isn't loved
Paul, I know he's your brother so apologies for saying this but the guy sounds like an a-grade c**t. Reckon I'd be inclined to reply on behalf of your folks n tell him he's behaving like a child and to F**k Off .... that n tell him he was adopted which is why he isn't loved
27 December 2009, 04:11 PM
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His logic seems somewhat of a Japanese business: Gifts or the value and size of them is the token of the love/appreciation you show for someone. Whereas here; it just shows you care. Regardless of value or size. And its to be thankful to get something, if anything. And its a two way thing; you can't expect back what you don't give out.
Translated: He's a ****.
Families, eh?
I'm having my fair share this year:
At the family business's works function My uncle upset the other one about his tempramental missus (understatement), as such one walks out and thats it, the business is finished. We're winding it up in the new year (will he b*****ks ).
Today we've just had a text from my aunty, saying my other uncle is a ****, she's had enough and is leaving him.
My Gran refused to leave her house on Christmas day, despite making arrangements and having open invitations to any of our families houses. Yet on boxing day she turns round and says nobody ever sees her (bull - there is someone there every other day of the week ). And hates to be stuck in her dull and secluded flat (I just spent £15K on renovations last summer, and my one uncle lives in a flat downstairs, and my cousin lives 5 doors down).
Family mate drank too much at his works do and fell over - badly brusing his shoulder. He's not taking too kindly to people slapping him on the back to greet him.
My mum's partner drank too much on Christmas day, let the dog out (5mins after I just brought him back in), and slipped over on the ice, and spent 5mins rolling in agony after twisting his leg (half an hour he claimed) and nobody came to help him (I only came outside after hearing the dog bark and wondering how the hell he got outside again).
Spent yesturday stuck in bed in agony.
I get a new watch from my mum as a gift, which I find hideous. And since googling have found its a bloody expensive (£1K+ ) one, and I just haven't got the heart to tell her that I don't like it, and wouldn't wear it due to its value, as I bash watches to hell and back and beyond, a dressy automatic isn't going to last ten minutes with me (I'm praying it'll stop working - its an automatic, so there is hope ).
Meanwhile I put up a TV bracket for my Grans new 24" TV (in the bedroom), no doubt I'll get a phone call saying its too high/low/left/right/not level/doesn't like it/can I get rid of the wires.
Later I'm going out for a meal with some mates - one who has freshly imported a bride from Eastern Europe. I don't know if he knows if its a genuine relationship or not (in his eyes or hers, doubt the latter). Awkward is an understatment, even more awkward if I get asked to be best man (which I dread, might happen tonight).
Just another normal Christmas then
Families/Friends eh, who'd 'av em?
Translated: He's a ****.
Families, eh?
I'm having my fair share this year:
At the family business's works function My uncle upset the other one about his tempramental missus (understatement), as such one walks out and thats it, the business is finished. We're winding it up in the new year (will he b*****ks ).
Today we've just had a text from my aunty, saying my other uncle is a ****, she's had enough and is leaving him.
My Gran refused to leave her house on Christmas day, despite making arrangements and having open invitations to any of our families houses. Yet on boxing day she turns round and says nobody ever sees her (bull - there is someone there every other day of the week ). And hates to be stuck in her dull and secluded flat (I just spent £15K on renovations last summer, and my one uncle lives in a flat downstairs, and my cousin lives 5 doors down).
Family mate drank too much at his works do and fell over - badly brusing his shoulder. He's not taking too kindly to people slapping him on the back to greet him.
My mum's partner drank too much on Christmas day, let the dog out (5mins after I just brought him back in), and slipped over on the ice, and spent 5mins rolling in agony after twisting his leg (half an hour he claimed) and nobody came to help him (I only came outside after hearing the dog bark and wondering how the hell he got outside again).
Spent yesturday stuck in bed in agony.I get a new watch from my mum as a gift, which I find hideous. And since googling have found its a bloody expensive (£1K+ ) one, and I just haven't got the heart to tell her that I don't like it, and wouldn't wear it due to its value, as I bash watches to hell and back and beyond, a dressy automatic isn't going to last ten minutes with me (I'm praying it'll stop working - its an automatic, so there is hope
).Meanwhile I put up a TV bracket for my Grans new 24" TV (in the bedroom), no doubt I'll get a phone call saying its too high/low/left/right/not level/doesn't like it/can I get rid of the wires.
Later I'm going out for a meal with some mates - one who has freshly imported a bride from Eastern Europe. I don't know if he knows if its a genuine relationship or not (in his eyes or hers, doubt the latter). Awkward is an understatment, even more awkward if I get asked to be best man (which I dread, might happen tonight).
Just another normal Christmas then
Families/Friends eh, who'd 'av em?
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Cheers for the replies guys and dont worry what you said because i also think hes a **** that needs to learn some respect,even though he thinks what he does he should think about what he actually writes before sending.
This guy is 40 btw,i remember as a child the old dear in tears on christmas day because he thought he did'nt get enough presents and we always got too much anyway.
I still cant believe he actually sent that, anyway he'll hopefully be written out of any wills now
This guy is 40 btw,i remember as a child the old dear in tears on christmas day because he thought he did'nt get enough presents and we always got too much anyway.
I still cant believe he actually sent that, anyway he'll hopefully be written out of any wills now
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Chap sounds like an ungrateful bugger, and is in need of being told exactly where he stands, and that if he cannot grow up then the family will be far better off without him.
He obviously things he's entitled to some kind of back-pay in regards to presents, and it has to be a monetary value.
By any chance did he give the impression that he's something big/special in Japan, that he's way better, and better off than others in the family. If so then I suspect he isn't such a big shot as he makes out, that he is just getting along and needs something extra and thinks the family will feel guilty and just pay out, and no doubt he'll try it on again and again.
He obviously things he's entitled to some kind of back-pay in regards to presents, and it has to be a monetary value.
By any chance did he give the impression that he's something big/special in Japan, that he's way better, and better off than others in the family. If so then I suspect he isn't such a big shot as he makes out, that he is just getting along and needs something extra and thinks the family will feel guilty and just pay out, and no doubt he'll try it on again and again.
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Cheers for the replies guys and dont worry what you said because i also think hes a **** that needs to learn some respect,even though he thinks what he does he should think about what he actually writes before sending.
This guy is 40 btw,i remember as a child the old dear in tears on christmas day because he thought he did'nt get enough presents and we always got too much anyway.
I still cant believe he actually sent that, anyway he'll hopefully be written out of any wills now
This guy is 40 btw,i remember as a child the old dear in tears on christmas day because he thought he did'nt get enough presents and we always got too much anyway.
I still cant believe he actually sent that, anyway he'll hopefully be written out of any wills now
Honestly, who the f.uck doe's this guy think he is anyway?
27 December 2009, 04:37 PM
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I'd also reply on your mum's behalf and tell him that his 11 year absence caused enough upset for your mum and his mail demanding gifts and money is the proverbial straw to break the camels back. Any more demands and the police will be contacted as it's tantamount to extortion and blackmail!!
Then tell him to go and boil his head!
Merry Xmas.
Then tell him to go and boil his head!
Merry Xmas.
27 December 2009, 04:38 PM
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**** me!! what a sh1thead. If I was on the receiving end of something like that from a kid of mine I would write them out of the will and tell them to **** right off. I'd also send them an invoice for all the costs of bringing them up from the day of birth until the day they left the family home.
27 December 2009, 04:42 PM
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Get your folks to send him this in an email.
最上位のtw.at今出ていき、放っておく家族をである。
*sorry dude, the guy sounds like he needs a dry slap.
最上位のtw.at今出ていき、放っておく家族をである。
*sorry dude, the guy sounds like he needs a dry slap.
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Tell him your dad's gone bankrupt so all the family are chipping in to help.
Could he help out please?
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PS. Whatever you or your mum do do NOT send him a lengthy reply. Just say many thanks for his Christmas wishes.
Could he help out please?
dl
PS. Whatever you or your mum do do NOT send him a lengthy reply. Just say many thanks for his Christmas wishes.
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Good idea Dunk as she does get upset by it and he sent a strange email to her a few years ago that upset her.
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Also forgot to put i suspect hes pretty well off anyway as he was maxed out in premium bonds when in his 30's,still owes me cash from skyline deal and funeral flowers from years back.
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or nip round to your folk's get all his stuff into a cradboard box then set fire to it, but remember to take a picture of it burning and send it to him in an email with the title merry xmas to you too!
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I should go and get his smurf collection out the loft and get it on ebay for him then mail him.
He sent his first japenese wife over to england many years ago to sort some stuff out in the loft from his arts degree,he told her by email to find a specific folder of a certain colour,this was nowhere to be seen and after many abusive emails to her(i had access to the account,sorry) she explained she had found one similar in a different color,his reply was something like yeah i remember now changing the colour,why the **** did'nt find that one sooner!
He mailed her everyday with a list of jobs and people to meet and sort out with the folks taking her everywhere and helping as she was in england for the first time.needless to say they are now divorced.
He sent his first japenese wife over to england many years ago to sort some stuff out in the loft from his arts degree,he told her by email to find a specific folder of a certain colour,this was nowhere to be seen and after many abusive emails to her(i had access to the account,sorry) she explained she had found one similar in a different color,his reply was something like yeah i remember now changing the colour,why the **** did'nt find that one sooner!
He mailed her everyday with a list of jobs and people to meet and sort out with the folks taking her everywhere and helping as she was in england for the first time.needless to say they are now divorced.
