how do i know if i have PM's on or not?????????????

 

You get a notification in the top right corner

 

sent

 

thanks got and replyed

 

As above.

Or it can be set to email you, or open a pop up window:

UserCP-->Edit Options-->Messaging & Notification-->Private Messaging

There you have two tick boxes for:

"Receive Email Notification of New Private Messages" and
"Show New Private Message Notification Pop-up"

Tick whatever you feel is needed, and then scroll to the very bottom of the page and click "save changes"

 

Thanks guys they work just fine now